Repetitive questions

"I want to show you something......" And my wife goes to her 20-pound purse and pulls out $20 dollars of quarter and 20 Susan B Anthony coins. "I think we should see what these are worth."

Everyday. Sometimes twice a day. I say, "We will go to a coin dealer tomorrow and see what they are worth, ok?" She says, "That sounds like a good idea." Part of the frustration is that I have forgotten how to raise a child since I haven't done it for 35-years.

Hugs back to you. My guy is still pretty normal (you know, the 'sorta' normal we all experience when this starts. ) You are having a lot of tough challenges. Wish we weren't headed there but in time we will be. We as the observers and caregivers have to grit our teeth and dance with the devil. I've had to do a lot of changing as I face this down. Sarcasm? Can't use that any more.

We don't have kids but you're right, I've got one now.

As I continue to read your posts, I say “wow! That’s us”. Shame on me for not realizing locating or noticing things was a part of this disease. For years, I joked I had “job security” because my husband couldn’t find things…but lately it is things that are RIGHT THERE! It isn’t funny anymore. Bless you.

Exactly! My husband and I have been married 51 years this month. We always traded sarcasm. Not any more. As your husband is, he is still “mostly himself” until he isn’t. And then he will say something like “I’m sorry I offended you…” so I need to keep that first and foremost in my mind before opening my mouth. I also find I don’t need to share details or he gets fixated on something that doesn’t really matter. But thankfully, still “mostly himself”. Right now, he’s off to pick up our grandchild to take her somewhere. Thankfully, my son will ride along to be sure she gets where she is supposed to. He’s an excellent driver and is happy to help. The day he can’t drive for getting lost etc, he will be truly devastated.

My husband is iixated in upcoming appointments or get together with friends. I make up a calendar and stick it on the fridge and email him a copy. It helps but doesn't stop the repetitive questions about what we're doing next. He's also become a mansplainer. I can no longer drop a comment about something. He then launches into telling me everything he knows about the minor comment I made. He can't be stopped. It's like a cork has popped. Tiresome but probably makes him feel better about his grasp on things.

To all, my heart goes out to you all. I have learned from each.
Re: repetitive questions - I try to answer patiently. While driving it's difficult. Just recently I asked my husband with Alzheimers to say a prayer, then another. We arrived at our destination, both less frustrated. Will try this at home, not only while driving. I know it's hard for him, trying to understand, to please, but feeling inadequate. Knowing this doesn't always help me to be the compassionate person I'd like to be.

Re: fixation with upcoming appointments, events , etc :
I make a big calendar ( weekly planner sheets from $ store )
He checks this many, many times a day, but still asks "What time do we leave ? " "How will we get there ? " " Why are we going to that doctor ? "
I answer each time but I pray for patience .
This site makes me feel better, knowing I’m not alone.

Right there with you. I'm trying to channel the patience I had with our children.

Same here. I use a very large white board and write each day's date and year and any appointments, and include what time we are leaving the house (since he'll ask about that several times). I use different colors to differentiate dates and times from activities to help him focus and not get distracted by too much info. I am using the tricks I learned as a teacher.