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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)
Anyone out there think that this is a good idea? Some people are just too ill to have sex and if they are married, obviously their mates suffer. What do you think? Are there solutions to this problem or is it such a hush-hush topic that nobody wants to discuss it. I'd sure like to know whether or not a long term sexless marriage exists and if it can be a happy one.
Thanks for considering my questions and feel free to anonymously respond, if that is your desire.
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Well dear that's the beauty of life and us all being different. You are entitled to your own opinion ...again it's all about peace..whatever you and your mate do to both have peace is all that matters..I wish you and your mate(s) years and years of wonderful fulfilling sex to your heart's content 🙂
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1 ReactionWithout sexual contact of some type many a good marriage and relationship has failed and turned into resentment on both parties sides. Yes our bodies change as we age, yes blue pills , implants allowed men to keep those youthful desires alive longer. While the woman may feel over the sexual part in her life there are many ways to have a physical relationship without it being intercourse all the time.
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2 ReactionsI agree with Scott, sex is not overrated in the least. We are 73 and 72 and you bet sex is part of our happy life. If you’ve found peace with being single and are happy on your own that’s fine, for you. To each their own!
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2 ReactionsI was in hospital for 4 mths. last year. I was hours away from home so my wife could not visit me. I called her of my discharge and I was coming home soon. I was 74 and she was 71. I did not know that my wife had incontinence issues at the time as I have. and when I mentioned sex she said OH No!! that those days were over. I felt devastated hurt. I mentioned my problem to my favorite nurse who has many years of experience. She said some women reach a time in their life when they lose all interest in intimate feelings though she still loves her mate. We have been married for 55 years and knew that we would have no more relations. I developed impotency due to medication so that helps some. But the closeness is not the same. no matter how much I try to get really close to her response is the same I have to ask her for a kiss. I get upset with minor things too often and that only makes things worse. Has anyone else had similar problems?
Thank You. That was a wonderful response. Thank You for caring.
I will never leave Her. I think of the past and how things were so great. We were married young I was 19 and she was 17. had two children and had very many happy years . I had mental issues for 15 years and was unaware of my illness so.it was hard for her to cope. If one of us flies off the handle I always tell her I am sorry. It is not the other way around. I always said we are like a tree if the the branches fail to bend they break. I still believe that to this day and it still works for me. Oh! for the good old days. I will love her for eternity.
@rheal I think it’s great that you’re sticking by your lady and I suggest therapy for both of you. You guys were married at a young age and only know what you know since you’ve been together so long and never experienced anyone else. Your views on sex are limited by your experiences or lack of them. Please don’t give up there is hope.
How do you do it??? I've been married 25yrs. He has RA and ge us having problems down there
I Want it So Bad..... what do I do??? JUST get a toy???
A lot of interesting comments on this topic. My wife and I have enjoyed a good sex life for many years, up until the past three years. For some reason I developed ED and very low libido. I just went with the flow and we went without sexual contact. I was missing the intimacy with her a great deal. She is not one to talk about these things(raised in a very conservative family). A month or so ago, I bought her a somewhat modest button down sleep shirt in a flattering color. I told her that even though I can't perform to any real degree, I would certainly enjoy a closer contact occasionally. The first time she was ready, she put on the shirt, used a little perfume, and after turning down the lights a bit, we began to caress each other and cuddle. Kissing and exploring led to me giving her manual stimulation with some lubricant. I was enjoying her "fruits". I eventually developed a modest erection. I was able to bring her to a nice climax. I was not able to do so, but enjoyed the whole experience thoroughly,
So, now, when she wears that special night shirt, I know what to expect...three or four times a month we will enjoy each other in the best way possible. I hope this will help some of you out there.
Willing partner is one of the key words in any relationship ..