ROSEMARY: What brought you to Mayo Clinic Connect?
@jc76: I do not remember specifically how it occurred. I have been a patient at Mayo Clinic Jacksonville since 2006. When I was diagnosed with prostate cancer in January 2023, I think Mayo Clinic Jacksonville reached out to me about attending a seminar on prostate cancer. At that seminar I believe Mayo Clinic Connect came up.
ROSEMARY: What motivates you to take part in the community?
@jc76: When I joined Mayo Clinic Connect, I immediately found others from all over the U.S. and Canada with the same questions and concerns about medical conditions.
Mayo Clinic Connect offered a vast amount of experience and knowledge from others. As I progressed through my diagnosis, treatment and recovery, I found I could add to the discussions.
ROSEMARY: What about Mayo Clinic Connect makes you feel comfortable to share and to be open with the community?
@jc76: I am an introvert. I was in law enforcement for 32 years. I ended my career as a FEMA Special Agent/Security Specialist deputized as a Special Deputy U.S. Marshal. My career required me to be extremely careful when speaking to ensure I stayed within protocols of law enforcement, rules and policies. With an introverted personality, this added to my tendency to remain silent.
Being an introvert, it has never been easy for me to be open and speak with others about sensitive things. Speaking with high school alumni later in life, I heard many say they saw me as "stuck up.” That kind of hurt as I was far from it but realized it was that introverted personality that they saw not my being stuck up.
On Mayo Clinic Connect I was able to ask questions, make suggestions, give personal information that I would never be able to do without the online community.
ROSEMARY: What support groups do you participate in?
@jc76: I started in the Prostate Cancer support, but also participate in:
- Prostate Cancer
- Asthma & Allergy
- Bariatric Surgery & Weight Loss
- Bones, Joints & Muscles
- Cancer
- Ear, Nose & Throat (ENT)
- Heart & Blood Health
- Hypertrophic Cardiomyopathy (HCM)
- MAC & Bronchiectasis
- Post-COVID Recovery & COVID-19
- Proton Beam Therapy
- Skin Health
- Visiting Mayo Clinic
Wow, that makes me seem like I am an extremely sick guy.
ROSEMARY: Tell us about a meaningful moment on Mayo Clinic Connect.
@jc76: There are so many! Over a year ago a member had the same prostate cancer diagnosis. He was struggling with what to do and where to go just like I had. He lived close to Mayo Jacksonville and University of Florida Health Proton Therapy Institute (UFHPTI). I was able to pass on information about each of the programs as I was familiar with both. He posted many times thanking me for helping and getting back to him.
I had already gone through the tests, diagnoses and procedures like SpaceOAR and fiducial markers used for prostate cancer radiation treatment as well as managing 30 rounds of radiation treatments.
Sometimes I use private messages to answer some questions. But one member asked if I could put my replies in the open forum so many could benefit from my experience. That felt good and it does help to have many people sharing and everyone learning.
One of the recurring themes I see on the forum is people sharing about their stress and anxiety as they deal with their medical condition. Mayo Clinic specialists emphasize the impact stress, anxiety and depression have on a physical medical condition. I suggest (emphasizing to check with medical providers) to consider starting an exercise or hobby that they enjoy. Exercise and hobbies can help your mental health which has a major influence on your physical health.
ROSEMARY: What surprised you the most about Mayo Clinic Connect?
@jc76: The vast number of individuals on Mayo Clinic Connect. All the different topics and groups you can join and the tremendous amount of knowledge and experience out there that people share to help guide others. The moderators and mentors add so much to the discussions.
ROSEMARY: What energizes you, or how do you find balance in your life?
@jc76: This question really hits a point with me. If you read my posts, you will see I believe in taking care of your mental health and finding something that you enjoy to balance out your life. What I have learned is to try and do something every day that I enjoy both physically and mentally.
ROSEMARY: Tell us about your favorite pastime or activity.
@jc76: Before I got my implantable cardioverter defibrillator (ICD) or pacemaker, I was an avid tennis player. I played in the United States Tennis Association (USTA) leagues. After I got my pacemaker the aggressive nature of tennis created problems with the wires and I had to quit. I was also an avid scuba diver which likewise had to end.
Not being able to do those activities left me in a depressed mood for quite a while. One day talking to a Mayo cardiologist who did triathlons he mentioned Sprint Triathlons. They are shorter distances. I trained for one and WOW did I feel exhilarated crossing the finish line and having a medal placed around my neck. I was 71 the first time I crossed the finish line, thinking here I am with heart failure and a pacemaker finishing a sprint triathlon. I have done over 50 of them now since 2017.
I find water aerobics so enjoyable and I became an addict. I do them Monday to Friday. My introverted personality is not present at water aerobics. I sing and openly participate with others. Exercising to music makes it so much fun. I know most think “What?”, but water aerobics can be easy or hard. It depends on how much you put into it.
ROSEMARY: Do you have a favorite quote, life motto or personal mantra?
@jc76: When JFK gave his inaugural speech and said, “...ask not what your country can do for you—ask what you can do for your country,” I was only 14 years old. It had a dramatic influence on me then and for the rest of my life. For the next six decades I have tried to emulate that statement toward family, friends, career, community and country.
ROSEMARY: What do you appreciate the most in your friends?
@jc76: Respect, courtesy, caring.
ROSEMARY: Puppies or kittens?
@jc76: I've had both and loved them all, hoping it was reciprocal.
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Hi @jc76, Thanks so much for letting us get to know you a little better and also for your great work helping others on Connect. I can so relate to being an introvert. I've always felt uncomfortable when speaking but have the feeling there is an extrovert hiding somewhere in my body. 🙃
Thank you for the introduction! I'm an extrovert surrounded by introverts--daughter, husband, and best friend. I'm always trying to get them to tell me more about themselves. I enjoyed seeing through this window.
@jc76, Thanks for your willingness to share your experience in this spotlight. I hope that you are singing and enjoying your water aerobics this afternoon! Sounds like a perfect way to take care of mental and physical health while enjoying the company of others. Just this morning, I got the notion to look into water aerobics in my area. Thanks for the idea.
I love your post. What a wonderful life you have had. Being an introvert is what amazes me with your career. I was always considered and extrovert, but an introvert resided within me. To think people thought you were a snob. I am wondering if you wore a "serious" face.
All the activities you now do and all the blogs you follow. I believe there will be lots to learn from you. Your honest sharing opens the door to letting us know we can adapt to any challenge life gives us.
The picture you posted is precious. The love of family and pets makes any of our journeys easier to walk.
I hope you are enjoying some delightful activities in this Fall season. May you stay active and healthy for a long, long time.
@jc76 I believe each person has some introvert, some extrovert within themselves. One of those inclinations are more present than the other one. As a fellow introvert, plus living with Aspergers Syndrome, I applaud you for stepping out and making a difference!
Ginger
Thanks for sharing! It must have been hard working in a job where you had to be cautious on what you say - it's people like you that I keep cracking to open up LOL. It's interesting how water aerobics gets you out of that shell. But it's very true that how we were programmed to behave at work for many many years rolls over to our home behaviors as well. I love how you were able to find passion for new activities that helped overcome the loss of the old things that were a big part of your life. I've been going through a transformation for a bit of time myself and haven't yet found a fun aerobic activity within my new capability range. I have a greater disability now, but I too have an ICD that is no longer the limiting factor after 20 years; but docs initially had me fearing getting in the pool without a life preserver, so I tended to shy away from water. I've been doing personal pool exercises for a while, but now you have me a bit encouraged to sign up for our water aerobics class. However, as much as I love to sing (in the shower), I don't think other participants would appreciate it!
@dbeshears1
Hello Debbie,
Being an introvert in a extrovert job required learning skills to overcome it. Can you believe I have a Masters Degree in Counseling Psychology? I was considering changing careers from law enforcement to psychology (have B.A. degree is criminal justice also) but found the psychology training helped me be a better employee, friend and husband to those around me.
Water aerobics worked for me. But just find something you like to and enjoy with those around you. It does wonders for your mental health. I can't stand my signing voice. But all of us are singing and no one knows who's voices you are hearning.
It is just so much fun I don't even think I am exercising. Met a lot of friends this way and you can tell I encourage others to find an exercise or hobby you like doing and do it. Now I love doing water aerobics with my friends and fellow exercisers but I also love to bike but alone. I want to look around, stop and walk and just find the peace and quiet of it just so relaxing.
I have an ICD/Pacemaker and never worry about it. Just to let you know many in water aerobics are handicapped. The water helps support them and are able to exercise in the water where they would not be able to do ouside the water. On some days I do back to back classes.
You mentioned life preserver what some wear is a float belt. Not for life saving but helps keep weight off their legs as many have bad knees, hips, etc. Again water aerobics is what you put into it. You can use very light weights or very heavy ones. Work hard or easy. Of course how you benefit from the water is the resistance you get from moving IN the water. You always see films about participans with arms out of water. That is not how they are taught. You use the resistance of the water to make exercising harder.
Take care Debbie!
@jc76 So nice to meet you! You certainly have had an interesting career and life. It is great that we have a forum like Mayo Connect where we can share our personal health struggles with others. Connect creates an environment where we feel free to express our fears and concerns (whether we are introverted or not)! It is great to meet you and a special thank you to @rosemarya for providing this great Spotlight!
Hello @jc76, it's very nice meeting you and reading your story. Wow, what an inspiration you are. I love your fighting spirit and well thought out lifestyle changes. Congratulations on persevering and adapting to change. Crossing the finish line all those times must feel amazing! Keep up the good work.
I appreciate your encouragement and sharing about how have reengaged, redefined your life.