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Posted by Scott, Volunteer Mentor @IndianaScott, Aug 30, 2016

My mother-in-law (MIL) had what was finally determined to be frontal temporal dementia. She had the disease from her 60s until she passed away at 86. My wife was especially involved in her mom's caregiving due to some serious denial in other family members and a GP who refused to diagnose, even when significant deficits were obvious (mistaking the UPS deliveryman for her husband and not knowing the difference between roads and sidewalks). The most unfortunate result of this, to me, was the lost time when my MIL and her family could have been having meaningful and important discussions about significant matters of importance to her and them.

In my wife's years of fighting her brain cancer, she, too, exhibited many of the aspects of mental degradation and physical losses one would affiliate with a dementia patient.

As an aside, for several years I worked for the national Alzheimer's Association raising money for their research programs nationwide.

I wish everyone struggling with this disease and their caregivers and families strength and peace.

Interested in more discussions like this? Go to the Caregivers: Dementia Support Group.

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Scott, Volunteer Mentor | @IndianaScott | Sep 25, 2018
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@mongerj

I am in a similar situation with similar decline and my heart goes out to you. I feel like I am on a roller coaster ride going from acceptance back to denial, from strength to a complete loss of trust in my ability to help him, from happiness because of what we still have to deep sadness for what we have lost. There are protocols that promise complete reversal if you have lots of money and live an impossible lifestyle. Mostly I feel blessed to have been married to this man for 45 years now with all the ups and downs and will do my best, with lots of help, to make these years have meaning.

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Hello @mongerj I am sorry to read of what you are experiencing as a caregiver. I am Scott and I am glad to see you found Mayo Connect! This is a wonderful community of all kinds of individuals who have been thrust into the highly challenging role of caregiver, like yourself.

You write so well about the many emotional conflicts of caregiving for a loved one! As you describe, it is such a challening and demanding roller coaster to ride -- and one that is especially difficult to ride alone.

I know in my wife's situation I often wished there was more that I could do for her! You mention 'protocols that promise complete reversal'. I haven't heard of these. Can you share what they are?

Strength, courage, and peace!

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loli | @loli | Sep 25, 2018

Has anybody heard about the effects of pedaling (like a bicycle) on patients with Alzheimer"s? Someone sent me a video. I do not know if it is true or not; but they report outstanding results. I follow this group, but I am not a caregiver at this point. Loli

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dianajane | @dianajane | Sep 25, 2018

@loli No have not. Would be interested in this.

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sallysue | @sallysue | Sep 26, 2018
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@dianajane

@loli No have not. Would be interested in this.

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I’m interested in the pedaling thing too.

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Sep 26, 2018

Hi All:

For those who are interested in Pedaling, I know that it is used a lot by Parkinson's patients with great results. Here is a Youtube video that explains it,

As both Alzheimer's and Parkinson's involve the brain I can see why the pedaling program might work well for both disorders.

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Scott, Volunteer Mentor | @IndianaScott | Sep 26, 2018

I took a look on this subject and I could only find one NIH-NIA Clinical Trial on the subject of cycling and Alzheimer's Disease. It appears to have begun in 2014 and will end in 2019.

Here is the link: https://www.nia.nih.gov/alzheimers/clinical-trials/cycling-exercise-treating-alzheimers-disease

I know in my mother-in-law's case there is no way she could have balanced on a stationary bike unless it was greatly adapted. This study is of 90 people and undertaken by the University of Minnesota and University of St. Thomas, so it will be interesting to see what they discover.

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tonialice | @tonialice | Sep 27, 2018
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Hello- I don't get out much and am looking for an online community of caregivers who are at home full-time caring for a parent with Alzheimers. I'd love to swap suggestions and ideas. Is there anyone out there? Thanks.

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Hello new here. I’m caring for my father stage 3 Dementia. My father is 90 I retired early 59 my husband is 69 we have no children but we live in a tri- level house. This is a big concern, I worry at night he might fall down the 7 steps. He has sun downing so he is up about 2 to3 times at night. He is also diabetic. I have been taking care of my dad for only 3 month going on 4 and aleady seems a life time. He also has conjested heart failure so he is on a limited liquid,low sodium and low sugar diet. Also has a diabetic ulcer on his big toe. He is now doing hyperbaric oxygen just had his 3rd treatment but it takes a 3+ hour chunk out of your day. Plus a little longer getting him dressed.
I make his meals from scratch/ very simple but I have lowered his sugar count and I no longer have to give him his shots. Which is great. I do have other siblings but they all work full time.
Yes I would love to talk to anyone else out there too.

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Scott, Volunteer Mentor | @IndianaScott | Sep 28, 2018
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@tonialice

Hello new here. I’m caring for my father stage 3 Dementia. My father is 90 I retired early 59 my husband is 69 we have no children but we live in a tri- level house. This is a big concern, I worry at night he might fall down the 7 steps. He has sun downing so he is up about 2 to3 times at night. He is also diabetic. I have been taking care of my dad for only 3 month going on 4 and aleady seems a life time. He also has conjested heart failure so he is on a limited liquid,low sodium and low sugar diet. Also has a diabetic ulcer on his big toe. He is now doing hyperbaric oxygen just had his 3rd treatment but it takes a 3+ hour chunk out of your day. Plus a little longer getting him dressed.
I make his meals from scratch/ very simple but I have lowered his sugar count and I no longer have to give him his shots. Which is great. I do have other siblings but they all work full time.
Yes I would love to talk to anyone else out there too.

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Hello @tonialice While I am sorry to read of your father's journey with dementia, I am glad to e-meet you here and that you found Mayo Connect! Welcome to a wonderful community of caregivers! I am Scott and I was one of the caregivers for my mother-in-law while she had dementia as well as my wife, who had many dementia-like symptoms during her war with brain cancer.

I found Mayo Connect when I was years into caregiving for my wife and was having great challenges due to the isolation of intensive caregiving. It is an incredibly tough job and I wish you all the best in it!

it sounds like you are doing a terrific job for your father and his multiple needs! That is amazing what you have been able to accomplish with his diet and diabetes! Congratulations! I hope the sore on his toe heals. I had a really tough time with pressure sores on my wife's knees over the years.

In my mother-in-law's case we installed a dog gate across the couple of stairs that were a problem in her home. In our home for my wife I installed a more permanent babygate since it was at the top of a full flight of stairs. Then I put a small jingle bell on a thread on the gates so when they were touched I could hear a warning of sorts. It did help, plus with my MIL we were able to help her understand (at first when things weren't too advanced) that ringing the bell was something to avoid.and made it as a game. Not for everyone, but in her case it did help and just a suggestion.

I am not familiar with hyperbaric oxygen treatment. What does that involve?

Sending strengh, courage, and peace!

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dianajane | @dianajane | Sep 28, 2018
In reply to @tonialice "Hello new here. I’m caring for my father stage 3 Dementia. My father is 90 I..." + (show)
@tonialice

Hello new here. I’m caring for my father stage 3 Dementia. My father is 90 I retired early 59 my husband is 69 we have no children but we live in a tri- level house. This is a big concern, I worry at night he might fall down the 7 steps. He has sun downing so he is up about 2 to3 times at night. He is also diabetic. I have been taking care of my dad for only 3 month going on 4 and aleady seems a life time. He also has conjested heart failure so he is on a limited liquid,low sodium and low sugar diet. Also has a diabetic ulcer on his big toe. He is now doing hyperbaric oxygen just had his 3rd treatment but it takes a 3+ hour chunk out of your day. Plus a little longer getting him dressed.
I make his meals from scratch/ very simple but I have lowered his sugar count and I no longer have to give him his shots. Which is great. I do have other siblings but they all work full time.
Yes I would love to talk to anyone else out there too.

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@tonialice Good to see your post. Sorry to hear your story. What a great job you are doing. My husband has Primary Progressive Aphasia and Mild/moderate cognitive impairment which is getting worse. This is a super place to vent and share and get some inspiration through this long stressful journey. Make sure you are able to take care of yourself. God Bless. Dianajane

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bflattenor | @bflattenor | Oct 3, 2018
In reply to @colleenyoung "@IndianaScott Here is the discussion on B-cell prolymphocytic leukemia (B-PLL) that @bflattenor started in the Blood..." + (show)
@colleenyoung

@IndianaScott Here is the discussion on B-cell prolymphocytic leukemia (B-PLL) that @bflattenor started in the Blood Cancers & Disorders group on Connect
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/b-pll/

Bflattenor, I edited the title of your discussion to included the full spelling of B-PLL. That may help more people find it.

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Thank you,but the full name doesn't seem to be helping. I do believe there is no-one at Mayo Clinic who has had any experience with this type of leukemia---nor is there anyone at the Kaiser where I was being treated.I say was because I have taken myself off all prescription drugs. Who needs the side affects if they are not working?????

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