Introductions: Are you caring for someone with dementia?

This is my first time as a group follower and I am not very sure how does this work. Here it goes. I am caring for my mother. She is 88 years old, lives indepedently in her own apartment, alone. She has mixed dementia: alzheimer and micro vascular problems. She is experiencing the usual: memory loss, both short and long term, and some cognitive impairment. I have get accostumed to hear her stories and questions one time and another. That's ok with me. But I am experiencing a problem with which I have no idea how to deal with. (sorry my english....I am a spanish speaking person). The problem is that she has begun to have problems with the lady that helps her at home one day each week. My mom is accusing her of stealing. Different kind of things. From money to little scissors, peanuts'cans or DVDs. This lady has worked with her for more than 20 years, she knows my mother very well and has huge patience with her and her style of asking for things. But this lady also has had a couple of episodes of money stealing, recognized by this lady and forgiven and forgotten. Though I am pretty sure that most if not all of my mom's accusations are product of her imagination or a consequence of her problems to remember where she left things, it is possible (though very unlikely) that some of them could be truth. This lady works also at my home a couple of days. This issue has become a source of conflict and stress in my relationship with my mother. Though I understand my mother, I can't bear her unjust treatment to this lady (it makes me furious). Also, I can't imagine someone else helping my mother and taking her bossy style with how to do things at home. Not for long. And even if my mother accepted to come to live with me (which she has refused consistenly), I would have the problem at my home, because the same lady works with me. Yesterday night, after one of the episodes over the telephone, I felt so helpless that I even thought of taking my dogs and dissapear and go far away. Another city. Another place. Leave my mom all alone. I felt so overwhelmed that coping with the guilt of abandoning her seemed less troublesome to me than keeping on facing the whole challenge. Today, everything is back to "normal" but I have to find a solution. Any ideas? any suggestions?

This is my first time as a group follower and I am not very sure how does this work. Here it goes. I am caring for my mother. She is 88 years old, lives indepedently in her own apartment, alone. She has mixed dementia: alzheimer and micro vascular problems. She is experiencing the usual: memory loss, both short and long term, and some cognitive impairment. I have get accostumed to hear her stories and questions one time and another. That's ok with me. But I am experiencing a problem with which I have no idea how to deal with. (sorry my english....I am a spanish speaking person). The problem is that she has begun to have problems with the lady that helps her at home one day each week. My mom is accusing her of stealing. Different kind of things. From money to little scissors, peanuts'cans or DVDs. This lady has worked with her for more than 20 years, she knows my mother very well and has huge patience with her and her style of asking for things. But this lady also has had a couple of episodes of money stealing, recognized by this lady and forgiven and forgotten. Though I am pretty sure that most if not all of my mom's accusations are product of her imagination or a consequence of her problems to remember where she left things, it is possible (though very unlikely) that some of them could be truth. This lady works also at my home a couple of days. This issue has become a source of conflict and stress in my relationship with my mother. Though I understand my mother, I can't bear her unjust treatment to this lady (it makes me furious). Also, I can't imagine someone else helping my mother and taking her bossy style with how to do things at home. Not for long. And even if my mother accepted to come to live with me (which she has refused consistenly), I would have the problem at my home, because the same lady works with me. Yesterday night, after one of the episodes over the telephone, I felt so helpless that I even thought of taking my dogs and dissapear and go far away. Another city. Another place. Leave my mom all alone. I felt so overwhelmed that coping with the guilt of abandoning her seemed less troublesome to me than keeping on facing the whole challenge. Today, everything is back to "normal" but I have to find a solution. Any ideas? any suggestions?

First time on this site. Wife (79) has had dementia for about 6 years. Getting worse. Still remembers family and some friends but not all of them. Very small appetite but is holding steady the past few months. Have concerns about costs of providing care for her at home when needed. Anyone have info about what to expect in costs and can recommend a provider. Bob

First time on this site. Wife (79) has had dementia for about 6 years. Getting worse. Still remembers family and some friends but not all of them. Very small appetite but is holding steady the past few months. Have concerns about costs of providing care for her at home when needed. Anyone have info about what to expect in costs and can recommend a provider. Bob

I am primary caretaker for my wife. She is now in late stage alzhiemers. 15 years ago she was diagnosed with Minimal cognitive decline. I am 77 she is 78, Living at home with me. It has become difficult for me to get everything done because of the amount of time required for her care. I am thinking of hiring some one to be with her while I do outside necessary work. Any advise from someone who has been through this?

I am primary caretaker for my wife. She is now in late stage alzhiemers. 15 years ago she was diagnosed with Minimal cognitive decline. I am 77 she is 78, Living at home with me. It has become difficult for me to get everything done because of the amount of time required for her care. I am thinking of hiring some one to be with her while I do outside necessary work. Any advise from someone who has been through this?

I am primary caretaker for my wife. She is now in late stage alzhiemers. 15 years ago she was diagnosed with Minimal cognitive decline. I am 77 she is 78, Living at home with me. It has become difficult for me to get everything done because of the amount of time required for her care. I am thinking of hiring some one to be with her while I do outside necessary work. Any advise from someone who has been through this?

I am primary caretaker for my wife. She is now in late stage alzhiemers. 15 years ago she was diagnosed with Minimal cognitive decline. I am 77 she is 78, Living at home with me. It has become difficult for me to get everything done because of the amount of time required for her care. I am thinking of hiring some one to be with her while I do outside necessary work. Any advise from someone who has been through this?