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For those of us without family - Who will take care of you ?
As I age, not having children or close family, I’m beginning to ask myself who will see to my care, when I can no longer take care of myself. And, who should I name in my Will to be executor….. I don’t want to burden friends, as I have a complicated estate. And friends my age have their own challenges..
I’m fortunate to have financial resources, but no children or close family. I’d like to get things in order while I’m still healthy. May I have your ideas?
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Here is the link for The End-of-Life Handbook on SmartPatients.com
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1 ReactionMy comment with the link was not posted because I am new to this group.
It’s tricky to find the conversation. You have to enter “Book Club” and then click on find out more about book club.
WHAT???
I will take care of myself. I have been doing it for 89 years already so why not continue?
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3 ReactionsI have 2 brothers and a sister but they aren't able or wouldn't take care of me. I've always been the run to person for help. No one helped me. I need a shoulder replacement but can't, I have no help. I won't go to a nursing home if the time came, so who knows what will happen to me🤔😳
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4 ReactionsSince you no friends do you have that favorite niece or nephew you can include in your will as an executor? No one want to go to the Nursing Home but for many it will be the final destination.
So, it would be wise to start looking into an assistant living situation until you can no longer live independently. Then have your executor find you a nice nursing home facility until God calls you hone.
Basically, plan your how you want to live life to the fullest until the end.
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3 ReactionsI pray I will be able take care of myself
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1 ReactionHello leelou
I understand your worries and anxiety over this. I think about it as well at times. Do you belong to a Church? any social groups? You may want to start talking to folks about your concerns. You never know who has connections to people who could be hired to assist you or even themselves. I know people at my Church who are nurses aides, LPNs etc and at times look for extra income by assisting other people. It doesn’t hurt to ask. If you are a member of AARP, call them as they have a lot of ideas and resources to give you ideas.
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3 ReactionsWe all do. But at the end of the day the old saying is true, "Once an adult and twice a child."
Being part of my mommy's transition watching her at her weakest trying to convince us she was capable of taking care of herself caused me to remind her and myself that the worst lie we tell is the one we tell ourselves.
May God grant me clarity of mind to pray and communicate to those assisting me at my weakest my appreciation for their assistance, love, prayers, kindness, compassion, and fellowship.
May God use me to help encourage them in kindness and love until he calls me to other side.
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6 ReactionsI've ordered the End-of-Life Handbook.
I'm working with a neighbor to research and compile a catalog of resources in our area. For example, pre-med students in a local university are available at minimum wage for in-home assistance.
I have a living will on file with my doctor which states that I don't want life saving treatments if I have dementia.
I have younger friends who I will ask to be honest if they believe I'm showing cognitive decline.
My wife's recent surgery included in-home PT from a medical service, paid by Medicare, and it has been very good.
I'm thinking about creating a notebook that organizes this information.
A few years ago I hosted some "elder tea" meetings with older neighbors, and it's time to meet and talk again.
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