Hello to all my fellow caregivers out there today! I hope you are having an OK Friday.
Today is the three month ‘anniversary’ of the passing of my wife. Tough, tough day, but it got me thinking.
My daughter told me I had to find something ‘good’ about the day and the only thing I could come up with was that it was good I had pushed for us to take care of our wills, a living trust, advance directives, medical, financial, and legal Power of Attorneys, funeral decisions, etc. ahead of her passing. It made a gigantic difference to my children and me when this day came.
Following up with all the minutia one must deal with is tough enough, but if I had to have been asking myself during each step ‘what would my wife have really wanted?’ it would have been ten times more difficult, and this is even truer for our adult children.
It was not easy to have those discussions, but it paid off with huge dividends for the family.
While it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, my wife even designed her own service.
Like I said, not easy stuff to talk about, but far better than if I had been left to guess it all out afterwards.
Peace and strength to all,