Loneliness: Why am I depressed?

As per your interests have to tried volunteering at your local library? You will have a shared interest and meet others.
I have joined a fitness club (SNAP) that is reasonably priced and I need the exercise as I find myself sitting too much.

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Jerry, good for you for joining a fitness club. Are you enjoying it?

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Jerry, good for you for joining a fitness club. Are you enjoying it?

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Hello. I can totally relate. Writing (I am also an author) Is solitary work. I also love to cook and am just getting into gardening. I have learned that I really need people around me. But, it is not easy to find the people that want a two way relationship. I am looking at finding a church community that has outreach programs, where I can join with others to help people. I have a friend who is helping a community that cooks meals for the homeless. Another friend found Meet-ups helpful when she was looking for like minded friends. All the best to you in your search.

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Hello Ginger:

How nice of you to respond. Yes, it does make sense about not always finding others that have similar interests. Thank you for pointing that out. I appreciate it.

Over the years, my outreach groups have varied. Since I have only been in this neighborhood for a year, I am still figuring out ways to connect. I do like my neighbors. They are very good acquaintances. Sometimes I bake and take treats over to one or two couples/families. That is really fun for me and they like it. There is an organization called SHIFT that I have connected with on and off over the past 4+ years. They meet every other week. Check out their website for more info. I am a co-leader in an organization called "Action for Happiness." It's educational and community building and was started in the UK as a response to pandemic isolation. We meet on Zoom once a month and follow an uplifting monthly schedule. I have connected with other writers via zoom through the Dakota County Library. I even took a watercolor painting class this year that I really enjoyed. I had no idea how great the libraries in our metro area are for connecting others and providing fun and educational opportunities. In the past, I have belonged to various quilter's groups. Some affiliated with churches make quilts for others. Eagan has an art center that I have yet to explore. There is a senior group in Eagan that has some very fun community activities. I've only joined them once for bingo, but I may go back this fall/winter when gardening season is over.

I am learning about managing my life as an unmarried 67 year old. It's not easy and I do have to work at being social. My oldest daughter lives with me and that is a wonderful help. Oh, one more thing- I used to belong to church in St. Paul that I really liked. I helped out with their festival and attended bible study. As I said, I have to find the opportunities that can meet my needs.

I hope this isn't too much information. But, these are things that have helped me recover from a difficult bout of depression/anxiety caused by working as a healthcare professional through a good part of the pandemic. I now work 1-2 days a week and I am very glad to be employed part time. My health- I am a pancreatic and breast cancer survivor. I have MGUS and some chronic GI issues related to the pancreatic cancer surgery. Mayo Clinic has not only saved my life, but the care givers have helped me to get the help I needed to keep going.

Thank you for reading. And thank you for providing this opportunity to share some of my struggles as well as some things that have worked for me. I do not have solutions for others, of course. But, if what I have shared helps, then that makes me happy.

Peace.

Mayr

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Provisions in Minneapolis is a great place to volunteer. Check out their website to see if it is a good fit for you and your talents.

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Jerry, good for you for joining a fitness club. Are you enjoying it?

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The last four mornings I have woken with deep depression. I am on buproprion. I moved to a different state 2 months ago. My 'honeymoon' is over. No friends or family. I pushed everyone from my home state away from me. I cannot get in to see a psychiatrist for 6 weeks. I wish it was all over.

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