What's a good answer to How are you? when you're in bad pain?

Posted by tyyne21wigwam @tyyne21wigwam, Mar 7, 2023

Should you answer fine if you really aren't

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@tyyne21wigwam

I am glad to hear this. I am trying to walk,but it is painful. I am now in up to 55 feet. I am trying to lower Percocet,but got bad withdrawal when I got to 15mg a day. I will try slower low med. And go slow on more walking. I am 82 with 10 years of low back pain. That could be a problem. I won't give up.

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God bless you and thank you for sharing that with us, keep up the brave work. Im praying that God will give you strength and comfort!

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@jenatsky

I find if I do not walk I suffer more. On cold, rainy, snowy days I increase my exercise at home to compensate but only partially. I look at meds now as my last resort for pain.

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I'm praying for you brother and also asking the great physician the Lord Jesus Christ to give you comfort and guidance and new ways to deal with what you're going through

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@rwinney

Wishing everyone a happy day 😊

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I simply answer that all is going well, a few aches here and there but nothing serious, how about you. you feeling good, you look good.

I learned long ago that nobody wants to hear your issues and besides there is nothing they can do for you.

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@cgs

Amen God bless you my friend that's a really good advice and a really good form of care that you're giving yourself thanks for sharing

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I reply with "I am blessed" .

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@rjjacobsen

It's obvious, but I think it's a good thing to be completely honest with those giving you treatment!

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Most definitely.
I have never tried drugs, nor tobacco, do not drink and never abused medication. When a doctor tells you that you would have been better off if I had died from one of your accidents because you wouldn't be suffering now. Tells you to go somewhere else for treatment because you are to complicated and can't find easy answers. How would you take that. The surgeon who did my 28th surgery last month said to me, yrs told you are complicated, but in no means do we as doctors give up on you. You deserve a quality of life like everyone else and how the UW pain clinic gave up on you, lied to you over and over is beyond inexcusable behavior and just plain awful.
This is my hell.

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Hard to believe a Dr.. could be so bad! I have had several give up. Maybe their egos can't take that they were of no help. I have resolved to never give up, but it's not easy I am trying mindfulness now, not always easy either, but interesting.

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I actually get tired of the questions. I have resulted in a pleasant "I am stable."

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Last Saturday I walked into the Emergency Department because I had been experiencing chest pains and pain in the left side of my face for a few days. A nurse approached me and said: “Hi! How are you?”

Guess what my answer was. “Fine, thank you”. Then I looked at her and we both laughed. She said “let me help you” then walked me through triage.

Turns out after blood tests, X-ray and CT scan they found nothing conclusive, but it’s strange how one’s default answer to “how are you” often is … “fine.” despite feeling anything but fine at the time. lol.

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For some reason, I cannot lie. When someone asks how I am, I know they aren't really asking how I am, so my answer is usually " I'm still here, how are you?" Works for me.

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Honestly is always the best policy. How can a doctor help if they don’t know the truth. If I went in and a doctor asked where my pain level was on a scale of 1-10 I would say a 20 if I was in as much pain as you are. Why color code it?? We’re the ones sitting at home suffering. Right? So sorry you’re hurting to that extreme. Be honest with yourself and be honest with your doctor.

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