Were you able to make app. with Oncologist if you had no mets ?
OK - here we go 😡
In spite of my husband having 4+5 pathology report after RARP and having "almost positive" margin and EPE discovered, we are not able to make app. with oncologist for consultations about possible preemptive treatment at UCSF !?!?!?!
Supposedly only patients with metastatic disease can have app. with oncologist ???????????? 😫
PLEASE somebody sh**t me !!! This is nightmare that never ends !!! 😭
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Thanks Bill for your extensive and insightful post - as always it is right on the target, objective and at the same time comforting.
Unfortunately person who was making scheduling had complete picture, was explained findings and also checked them via patient chart. She stated that she has to follow exact parameters that were given to her - she has to "check boxes" literary ( I know , insane...) and if there are no metastasis, she can not make an appointment with oncologist, and that surgeon urologist works with patients who have localized or locally advanced cancer. If we will have to fight for getting any kind of care , I do not know how is it possible to go forward here :(. We had to wait for every single app. for months from the beginning but we were told so many times that this place is great and worth waiting - I can only say that it failed us on all points.
My husband (according to some articles that I found last night) has 4 high risk factors for BCR - T3e, PNI, Decipher higher than 6 and iffy margins.
Today he is taking catheter out and after that we will have to sit and make an extensive plan and hope that heavens will finally provide, since doctors obviously will not ...
Thanks for caring 💖, and I apologize if I sound down today, I am more than down , I feel useless and helpless - so sorry everybody , just not a good day ...
I think that Bill has given you good advice and insights, as has Jeff. Drafting the letter that Bill suggests seems like a good idea, and not so aggressive as to burn your bridges if you want to continue care at your current institution. Just be matter of fact and keep your very understandable anger and frustration out of the letter. And in the meantime, I think it will make you feel better and give you good information for future use if you do some checking into alternative institutions and providers you could travel to. Sending a tight hug; please keep in mind that you are NOT useless and helpless, just beaten down a bit today.
Hi Lag - thanks so much for your comment and taking time to help me, it is much appreciated. < 3
I am an introvert person and I avoid conflict of any kind like a plague, so all of my anger expressed here is here to stay, of course ; ). It takes a LOT to make me angry to begin with.
I am also too proud to beg for something that should be available to a cancer patient, especially for the amount of money charged. I know that an oncologist will not make any money (beside $250 !!!) by just talking to us since he can't get Genentech $20,000 bonus for prescribing new generation medication, but it is really disappointing.
There are so many hospitals around, this place does not offer anything that one can not find just going the same distance in opposite direction. We will not change source of care until we find a better place, that would be contra-productive. The whole California has a great misfortune that there is no Mayo Clinic in proximity, but perhaps it is time to venture out of state.
Once again, thanks for stopping by and trying to give me help and advice and for your kind words 😌
Our Urologist wanted to send him for salvage radiation after BCR 17 yrs post RARP. We wanted to be sure some disease to radiate so asked for an MRI - it came back clean so then we called a GU Oncologist. He was the one to discover the lung Mets after a PSMA PET. This was not a large COE - we went there later.
What I see in this world of cancer care is that they are all way too busy - 15 min appts - really? I think they throttle where they can and suspect you need that BCR or elevated PSA to get through the door in some of the bigger places. How far are you from Arizona? Mayo for another opinion?