Vascular Dementis

@07shelby56 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect! I’m so glad you found this site! As you read and get involved with the discussions, you will find out how people cope. I’m going to ask some members to come back and answer your question: @pamela78. @sillyblone @juliamahoney. @rubyredkate @jeanadair123 and @IndianaScott, you will learn so much as get involved with the discussions.

Hello. Welcome to the site. I try to live one day at a time. It is hard to be a caregiver. That is why you are in the right place. I believe that other's can help you really because of living similar situations. Ask questions, opinions, and just verbalize about whatever or whomever. We are quite a bunch of people having a good or maybe a bad day. I will read and try to respond. I sometimes wish we could hear all of us talking with kindness, expressing fear and emotions that sometimes seem unreasonable. But we are Caregivers and we care! 🫂 and prayers!

I read Mayo Digest everyday and always benefit from it. More than anything else, it lets me know I'm not alone. The thing I find most helpful with my husband is having other people talk to him. I get really, really tired of hearing the same things over and over, so when someone else steps in to listen, it gives me a break. My husband goes to his favorite coffee shop nearly everyday. People there know him and are kind and patient. I don't even know these people; they are strangers to me. But they're doing more good than they're aware of. When my husband can no longer take care of his personal needs--bathing, dressing, etc.--I expect it will be a whole new ballgame. I worry about that.

My husband has a hard time dressing, bathing and doing the stuff in the bathroom. Yes this hard cause you know what he could do before this disease came. Hang in there God is there through this time yes I do cry but at least I know he would of done this if it was me.

Hi, your question is perfect! Im happy you have found this site with wonderful folks going through all kinds of stress in their lives. I find that the more i educate myself, the more fear recedes. I find tools that will help us both. I found hearing others hearts and offering them understanding actually helps me cope with my life. I also encourage you to go to an in person support group. Building a relationship with folks who understand is very comforting. My friends and family Do Not understand at all. I no longer talk about specifics with them due to replies that are either empty or hurtful. Its really a way to protect myself.
Keep reading and posting! Hugs