~Toilet Time~

Actually, you've touched on entire philosophical and theatrical themes.
Absurdity, post modernism, and Existentialism.

Absurdity-What you do wrong goes right. What you do right goes wrong. Sometimes right is right and wrong is wrong. You think you have some say in (your) life, but control and sense are only illusions. Only thing to do is put one foot in front of the other, and keep on keeping on. Crossing my fingers always works for me.
Existentialism- It is what it is, and there is No Exit. You can check out anytime you like, but you can never leave.
Post modernism - don't worry. Be happy. It's all good. If you measure, compare and contrast, judge , have an opinion, consider the relative and absolute, good and bad, assess cause and effect, you will just be upset.
Alice! It's bigger than both of us. No. It's bigger than just you, Ralph.

I've never had one, but have you considered a bidet or visit your local medical supply store and inquire about specialty equipment for the toilet (to make cleaning up easier with less toilet tissue needed, hopefully).
Not TMI, we all may need this info some day so this is the place to share with no judgment.
P.S., sorry you had to deal with that mess. 🌺

Bless you !

Dementia feels like a wild roller coaster with no end in sight-I just try to laugh so not to cry.

So hard for everyone involved 🤗❤️

@gratia I don't know if this is even a good suggestion and one by the readers the may sound ludicrous, but in reading your "toilet time" post, I couldn't help but wonder if one of those large plastic inserts the doctor or hospital gives us to fit inside the toilet rim when we take a stool specimen, would be appropriate when she goes to the bathroom. This way, her stool doesn't clog up the toilet, and when she uses toilet paper, she stuffs that in the plastic insert piece along with the poop OR you give her a plastic trash bag to put the toilet paper inside (if she remembers to do it). Then you can dump it however you see fit. It will stop clogging up the toilet. May appear to be an extra step, but plunging away with a migrane becomes many extra steps and a lot of work to toilet overload.
Best, Karla

My mother has Lewy Body and Parkinsonism. This is the usual at my parents’ home. She is constipated for days. Then she “has to go,” but it takes 4-5 trips to the bathroom for it to actually happen. Each time she needs help
getting out of her chair into her wheelchair, wheeled to the bathroom. Then helped out of her wheelchair, onto the commode over the toilet to make it easier for her to sit and get up. She then needs help with cleaning herself after she finally is able to go. Then reverse this back to her chair. My father keeps a stick outside that he has to use to break up the “deposit” each time so it will flush. Not TMI. It’s real life for a lot of us.

@dedhambeth Frustrating for sure. Has her doctor suggested colace or any stool softner? Sure helped my husband.

@barbary Yes, they tried having her take colace regularly, but it caused a problem in the opposite direction. So, she takes it as needed. She has had to go to the ER for an enema because she hadn’t had a bowel movement for six days. She has always had a tendency towards constipation and sometimes the stool softeners work and sometimes they don’t.

@dedhambeth You have probably tried but wondering about Metamucil. My mother had terrible trouble with constipation and it helped her. She took daily with good old Tang.

@dedhambeth
Severe constipation is often followed by massive amounts of loose stool. So a smaller dose of colace every day or just colace stool softener might work.
Will she drink an adequate amount of fluids? about 6-8 (8 glasses) daily No caffeine? Fluids are essential.
Have you tried 6 prunes or a large glass of warm Pune juice?
Linzess 145 mg 1/2 hr before eating is what is recommended for IBS-C and helps a lot.

Ensure a bowel movement occurs daily.