Downsizing, To Move or Not to Move? That is the Question

Posted by Rosemary, Volunteer Mentor @rosemarya, Apr 12, 2020

At some point as we age, we will have to make a decision about leaving our homes and downsizing. Maybe in our own town or to another town. Maybe to smaller home, condo, apartment, or assisted living/senior community.

When the time comes to downsize, seniors can struggle with a multitude of emotional, physical, and financial challenges.

How do you make an informed decision about when to downsize?
What tips do you have to share?

@emd52

Thanks Rosemary for bringing up this important topic. I've lived in my home for over 50 years and the maintenance is getting harder. I have no family to help so am relying on "professional movers" to help me through this process. Any ideas of professionals in the St. Paul area who could help? Also, is it wise to move during the Pandemic?
Thanks for any suggestions

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Hello –
I live in your general area. If I was seeking this kind of help, I would contact Gentle Transitions, Sholom Homes, Presbyterian Homes, Catholic Eldercare or the Ebenezer Society for advice. They have many years of experience in downsizing seniors, and can most likely refer you to someone reputable for help. If you are affiliated with a church, they may also be able to advise.

Based on my experience with seniors, and my cousin's occupation (in Texas) as a care arranger, I would advise you to make sure anyone you hire is bonded and insured and you or someone you trust should personally check their references from people who have actually used their service.

Sue

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@sueinmn

Hello –
I live in your general area. If I was seeking this kind of help, I would contact Gentle Transitions, Sholom Homes, Presbyterian Homes, Catholic Eldercare or the Ebenezer Society for advice. They have many years of experience in downsizing seniors, and can most likely refer you to someone reputable for help. If you are affiliated with a church, they may also be able to advise.

Based on my experience with seniors, and my cousin's occupation (in Texas) as a care arranger, I would advise you to make sure anyone you hire is bonded and insured and you or someone you trust should personally check their references from people who have actually used their service.

Sue

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Thanks Sue for your helpful suggestions….much appreciated! emd52 Liz

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@emd52

Thanks Rosemary for bringing up this important topic. I've lived in my home for over 50 years and the maintenance is getting harder. I have no family to help so am relying on "professional movers" to help me through this process. Any ideas of professionals in the St. Paul area who could help? Also, is it wise to move during the Pandemic?
Thanks for any suggestions

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A friend of mine recently moved in the Twin Cities. She used two “capable” women for her move and was extremely satisfied.
Marianne & Melissa
Mn Move Managers
651-428-7239
612-554-4840
Hope you find comfort and peace with your move!

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@jude07

A friend of mine recently moved in the Twin Cities. She used two “capable” women for her move and was extremely satisfied.
Marianne & Melissa
Mn Move Managers
651-428-7239
612-554-4840
Hope you find comfort and peace with your move!

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Jude07 Thank you for the contact information…very helpful. emd52

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@fiesty76

@gingerw, I was really moved thinking how difficult it must have been to move away from everyone you knew a couple of years ago. Being an introvert in a new community must have presented challenges and a great deal of courage in getting acquainted with new people.

Having lived in my home and community for 46 years, moving away from friends, neighbors and professional service providers would have been my single biggest challenge to overcome. However, as service providers have retired and my people circle has grown smaller due to illnesses, deaths and relocations, I'm thinking more about what new adventures "lie ahead" rather what I'd be leaving behind.

A salute to you for making the efforts required to meet new people by signing up to volunteer!

After the move in 2018, did you find the move last July easier in some ways? Certainly, you would have disposed of duplicates, etc as you married but I'm wondering about the emotional challenge of another relocation?

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@fiesty76 When I moved in 2018, my husband was established in a community he had been a part of for over 30 years. I met and liked three of the neighbors in the condo complex where he had been for 8 years. I figured out the main places I had to go, then wrote out directions on index cards for each place. We had panned my move for half a year, so it wasn't too rough.

For the move last year, we had not expected to find a retirement property so quickly. We planned to rent it out for a year, and move here together when he retired. It was a 30 day escrow, and 15 days in, we found out the terms of the loan were we could not rent it out. We had to get an amendment to allow the sellers to stay 3 weeks extra while they closed on their new buy. Since he was still working, it fell to me to move up here, alone. By necessity I had to get to know they guy across the empty lot from us. I had to put myself out of my comfort zone to find out things, since I had to have someone to turn to if I needed help. Just before the move was a health crisis, so that had to be dealt with, also. I congratulate myself, now, for not falling off the deep end completely.

The emotional challenge of uprooting and moving twice, July 2018 and July 2019, took its toll on me. I recently started dealing with the frustration, anger, anxiety and depression that ensued, and am doing a lot better now.
Ginger

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@fiesty76

@gingerw, I was really moved thinking how difficult it must have been to move away from everyone you knew a couple of years ago. Being an introvert in a new community must have presented challenges and a great deal of courage in getting acquainted with new people.

Having lived in my home and community for 46 years, moving away from friends, neighbors and professional service providers would have been my single biggest challenge to overcome. However, as service providers have retired and my people circle has grown smaller due to illnesses, deaths and relocations, I'm thinking more about what new adventures "lie ahead" rather what I'd be leaving behind.

A salute to you for making the efforts required to meet new people by signing up to volunteer!

After the move in 2018, did you find the move last July easier in some ways? Certainly, you would have disposed of duplicates, etc as you married but I'm wondering about the emotional challenge of another relocation?

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You hit the nail on the head, if you think about the future and the exciting opportunities ahead of you instead of regretting and are angry about moving then you will have problems.

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@emd52

Thanks Rosemary for bringing up this important topic. I've lived in my home for over 50 years and the maintenance is getting harder. I have no family to help so am relying on "professional movers" to help me through this process. Any ideas of professionals in the St. Paul area who could help? Also, is it wise to move during the Pandemic?
Thanks for any suggestions

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How soon are you looking at moving? You said you lived in st paul where would you be moving to? Last weekend I bought some popcorn from some kids in boy scouts/ cub scouts you might be able to get some kids to volunteer to help you box things up for a badge that they can earn.

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I have no specific date in mind for moving. Thanks for your suggestion about boy scouts/cub scouts going helping.

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In response to davej's question about where I plan to move, I hope to go to a place where there are a variety of services if I were to need help in the future

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@gingerw

@fiesty76 When I moved in 2018, my husband was established in a community he had been a part of for over 30 years. I met and liked three of the neighbors in the condo complex where he had been for 8 years. I figured out the main places I had to go, then wrote out directions on index cards for each place. We had panned my move for half a year, so it wasn't too rough.

For the move last year, we had not expected to find a retirement property so quickly. We planned to rent it out for a year, and move here together when he retired. It was a 30 day escrow, and 15 days in, we found out the terms of the loan were we could not rent it out. We had to get an amendment to allow the sellers to stay 3 weeks extra while they closed on their new buy. Since he was still working, it fell to me to move up here, alone. By necessity I had to get to know they guy across the empty lot from us. I had to put myself out of my comfort zone to find out things, since I had to have someone to turn to if I needed help. Just before the move was a health crisis, so that had to be dealt with, also. I congratulate myself, now, for not falling off the deep end completely.

The emotional challenge of uprooting and moving twice, July 2018 and July 2019, took its toll on me. I recently started dealing with the frustration, anger, anxiety and depression that ensued, and am doing a lot better now.
Ginger

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@gingerw, Thank you for sharing more about your two close together moves. Great idea to use index cards to write directions to main places when you first arrived! Being geographically challenged to begin with, this idea is a keeper!! And I would think having that 6 mo planning and lead time proved quite an advantage over the surprises of your 2nd move.

Add my salute for managing both moves in a short time plus a health crisis thrown in for good measure and you deserve Kudos Deluxe! Just one of those endeavors could have thrown a more fragile human into the doldrums. Think you could easily lead our "Resilency Parade" for coming through so well! Big life changes do take a toll on us so I'm very glad you are feeling better now that you've had a little time to process all the emotions that anyone would experience.

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@sueinmn

Ginger, As a total extrovert, I have a hard time imagining such a move, and meeting new people & hearing new stories is energizing to me. I admire you for managing this not once, but twice as an introvert.
I was amazed in my Psych 101 class to learn of these concepts – I always thought there was something "wrong" with my shy & introverted cousins. We finally concluded that I got all of the extrovert genes, and they got all the introvert ones, if there is such a thing. When we started kindergarten, one of my cousins had to be moved to the same class as me because she wouldn't speak to anyone else in the school – even the teacher!
Sue

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@sueinmn, Your post has me laughing! People say I'm one of those who has never met a stranger as well. Love it that an introverted cousin was moved to your kindergarten class so that you could speak up for him/her. We never know when a strong trait will come in handy for another. Thanks for the smile this morning!

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I, too, think of downsizing and moving. Has anyone ever hired someone to help with all the cleaning out and organizing? I used to be “the queen” of organizing for moves, but not anymore. I organized our move to Germany with two little kids and our household goods going in 3 separate shipments at different times! But, I was young! I’ve thought about getting help. Has anyone done this?

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