Suicide: Finding it hard to lose someone by suicide

Posted by anndomico @anndomico, Feb 28, 2019

Dealing with the feelings of loss after a person known to you commits suicide,

@georgette12

I didn't see discussion on suicide loss before. Did I miss it. My son committed suicide.

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I’m so sorry. It is the worst.

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@gailb

@anndomico

I noticedthat several people have reached out to your post, but you haven't responded. How long ago did this happen? If it's recent, I can understand your not wanting to respond about it. Please just let us know that you're OK, and are taking care of yourself. We understand.

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Gail it happened last week and I having a very hard time shaking the depressive feelings I have. Besides this incident, two other people I know have died in these last two weeks. But the suicide was the worst because he was a high school principal, a very well liked person. My husband is also a principal and had just lunch with him….

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I remember when I was suicidal that felt nothing, no love for my husband, 3 grown children and 5 grandchildren. I just couldn’t stand the pain. But something got me to go to the hospital three times. This happened after a doctor gave me a meds wash. Never let anyone do that to you cold turkey.

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dealing with this now. and it has opened my eyes. more of my guilt comes from what I must have put my family thru from my own experiences. But they are gone now.. so no apologizing. And guilt as the person that shot himself 2 days ago was here earlier in the week and I was so sick, I didn't hardly say 'hi' to him. I just went to my loft and went to bed. I have been giving him hugs every time I seen him lately as he had been making himself 'scarce'… but,, I didn't hardly say hi. With the pain I feel for him ( and I do respect his decision and understand it), he was physically sick for a long time, I have looked at my past and told Pam I will never put her thru this pain. I still need the release of cutting,, but will be more careful.. and hopefully with my new therapy, just stop. It is all too much. Maybe it is just the 'shock' of him shooting himself. But I know he was very sick and did not want to live that way, so I feel I must be happy with his decision and support it…………………………………………….

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I'm starting to think that we need to "adjust" our ideas about suicide. I think that when a teenager committs suicide, it's completely different from a 70 year-old committing suicide. Or if someone is 60 or over and wants to die, who are we to tell them, "No! You have so much to live for! So many people love you!"? They may just have "had it" with being alive and the stresses that come with it. I think it would sound more appropriate to say, "He decided that he didn't want to live any longer," instead of saying, "He committed suicide!"

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Hello, I am extremely depressed. I can not tolerate the pain anymore. Only time I leave my home is to see a dr.. Adding to that is the pain of PTSD. I think it started when I was born?? Family told me I cried all the time. Immediate family, always told me what I was thinking, "if people really knew you" "there is something wrong with you" and more. My face was all I had to hold on to. No could take that from me. As long as people looked at me, complimented me, told me how pretty I was or even more than that. well, I have struggled all my life and than this happened to me. FROM A DOCTOR. Between the pain, unwanted memories that come out of know where I think about that dr. someone else took my body from me. Nothing helps me relax except people, socializing is hard, where do I lay down?? Do I socialize in my bedroom? I don't like the way new opiates are making me feel at all. I take CBD OIL, Capsule it doesn't work since I became worse. I am so afraid to die but a part of me is already dead. No one wants to treat me because my case is so complexed and caused by medical profession to many who have the same as I. When I was younger all dreams I had were stollen.

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@kimspr3

Hello, I am extremely depressed. I can not tolerate the pain anymore. Only time I leave my home is to see a dr.. Adding to that is the pain of PTSD. I think it started when I was born?? Family told me I cried all the time. Immediate family, always told me what I was thinking, "if people really knew you" "there is something wrong with you" and more. My face was all I had to hold on to. No could take that from me. As long as people looked at me, complimented me, told me how pretty I was or even more than that. well, I have struggled all my life and than this happened to me. FROM A DOCTOR. Between the pain, unwanted memories that come out of know where I think about that dr. someone else took my body from me. Nothing helps me relax except people, socializing is hard, where do I lay down?? Do I socialize in my bedroom? I don't like the way new opiates are making me feel at all. I take CBD OIL, Capsule it doesn't work since I became worse. I am so afraid to die but a part of me is already dead. No one wants to treat me because my case is so complexed and caused by medical profession to many who have the same as I. When I was younger all dreams I had were stollen.

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@kimspr3 Is there a pastor or clergy member you can speak to? Is there a chance you can call a crisis prevention line to help you?
1-800-273-8255 or https://www.stopitnow.org/ohc-content/crisis-hotlines or https://www.crisistextline.org/ may help you
Ginger

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I know exactly how you feel I am in so much pain with my lower extremities and I have to keep myself a live everyday trying to deal with the pain I'm not sure if you ever heard of( ketamine) it's an infusion they give you and it's been exploding all over the place with great results! that's what I am trying right now I just did my first treatment it helped me with the depression but I have to do like two to four treatments

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@kimspr3 , I hope you are still there. Please call 911. I don't know what else to say. Except that I couldn't understand how someone could take their own life until a close family member died suddenly. And now I get it.

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@jimmy370 , I am so glad you found something that works for your pain!!!

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@sheridonaldson

@kimspr3 , I hope you are still there. Please call 911. I don't know what else to say. Except that I couldn't understand how someone could take their own life until a close family member died suddenly. And now I get it.

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Hello Sheri, Thank so much for caring means a lot to me. I've struggled all my life PTSD and now pain. There are times you just want to give up because you had enough. I see a Psychologist so thats good! hug

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@jimmy370

I know exactly how you feel I am in so much pain with my lower extremities and I have to keep myself a live everyday trying to deal with the pain I'm not sure if you ever heard of( ketamine) it's an infusion they give you and it's been exploding all over the place with great results! that's what I am trying right now I just did my first treatment it helped me with the depression but I have to do like two to four treatments

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Hi, @jimmy370 – thanks for sharing your experiences with pain and your ketamine treatment so far. Have you had any side effects at all?

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Does the treatment have side effects?

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Hi, @kimspr3 – you are wondering about the side effects of the ketamine infusions @jimmy370 mentioned?

@jimmy370 – my understanding was that infusions of ketamine were not found to be easy to deliver to a mostly outpatient psychiatric practice and thus not used as much as the esketamine nasal spray version. How did you and your doctor decide to pursue this particular therapy?

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Thanks a lot, I'll ask Jim.

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