Sick of trying

Hi @tabithapoore7, gosh you've got a lot on your plate. But even an overloaded plate can only be eaten one bite at a time. I see you've taken some very positive steps, like quitting drinking and keeping yourself safe.

I sending a virtual cup of tea. Let's just sit for a moment and talk.
Do you have a therapist or parent support group?

@tabithapoore7 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. I bet there are a lot of people here who are nodding their heads because they have been in similar situations.

I do not have children of my own, so I cannot give you any advice, not relative experiences. However, reading that you are pulling yourself up out of the hold you found yourself in, is a positive. That in itself deserves a hug.

Let's see what other parents have to chip in and say.
Ginger

No I find it difficult to trust the intentions of others sometimes

Oh, yes, I know that can be hard. I have to tell you CONGRATULATIONS on quitting drinking, though . . . wow, that is beautiful news!
I was struck by how much you have accomplished-- being a single parent, working and raising children. Looking back, I am amazed at how my own mom managed that-- I know I couldn't. And I feel bad now about how difficult I made life for her when I was your children's ages! Right now, they cannot see yet the sacrifices you made, but perhaps someday they will as they grow and mature.
It can be so hard to trust others, especially when past experiences have taught us otherwise. But you'd be surprised by how many people can be giving and kind if you show them you want to listen and extend enough trust to share, too, even a little. None of us is perfect, but we each bring so many experiences to the table, it can be very helpful to share and learn from each other.
By the way, I am feeling very down now, also, because of a terrible family rift (which is my fault). I'm trying to trust that things can get better. I hope you can, too.

Hi Tabitha.
I am also a Tabitha.
Kudos to you for feeling what you are feeling.
First things first, is there someone (preferably more than one person like family, friends, acquaintances?
Secondly,is there someone you can talk to, doesn't have to be a therapist.
Third, are you managing to eat, drink and sleep? A friend who is a mental health specialists says we should always start here.
Teenagers are tricky, because of the hormones and because they are starting to really see the harsh realities of life, but have not yet learnt coping mechanisms, so they lash out. It usually passes with time. Does your teen have god parents? Maybe they could be an outlet or venting space for your teen. Not that they have to force her to talk, they could talk about everything else. Maybe that could help.
I joined last week, and I have met some lovely people who want to listen, share, and support others. I am hoping to turn out like one of these beautiful souls.
Please reach out when you need it to vent or you feel it getting a lot worse.
Sending you light, tranquility, and hugs.
Tabitha

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I’m in a different social situation where I’m far from home I’m sick and can’t work. My husband is gone all day. I’m facing a horrible illness combined with mental illness depression ocd anxiety. The loneliness is the worst. I have no kids. My husband is exhausted with me. I too cry daily. I sees great therapist weekly and it helps. I need a friend and have reached out without much success. Prayer has helped. I’m here if you just need to talk.