@annshrader I realize this comment is a bit old but I'm looking at this subject after postponing it for a year. You make some wonderful ideals that don't necessarily agree with insurance. I've been around some 90+ yo relatives over the last decade. My 90+ uncle was denied a colonoscopy after a history of polyps and now my 96yo mother just had prescriptions pulled by her cardiologist because he was "concerned about her falling." She's the picture of health who still drives, attends PT and weekly hairdresser appts. The system doesn't like exceptions. I wish she wouldn't drive but I'd have to sue her and most likely lose. It's an unpleasant journey watching people you've known since birth wear out. I'm no spring chicken with a long list of surgeries and limitations. I see what's right in front of me. It's like, what's next? Nothing wrong with being nice Ann. This reminds me of my In-laws passing in their middle 90's. It was a long difficult process as my father in law had one cancer treatment after another. My wife was so selfless, being there for years. If I'm ever in his position I'd like to move on. Sorry, this is a difficult, mostly no win story and there are so many caretakers living it day after day. God bless them.
I was very moved by your story woojr. On the one hand, I hope to live well into my 90s. On the other hand, I fear the kind of prejudice from the healthcare industry you describe toward the elderly. (Although the part about suing your Mom did make me smile. At least your sense of humor is intact.)
You also talk about being able to take the step yourself to "move on", I assume once quality of life is gone. I agree. We treat our pets better than we treat ourselves. Some say life is precious and should be preserved under any conditions. And my response is that, because life IS precious, we should have the right and the means to end it when our suffering is endless.
Thanks again for your comment. Very thoughtful. I wish you and your wonderful Mom all the best. (And I have a great wife too. I wouldn't have made it through 4 joint replacements without her. Your wife sounds like a terrific person. You talk about her in the past tense, and if that's true, please accept my sincere condolences.)
Wow Barbara, and here I thought I was pretty tough.
You take first place! Good for you for doing the bilateral TKR. My brother did that. I did them separately, in 2023 about 4 months apart. This year I had my right hip replaced in March and an anatomical TSR about 3 months ago. I just finished PT for the shoulder.
I'm amazed you had RTS replacements within 7 months. I have a friend at the gym with an irreparable RC and he simply won't get the rTSR. No matter what he says about not being in pain, I think the tough guy is actually afraid of the procedure. And there are exercises he simply can't do, like an incline push up and a complete bicep curl. In the meantime, his RC is getting worse and the joint capsule is filling with scar tissue and fat. Eventually his shoulder will freeze, and then he'll be lucky if he can get a rTSR scheduled within 4 months.
And you are spot on as far as pain relief, which is almost immediate following surgery. If I could one thing differently, I would have had all my replacements done at least 6 months earlier, and spared myself a lot of pain.
Because let's face it, when you have an irreparable RC tear(s) and/or crippling, bone-on-bone arthritis in a shoulder, knee, or hip, the time to do the replacement is when you first feel the pain, and there are no other good options.
Anyway Barbara, thanks so much. You are very courageous and my hero!
What is the physical side effect you're having with your knee? I'm curious because 12 years isn't that long ago.
Anyway, your message of bravery totally made my day. Good for you Barbara!
@heyjoe415
I had both knees replaced at the same time. 3 months i ruptured my quadriceps tendon in left knee. Despite 2 attempts at surgical repair it didn't work. I'm left with a weak left knee despite multiple physical Therapy treatments I need to use a walker for stability. Been to multiple Dr's since to see if any new advances in medicine could repair it but told that since it was attempted twice that nothing further can be done. I'm apparently in that 1-2% that this can happen. My shoulders are doing wonderfully!!
I was very moved by your story woojr. On the one hand, I hope to live well into my 90s. On the other hand, I fear the kind of prejudice from the healthcare industry you describe toward the elderly. (Although the part about suing your Mom did make me smile. At least your sense of humor is intact.)
You also talk about being able to take the step yourself to "move on", I assume once quality of life is gone. I agree. We treat our pets better than we treat ourselves. Some say life is precious and should be preserved under any conditions. And my response is that, because life IS precious, we should have the right and the means to end it when our suffering is endless.
Thanks again for your comment. Very thoughtful. I wish you and your wonderful Mom all the best. (And I have a great wife too. I wouldn't have made it through 4 joint replacements without her. Your wife sounds like a terrific person. You talk about her in the past tense, and if that's true, please accept my sincere condolences.)
@heyjoe415 My wife is a year younger than me and fortunately in great health and is non stop. In fact she's on the phone about our RMD's and after a minute of AI talk she found out they were closed. LOL. As far as putting timelines on our world here on Earth, as I get older I basically have one hope, to not burden my wife with all the baggage I've accumulated. A lifetime of stuff keeps me from sleeping at times. I get up to pee at night and can't get back to sleep thinking of things that need to be dealt with. Thank you for the very nice thoughts. Made my day. Sincerely, John
@heyjoe415
I had both knees replaced at the same time. 3 months i ruptured my quadriceps tendon in left knee. Despite 2 attempts at surgical repair it didn't work. I'm left with a weak left knee despite multiple physical Therapy treatments I need to use a walker for stability. Been to multiple Dr's since to see if any new advances in medicine could repair it but told that since it was attempted twice that nothing further can be done. I'm apparently in that 1-2% that this can happen. My shoulders are doing wonderfully!!
Wow, a bilateral replacement, two for the price of one (OK, not really). I'm in awe of you Barbara. That is a big ask. Good for you for just getting it done.
My rehab from the TKRs was good and I had them done about 4 months apart. All of the joints I've had replaced, knees, right hip, left shoulder - feel great and most important, pain free. The only thing I would do differently - get the surgeries done before daily pain sets in. I knew I was gonna need replacements for my knees and shoulder and waited too long. My hip kinda snuck up on me. I didn't realize groin pain was likely caused by an arthritic hip.
I'm so sorry to hear about your quadriceps. I thought muscle tears like this one could be repaired. As you say you are in an unlucky and small minority. Please keep looking for an answer (I know you will). And I hope you find an answer and a fix.
Two questions - 1) how did you rupture a quadriceps muscle and 2) which quadriceps muscle(s) did you rupture? I think it's very hard to rupture a muscle that large, versus, say, an achilles tendon, or other tendon.
Of course part of the problem with any muscle injury, especially a tear, is the subsequent presence of scar tissue.
One suggestion for what it's worth. See if you can find a "Dr. of Physical Medicine". I found one at my orthopedic clinic and she is terrific at diagnosing and making recommendations for symptoms/conditions that have no easy answer.
These Drs used to do by "Dr of Sports Medicine", but that's misleading. Anyway worth a try. Whoever replaced your knees should know if the clinic has such a physician.
I'm amazed at your positive attitude! And I'm a little ashamed that I don't have a similar outlook. I try to live a day at a time and be thankful for all the gifts I've been given. You have motivated me to stay on top of that.
@heyjoe415 My wife is a year younger than me and fortunately in great health and is non stop. In fact she's on the phone about our RMD's and after a minute of AI talk she found out they were closed. LOL. As far as putting timelines on our world here on Earth, as I get older I basically have one hope, to not burden my wife with all the baggage I've accumulated. A lifetime of stuff keeps me from sleeping at times. I get up to pee at night and can't get back to sleep thinking of things that need to be dealt with. Thank you for the very nice thoughts. Made my day. Sincerely, John
You're very welcome John, and thank you for the kind reply. (RMDs are "required minimum distributions" from IRAs and other retirement accounts, right? My wife and I have to start dealing with those in two years - we're 71.)
I understand how the past can wear on a person. It's hard to turn off your mind. At night, I say a little serenity prayer, and it works, if you're a believer, or not:
"Please grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
You can address this to God or Jesus or Yahweh or Mohammed or Buddha, or just the universe at large. The part about "serenity to accept the things I cannot change" is very helpful for me, and it applies to all the things in my past I wish I hadn't done, or had done differently. Turns out it doesn't matter. We can't change any of it, and from a place of serenity, we can accept that. It works most of the time for me, and I hope you find it useful.
And for those things in my past where I have hurt another person or persons, I've made every effort to make amends, and not just an apology. It's easier than it sounds. Most people are very forgiving, or they've forgotten the grievance.
You're very welcome John, and thank you for the kind reply. (RMDs are "required minimum distributions" from IRAs and other retirement accounts, right? My wife and I have to start dealing with those in two years - we're 71.)
I understand how the past can wear on a person. It's hard to turn off your mind. At night, I say a little serenity prayer, and it works, if you're a believer, or not:
"Please grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
You can address this to God or Jesus or Yahweh or Mohammed or Buddha, or just the universe at large. The part about "serenity to accept the things I cannot change" is very helpful for me, and it applies to all the things in my past I wish I hadn't done, or had done differently. Turns out it doesn't matter. We can't change any of it, and from a place of serenity, we can accept that. It works most of the time for me, and I hope you find it useful.
And for those things in my past where I have hurt another person or persons, I've made every effort to make amends, and not just an apology. It's easier than it sounds. Most people are very forgiving, or they've forgotten the grievance.
@heyjoe415 We're believers for many years. This is my first RMD year. I too have learned what influence I have and while it can be frustrating, it seems to help understanding it. Got it from a therapist after the world got too busy for me and I learned about anxiety and pills. Fortunately it worked out okay and the big company I worked for was generous with their benefits. These writings are helpful at times but I'm at a point where I can't remember things like I used to. Mainly nouns, things, names and people etc. I leave things out and don't take the time to reread what Ive written. Love it how the computer helps fix it. Well have a great weekend, I'm off to do chores. John I've never used emojis, is that odd today?
Wow, a bilateral replacement, two for the price of one (OK, not really). I'm in awe of you Barbara. That is a big ask. Good for you for just getting it done.
My rehab from the TKRs was good and I had them done about 4 months apart. All of the joints I've had replaced, knees, right hip, left shoulder - feel great and most important, pain free. The only thing I would do differently - get the surgeries done before daily pain sets in. I knew I was gonna need replacements for my knees and shoulder and waited too long. My hip kinda snuck up on me. I didn't realize groin pain was likely caused by an arthritic hip.
I'm so sorry to hear about your quadriceps. I thought muscle tears like this one could be repaired. As you say you are in an unlucky and small minority. Please keep looking for an answer (I know you will). And I hope you find an answer and a fix.
Two questions - 1) how did you rupture a quadriceps muscle and 2) which quadriceps muscle(s) did you rupture? I think it's very hard to rupture a muscle that large, versus, say, an achilles tendon, or other tendon.
Of course part of the problem with any muscle injury, especially a tear, is the subsequent presence of scar tissue.
One suggestion for what it's worth. See if you can find a "Dr. of Physical Medicine". I found one at my orthopedic clinic and she is terrific at diagnosing and making recommendations for symptoms/conditions that have no easy answer.
These Drs used to do by "Dr of Sports Medicine", but that's misleading. Anyway worth a try. Whoever replaced your knees should know if the clinic has such a physician.
I'm amazed at your positive attitude! And I'm a little ashamed that I don't have a similar outlook. I try to live a day at a time and be thankful for all the gifts I've been given. You have motivated me to stay on top of that.
@heyjoe415
Thanks for responding. It was not the muscle it was the quadriceps tendon that ruptured in my left knee. It happened one morning 3 months after the replacements were done, while coming downstairs. As mentioned he tried twice to repair it (second time was with a donor graft) but am still left with extreme weakness in my left knee. I will keep on looking for someone to help. Been through multiple stints of physical therapy but the muscle isn't anchored to the bones. Thanks for the recommendation of a Dr of Physical Medicine. I will look into that. My positive attitude comes from the thought that things could be worse but I choose not to let it get me down!! I deal with this issue daily but it's a matter of how you let it effect you. Thanks again for your response. Barb
@heyjoe415 We're believers for many years. This is my first RMD year. I too have learned what influence I have and while it can be frustrating, it seems to help understanding it. Got it from a therapist after the world got too busy for me and I learned about anxiety and pills. Fortunately it worked out okay and the big company I worked for was generous with their benefits. These writings are helpful at times but I'm at a point where I can't remember things like I used to. Mainly nouns, things, names and people etc. I leave things out and don't take the time to reread what Ive written. Love it how the computer helps fix it. Well have a great weekend, I'm off to do chores. John I've never used emojis, is that odd today?
Wow how very similar our stories are. I battled depression, anxiety, and panic attacks since I was 18 back in 1972.
Back then there were do anti-depressant drugs, just stuff like valium that they would never give a teenager. My parents didn't get it, our Dr didn't get it.
I was told by our Dr that it was time for me to "paddle my own canoe." Those words hurt to this day. But my parents and our Dr simply didn't know any better. They were working with what they knew and their experience. To them, I looked like someone who was a candidate for an asylum. I learned quickly to keep it hidden. Fortunately, there weren't many panic attacks, but depression was fierce at times and a total mystery.
They convinced me I must be the problem, and I suffered under that misconception for a long time. I took up marathon running in my 30s and 40s, and that helped. Then I stopped in 1999 and the anxiety and depression roared back. I finally asked for help from a new Dr, and he helped me immensely.
As for forgetting things, now that I'm 71, that's pretty much a daily occurrence. I do read a lot and stay physically active - in the gym everyday. So I have a lot to be grateful for.
As for RMDs, unless you're comfortable handling that, I'd turn it over to a tax preparer to determine what needs to be withdrawn and when. I do our taxes, and while we are two years away from RMDs, they are very confusing.
And your writing is very good! Spellcheck does help, but you still have to get your thoughts in writing and you do a great job.
Wow how very similar our stories are. I battled depression, anxiety, and panic attacks since I was 18 back in 1972.
Back then there were do anti-depressant drugs, just stuff like valium that they would never give a teenager. My parents didn't get it, our Dr didn't get it.
I was told by our Dr that it was time for me to "paddle my own canoe." Those words hurt to this day. But my parents and our Dr simply didn't know any better. They were working with what they knew and their experience. To them, I looked like someone who was a candidate for an asylum. I learned quickly to keep it hidden. Fortunately, there weren't many panic attacks, but depression was fierce at times and a total mystery.
They convinced me I must be the problem, and I suffered under that misconception for a long time. I took up marathon running in my 30s and 40s, and that helped. Then I stopped in 1999 and the anxiety and depression roared back. I finally asked for help from a new Dr, and he helped me immensely.
As for forgetting things, now that I'm 71, that's pretty much a daily occurrence. I do read a lot and stay physically active - in the gym everyday. So I have a lot to be grateful for.
As for RMDs, unless you're comfortable handling that, I'd turn it over to a tax preparer to determine what needs to be withdrawn and when. I do our taxes, and while we are two years away from RMDs, they are very confusing.
And your writing is very good! Spellcheck does help, but you still have to get your thoughts in writing and you do a great job.
@heyjoe415 Hi Joe, the RMD's are pretty easy looking. My brokerage account is through Charles Schwab and they basically did the math and said click here. I have a couple others in Midland that require some paperwork. My wife's pretty sharp and likes handling problems on the old fashioned thing called a telephone.
My experience with mental health reared its head at the peak of my responsibility. Kids, one pregnant at 17 another was a really good athelete who got away with murder in HS. He joined the Army with a neighbor when 911 hit and then got lucky with a major football injury that caused blood clots. They sent him home from boot camp. He's rich as hell now with a big commercial electrical business. He's a shark now working with three other companies in Florida, New York and new one I forget. He's great at delegating and leaves things for others to handle. My middle child, my favorite, just left her guy and I'm paying her rent. Strange but it feels good to help her.
I was an okay speller but I leave words out and don't look back usually. I don't think many people read these things that closely.
So back to the 90's. My job was a physical job and I started having joint problems requiring surgery and PT. I was able to use a therapist and get pills from the company programs. I eventually went off on a disability pension.
They were cutting back and were quite benevolent employers.
I struggle reading. Can't remember much. I enjoyed European history like the lead up to WW1 through the 50's. I have a lot of history books and think I'm going to try reading again. Well I'm off to take mom to the dentist.
@heyjoe415 Hi Joe, the RMD's are pretty easy looking. My brokerage account is through Charles Schwab and they basically did the math and said click here. I have a couple others in Midland that require some paperwork. My wife's pretty sharp and likes handling problems on the old fashioned thing called a telephone.
My experience with mental health reared its head at the peak of my responsibility. Kids, one pregnant at 17 another was a really good athelete who got away with murder in HS. He joined the Army with a neighbor when 911 hit and then got lucky with a major football injury that caused blood clots. They sent him home from boot camp. He's rich as hell now with a big commercial electrical business. He's a shark now working with three other companies in Florida, New York and new one I forget. He's great at delegating and leaves things for others to handle. My middle child, my favorite, just left her guy and I'm paying her rent. Strange but it feels good to help her.
I was an okay speller but I leave words out and don't look back usually. I don't think many people read these things that closely.
So back to the 90's. My job was a physical job and I started having joint problems requiring surgery and PT. I was able to use a therapist and get pills from the company programs. I eventually went off on a disability pension.
They were cutting back and were quite benevolent employers.
I struggle reading. Can't remember much. I enjoyed European history like the lead up to WW1 through the 50's. I have a lot of history books and think I'm going to try reading again. Well I'm off to take mom to the dentist.
@woojr Just one last thought, I felt a lot better when I was 71. Really, and that was when my mother was getting scammed, blaming all her woes on me getting the police involved. That was really difficult. She's tough, still drives, has no respect for risks. Which leads to trusting everyone.
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I was very moved by your story woojr. On the one hand, I hope to live well into my 90s. On the other hand, I fear the kind of prejudice from the healthcare industry you describe toward the elderly. (Although the part about suing your Mom did make me smile. At least your sense of humor is intact.)
You also talk about being able to take the step yourself to "move on", I assume once quality of life is gone. I agree. We treat our pets better than we treat ourselves. Some say life is precious and should be preserved under any conditions. And my response is that, because life IS precious, we should have the right and the means to end it when our suffering is endless.
Thanks again for your comment. Very thoughtful. I wish you and your wonderful Mom all the best. (And I have a great wife too. I wouldn't have made it through 4 joint replacements without her. Your wife sounds like a terrific person. You talk about her in the past tense, and if that's true, please accept my sincere condolences.)
Joe
@heyjoe415
I had both knees replaced at the same time. 3 months i ruptured my quadriceps tendon in left knee. Despite 2 attempts at surgical repair it didn't work. I'm left with a weak left knee despite multiple physical Therapy treatments I need to use a walker for stability. Been to multiple Dr's since to see if any new advances in medicine could repair it but told that since it was attempted twice that nothing further can be done. I'm apparently in that 1-2% that this can happen. My shoulders are doing wonderfully!!
@heyjoe415 My wife is a year younger than me and fortunately in great health and is non stop. In fact she's on the phone about our RMD's and after a minute of AI talk she found out they were closed. LOL. As far as putting timelines on our world here on Earth, as I get older I basically have one hope, to not burden my wife with all the baggage I've accumulated. A lifetime of stuff keeps me from sleeping at times. I get up to pee at night and can't get back to sleep thinking of things that need to be dealt with. Thank you for the very nice thoughts. Made my day. Sincerely, John
Wow, a bilateral replacement, two for the price of one (OK, not really). I'm in awe of you Barbara. That is a big ask. Good for you for just getting it done.
My rehab from the TKRs was good and I had them done about 4 months apart. All of the joints I've had replaced, knees, right hip, left shoulder - feel great and most important, pain free. The only thing I would do differently - get the surgeries done before daily pain sets in. I knew I was gonna need replacements for my knees and shoulder and waited too long. My hip kinda snuck up on me. I didn't realize groin pain was likely caused by an arthritic hip.
I'm so sorry to hear about your quadriceps. I thought muscle tears like this one could be repaired. As you say you are in an unlucky and small minority. Please keep looking for an answer (I know you will). And I hope you find an answer and a fix.
Two questions - 1) how did you rupture a quadriceps muscle and 2) which quadriceps muscle(s) did you rupture? I think it's very hard to rupture a muscle that large, versus, say, an achilles tendon, or other tendon.
Of course part of the problem with any muscle injury, especially a tear, is the subsequent presence of scar tissue.
One suggestion for what it's worth. See if you can find a "Dr. of Physical Medicine". I found one at my orthopedic clinic and she is terrific at diagnosing and making recommendations for symptoms/conditions that have no easy answer.
These Drs used to do by "Dr of Sports Medicine", but that's misleading. Anyway worth a try. Whoever replaced your knees should know if the clinic has such a physician.
I'm amazed at your positive attitude! And I'm a little ashamed that I don't have a similar outlook. I try to live a day at a time and be thankful for all the gifts I've been given. You have motivated me to stay on top of that.
All the best to you Barbara.
Joe
You're very welcome John, and thank you for the kind reply. (RMDs are "required minimum distributions" from IRAs and other retirement accounts, right? My wife and I have to start dealing with those in two years - we're 71.)
I understand how the past can wear on a person. It's hard to turn off your mind. At night, I say a little serenity prayer, and it works, if you're a believer, or not:
"Please grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
You can address this to God or Jesus or Yahweh or Mohammed or Buddha, or just the universe at large. The part about "serenity to accept the things I cannot change" is very helpful for me, and it applies to all the things in my past I wish I hadn't done, or had done differently. Turns out it doesn't matter. We can't change any of it, and from a place of serenity, we can accept that. It works most of the time for me, and I hope you find it useful.
And for those things in my past where I have hurt another person or persons, I've made every effort to make amends, and not just an apology. It's easier than it sounds. Most people are very forgiving, or they've forgotten the grievance.
All the best John.
Joe
@heyjoe415 We're believers for many years. This is my first RMD year. I too have learned what influence I have and while it can be frustrating, it seems to help understanding it. Got it from a therapist after the world got too busy for me and I learned about anxiety and pills. Fortunately it worked out okay and the big company I worked for was generous with their benefits. These writings are helpful at times but I'm at a point where I can't remember things like I used to. Mainly nouns, things, names and people etc. I leave things out and don't take the time to reread what Ive written. Love it how the computer helps fix it. Well have a great weekend, I'm off to do chores. John I've never used emojis, is that odd today?
@heyjoe415
Thanks for responding. It was not the muscle it was the quadriceps tendon that ruptured in my left knee. It happened one morning 3 months after the replacements were done, while coming downstairs. As mentioned he tried twice to repair it (second time was with a donor graft) but am still left with extreme weakness in my left knee. I will keep on looking for someone to help. Been through multiple stints of physical therapy but the muscle isn't anchored to the bones. Thanks for the recommendation of a Dr of Physical Medicine. I will look into that. My positive attitude comes from the thought that things could be worse but I choose not to let it get me down!! I deal with this issue daily but it's a matter of how you let it effect you. Thanks again for your response. Barb
Hello John!
Wow how very similar our stories are. I battled depression, anxiety, and panic attacks since I was 18 back in 1972.
Back then there were do anti-depressant drugs, just stuff like valium that they would never give a teenager. My parents didn't get it, our Dr didn't get it.
I was told by our Dr that it was time for me to "paddle my own canoe." Those words hurt to this day. But my parents and our Dr simply didn't know any better. They were working with what they knew and their experience. To them, I looked like someone who was a candidate for an asylum. I learned quickly to keep it hidden. Fortunately, there weren't many panic attacks, but depression was fierce at times and a total mystery.
They convinced me I must be the problem, and I suffered under that misconception for a long time. I took up marathon running in my 30s and 40s, and that helped. Then I stopped in 1999 and the anxiety and depression roared back. I finally asked for help from a new Dr, and he helped me immensely.
As for forgetting things, now that I'm 71, that's pretty much a daily occurrence. I do read a lot and stay physically active - in the gym everyday. So I have a lot to be grateful for.
As for RMDs, unless you're comfortable handling that, I'd turn it over to a tax preparer to determine what needs to be withdrawn and when. I do our taxes, and while we are two years away from RMDs, they are very confusing.
And your writing is very good! Spellcheck does help, but you still have to get your thoughts in writing and you do a great job.
Thanks John! And Happy Thanksgiving!
Joe
@heyjoe415 Hi Joe, the RMD's are pretty easy looking. My brokerage account is through Charles Schwab and they basically did the math and said click here. I have a couple others in Midland that require some paperwork. My wife's pretty sharp and likes handling problems on the old fashioned thing called a telephone.
My experience with mental health reared its head at the peak of my responsibility. Kids, one pregnant at 17 another was a really good athelete who got away with murder in HS. He joined the Army with a neighbor when 911 hit and then got lucky with a major football injury that caused blood clots. They sent him home from boot camp. He's rich as hell now with a big commercial electrical business. He's a shark now working with three other companies in Florida, New York and new one I forget. He's great at delegating and leaves things for others to handle. My middle child, my favorite, just left her guy and I'm paying her rent. Strange but it feels good to help her.
I was an okay speller but I leave words out and don't look back usually. I don't think many people read these things that closely.
So back to the 90's. My job was a physical job and I started having joint problems requiring surgery and PT. I was able to use a therapist and get pills from the company programs. I eventually went off on a disability pension.
They were cutting back and were quite benevolent employers.
I struggle reading. Can't remember much. I enjoyed European history like the lead up to WW1 through the 50's. I have a lot of history books and think I'm going to try reading again. Well I'm off to take mom to the dentist.
Have a great holiday, John
@woojr Just one last thought, I felt a lot better when I was 71. Really, and that was when my mother was getting scammed, blaming all her woes on me getting the police involved. That was really difficult. She's tough, still drives, has no respect for risks. Which leads to trusting everyone.