Sex drive

Posted by dani349 @dani349, Apr 22 4:21pm

hello to my amazing people! I hope everyone is doing the best they can with what they have! Take one day at a time' so I have a question for my W&w and others. Have you noticed a decrease in your sex drive. Meaning you not wanting to do it. ( tmi, but we are friends so I can share) I was having relations with my partner and nothing happened! I mean nothing !! This hasn't happened before!! Just curious ! This could be menopause!😱😱

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kayabbott | @kayabbott | Apr 23 6:54am

Menopause does result in decreased estrogen and progesterone, which is a factor that is likely a gradual change. Doctors and you can evaluate is hormone replacement is good (impacts breast cancer risk, other pros and cons). Getting older is a factor with less energy (at 70 I don't bounce off walls as well) and also collecting diseases impacts drive. Sex also takes more effort (and lube). Most partners don't know where the pertinent nerves are, and for men blood flow tends to decrease down there (ED). Here is a link and there are books/papers on staying frisky when older. https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/how-sex-changes-after-menopause#:~:text=Your%20estrogen%20takes%20a%20nosedive,for%20you%20to%20become%20aroused.

Patty, Volunteer Mentor | @pmm | Apr 24 3:38pm

@dani349
Good question! I would second everything that @kayabbott said and will add that anxiety about your health and the impact of some medications impact libido.
It’s definitely worth a talk with your GYN as sexual expression is important in relationships and to each of us as humans.
We shouldn’t just accept that it’s one of the inevitable impacts of menopause, illness or aging.
I’m so glad you brought this up. Have you talked to any of your doctors about it?

dani349 | @dani349 | Apr 24 11:50pm

In reply to @pmm "@dani349 Good question! I would second everything that @kayabbott said and will add that anxiety about..." + (show)

Hey ! Yes so my hem/onc doc says it's nothing with SLL . If it continues contact my primary. I'm thinking it's mental. I've been tired and it's stressing me out whether it's related to SLL or work! So I think that's it..

Patty, Volunteer Mentor | @pmm | Apr 25 8:27am

@dani349
It happens. It’s not like we don’t have anything to preoccupy us. The Mayo has a seemingly inexhaustible supply of useful information and I found this helpful. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/low-sex-drive-in-women/symptoms-causes/syc-20374554#:~:text=Factors%20that%20can%20raise%20the,affect%20your%20state%20of%20mind.

nohrt4me | @nohrt4me | Apr 25 9:33am

70 yrs old, oral chemo for six years for ET. No libido side effects here, but husband is advised to use a condom (as are most partners of those using ongoing chemo), and he doesn't wanna. ET probably won't kill you if you treat it, but it can kill the mood.

Patty, Volunteer Mentor | @pmm | Apr 25 10:54am

@nohrt4me
*sigh
I don’t know what it is with guys and condoms. They are available in so many different styles now. Might be fun to pick some out together to try if you are both willing. There are all kinds of condom stores on the internet with an infinite variety.
Safety first.