Recent, totally sudden, traumatic loss of our daughter, 45.

Blessings. I am responding to tell you that my adult son died a traumatic death. I saw a grief counselor who specializes in helping parents and families deal with unexpected death. The other thing I did was talk to people who have experienced the death of a child. These two things have saved my life, literally. This is a safe place and you will find that that, somehow, hope will peak through for a tiny second through your years. By hope, I mean that you will make it through the morning. And then the afternoon. And quite possibly the whole day. A parent's tears do not ever go away but hold tight to that wispy thread of hope. We are here for you .

Hello @ihtak46,

I am so sorry to hear of the sudden loss of your daughter. How very tragic! As a mother myself, I can only imagine the pain you must feel right now. We have another discussion group here on Connect titled, What To Do When There is No Closure. You might consider posting there as well. I feel sure you will find support and encouragement.
https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/loss-what-do-you-do-when-there-is-no-closure/
I will certainly think (and pray) for you, your husband and your daughter's spouse as well.

@ihtak46 Good morning K. My heart breaks for you. I wish so much that you and your husband didn't have to go through this. I think an angel made sure you had that girl's week before your daughter was called home. I am here for you any time you want to talk or need an extra hug.

so very sorry for your loss. I have had a lot of loss in the last 8 months and it has not gotten easier. I wish I could tell you it has an end..but unfortunately,, I cannot tell you that. They say we all grieve in our own way and for however long we need... no set limit. So, take ALL the time you need and do what you have to do. Just one day at a time. The memories can be painful but happy. Keep talking to people. Find a grief support group later ( not now). The ONLY thing I can think of that might help you is to move ( temporarily) to where you do have friends and family for the rest of the summer. You WILL need a support group of something.. relatives, friends, therapists, support group.... anything... And keep talking. Keep reaching out. I wish you all my energy I have left to help get you thru this. Hugs to you and your family.

Thank you Georgette for your reply. Yes, I do feel I need to talk to other parents. At times it’s difficult though. It is so hard to look at pictures of us, even from months and months ago let alone recent ones. Yes, I so seek others. Do I do it in the same way we are corresponding or do I go to a separate forum?
Thank you Georgette. I am so sorry to hear of your loss as well. Was it recent Georgette?
Prayers!
Kathi

Thank you.
God, I wish I could be nearer to my family. Since we live in SC
( Hilton Head area) moving back to Ohio temporarily would not be possible ( husband most likely wouldnt). Im hoping to get involved with a group.
Im sad for your loss as well. Losing ones only child, is beyond devastating. She was 45. 46 on Aug 2; She passed on June 3......2 months today.

Hello again. My own son died in 2016. I'm not sure on this forum if there is another site regarding this. Although on the web there are grief support groups which I find helpful . Let me check that for you.

http://Www.compassionatefriends.org

So the compassionate friends.
Org website is in my reply above. Did that come through ok?

Georgette
It came through fine. Thank you.