Question regarding bypass surgery

Hi @happilyalive!
I think it's great that you are thinking ahead and trying to be the best caregiver you can be for your husband. It sounds like you have already been on this journey for some time...so just a little extra planning on your part.

The hospital nurses and case managers will likely go over all the things to prepare for his coming home.
I believe each hospital has similar but also different protocols for post op open heart surgery, so it's difficult to say with certainty what they will advise. And each and every person is different and will experience a different recovery.
Your husband sounds like he's been through quite a lot in his time here on the planet. The good thing about open heart surgery is they are so advanced now days compared to years gone by, that recovery's don't typically last as long as they did.
For instance, depending on how he's doing, they will get him up out of bed the first day. Movement and physical activity is really important. Being slightly impaired on one side may contribute to a more difficult time, but not impossible.
Diet is important after a big surgery like this.
Protein is important for healing.
For myself, my taster was off for the first couple of weeks and nothing tasted really good. Spicy or flavorful foods were gross to me at first. YUK!
You may want think ahead and maybe get some protein drinks.
Premiere Protein at Costco was a good choice for lack of appetite but needing protein.

A recliner may be useful for the first couple of weeks.
He won't be able to use his arm for much of anything.

Easy on/Easy off clothing.
Like t-shirts and sweat pants/joggers and slip on shoes. This just makes it easy to dress and be comfortable at the same time.

He may need a walker, which the hospital will determine. For stability in walking.

As for personality changes, I would say it is temporary. This is a big surgery. There is a lot of anxiety and fear associated with open heart surgery. For good reason. And sometimes the ICU experience can get to you.
All normal. All expected.
Again, for myself, I was so grateful to God that I survived. I felt like I'd been given a second chance at life. I was emotional about ICU at first, but being able to see how each day got better and better gave me hope and if anything, my faith grew stronger!
You need to take care of you too! Do you have family or friends or neighbors near-by that can help give you a break if you need one? I would say you are safe to leave him alone after a few days, but if you are used to watching him like a hawk, it may be hard for you to even go to the grocery store without worrying!
Do you like to read or have a hobby you enjoy that you can do while he's home? Something to get your mind off things and take a little break?

Wow, thank you for replying to this post. My husband already uses a walker to help him to stand and walk short distances. Anything beyond that is beyond what he can do. He is frightened about being forced into rehab but I truly think it would be the best thing for him to build a little more strength and to conquer some of the tasks he can now do such as standing for a short time period so I can help him dress, shower or even just walk. He also has LBBB and his blood pressure plummets which causes him to pass out often. I loved your advice on things to get and what to expect. It helped and still helps me to plan accordingly and to know what to expect. To answer your question, I have a daughter that will be visiting for a short time (3 days) before she has to return to her home and job. So, for the most part, I will be doing his care alone. We moved into our home two years ago and still have things to unpack so I'll be spending what time he is sleeping working on that. As for hobbies, my basement is loaded so it will also give me a short time period to start on at least one of them or donate some of them to a fellow hobbier. Just know that I greatly appreciate all of the advice, information and thoughts. If you think of more, then I'm here to listen and learn. Have a great day and I hope that you have fully recovered. Update me when you can on how you are doing now. Thanks.

Simply, I don't know. What you SHOULD look forward to is some kind of noticeable improvements if for no other reason than suddenly his body is being perfused with more oxygen and nutrient-rich blood. I expect, but again don't know, that his heart may be in hear failure due to the deterioration, and maybe his comorbidities are largely due to, or have been exacerbated by, his poor heart function. If the stents, and the team inserting them, find the magic, you may get a large chunk of your hubby back.
This will take time. He's already pretty beaten up, and now this. I would expect him to lean on you heavily for as much as two weeks, but maybe a lot less if the stents do their magic. Maybe a month....depends on how he rolls with it. I'm dealing with a sick wife, very-aged dad, and his partner who has been in hospital a week needing a pacemaker rather urgently. I'm run almost ragged. I'm no hero, but I learned in the military to put my head down, squint a bit, and just put my shoulder to the grind. It ends ere long.