Problem Taking Showers

Posted by nscappa @nscappa, Apr 22, 2023

I have mentioned this sensitive subject in the past but it's not getting any better. I do have depression and I take Lexapro, Lamictal, and now Abilify. The Abilify really screwed me up re mania, insomnia, constipation, talking incessantly, etc. I switched to half a pill every other day. I mention the meds just so you would l know what I am taking. The issue with taking a shower is still a huge effort way too hard to get in that shower. Is anyone else having this problem? It's really upsetting because I have always been such an immaculate person re hygiene. I do live alone so that saves me somewhat. This is really a big problem for me. Any comments?

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njoys | @njoys | Feb 18 6:47am

In reply to @nscappa "Thank you so much for the information. What would I look under?" + (show)

Google "help with vet bills" for starters. Good luck.

nscappa | @nscappa | Feb 18 6:51am

In reply to @njoys "Google "help with vet bills" for starters. Good luck." + (show)

Oh, I thought meant on this site. Silly me! Thanks again, Nancy

nscappa | @nscappa | Feb 18 6:54am

In reply to @gingerw "@nscappa There are times I feel like you do, that getting into the shower and all..." + (show)

Hi Ginger,
Thank you for telling me about this. I will definitely look them up, probably on Ebay too. Your are so sweet. Nancy : )

raebaby | @raebaby | Feb 18 2:10pm

In reply to @nscappa "Thank you so much for the information. What would I look under?" + (show)

I'm not sure. Maybe try the Humane Society or the pound for information. There are several rescue organizations in my small town. Maybe even try a "go fund me."

raebaby | @raebaby | Feb 18 2:16pm

In reply to @nscappa "Thank you so much for the information. What would I look under?" + (show)

I found this.
https://www.thewildest.com/pet-health/help-paying-veterinary-bills-for-pet

andytheman | @andytheman | Feb 18 3:57pm

I have to post this because the site will not allow me to edit answers after it’s been posted for a bit. I wish they could give me enough time to correct grammatical errors but I wanted to add something to my post.
I didn’t want you to think that I was minimizing your furbaby’s need for a vet. I apologize if I offended you that wasn’t my intention. Regarding showers. Just one thing that makes me skittish about taking a shower is I use a cane to get around. Although there are plenty of grab bars the problem is the floor is new and made with very slippery tiles.
I end up putting towels on the floor.

nscappa | @nscappa | Feb 19 9:26am

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@nscappa

Aww, you are so sweet. Here is what just happened to me which really threw me. I don't know if it's proper to discuss things that aren't related to this thread but I think this one is. The other day I was really overwhelmed thinking about the money for Lola and if I would have enough left over to buy food. I know. Well, after I left my message for my "best friend of 50 years" and didn't get a call back (considering how I was feeling) I just went on with my day and anxiety. After that I spoke with a friend who I hadn't spoken with in about 8 years which took about 1-1/2 hours. During that call I got a call from my "best friend" which I could not answer nor one from my niece. Trying to make this short, I did not get back to her that day. She called me the next day and was very upset because I didn't get back to her the same day because I made her worry so I apologized many times but she was still make a big thing of it so after a while we decided to let it go and had a great conversation and we decided that we were good and ended on a good note. Next day at 9:22 am (when she emailed me) she told me that when she was concerned I said that I thought she was overreacting a bit but she didn't like that all and told me that she was sick of listening to my problems and that they brought her down when she is happy and that I should see a therapist and that she could not take it anymore. I was shocked by this. I wrote her two more emails and in the last one I told her that I would not call her until she apologized for the nasty email. Her next email said "don't call me anymore". How about that! I have listened to her for hours about her problems and never complained and I am a good listener. I must add that Helen is a recovering alcoholic and I have always believed her when she said that she hasn't had a drink is 16 years. The only time she acts like (mean) is when she is drinking. I just don't know but this is it for me, I will not be spoken to like after being such a good friend to her. It takes a lot for me to end a friendship but I don't deserve to be treated like that. Sorry for the length of this but I know you will understand. I hope I haven't overdone it. Nancy : )

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Oh boy, I thought this long one would just go to the person whom I was speaking to, I didn't mean for it to go to others for obvious reasons. I wasn't sure if it were proper to post something that was more on the personal side. Well, thank you and I hope that the person I wanted it to go to will see it. Sometimes I don't think I use this site correctly re reply or comment. Is there a way that I can just reply to the person I am replying to?? Nancy : )

nscappa | @nscappa | Feb 19 9:29am

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Andy, no problem I appreciate your comment and I certainly hope that you never end up on the floor. One day I couldn't get out of the tub and I was so worried (my legs weren't strong enough so I started exercising) but eventually I made it out. I'm 5'9" and I take up the whole tub! : )

nscappa | @nscappa | Feb 19 9:35am

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@wendymae

Well, I just threw that question into the Google Machine. Which is how I found your thread lol. What I had put in there was at times I do not bathe for months at a time…

(my fiancé and I have had a discussion several times about how not one day have I ever smelled bad) WTH?! Not that I’m complaining nor is my fiancé, LMAO
😜

How do I force myself to do so. The best that I came across in the five minutes i went through until I found yours, was to break the task, bathing, down into smaller, more tangible steps… (Bite size steps, I like to say lol) Saying that breaking it down into bite-size steps would help to allow you of accomplishing your daily bathing routine.

The reason that that plan really makes sense for me, is because the main reason am I unable to get myself to bathe is because, just the idea of me getting myself into the shower, cleaning myself, washing my hair, rinsing my hair, conditioning, my hair, rinsing conditioner for my hair, shaving my legs, drying off, blow drying my naturally long curly hair (that sometimes takes 12 to 14 hours to dry naturally h
ugh 😑) and putting make up on and then finding clothes that I like is hugely, enormous and over-f’’n-welming. Just thinking about it sends me into a deeper depression. Ugh 😑

And for me at least, it really sucks for me because my fiancé whom I’ve been with for seven years now, lives with me, and when we first got together, I had bathed daily and too made myself all pretty from head2toe every single day. Wow just typing that out. Made me realize how much he really probably hates this about my depression also. LMAO 😜

Now I’m going to read through the comments in your thread and see what everyone told you. Hopefully you found yourself a solution that works for you. And too, hopefully I will find at least one here that will work for myself.

Best of all to you & stay
safe out there 🥰
Wendy Mae

P.S. Yes, I had to edit my comment, and the reason for my doing so is because I have carpal tunnel syndrome. So mostly while on me phone I will use voice to text.

Giving my really strong southern accent that I have, if I forget to check what it says for me, at least half of it is wrong. So I’m pretty happy that I did read it through. Because would have sounded like a second-grader otherwise 😉

Perhaps next time I will remember to check it before I push send. And that right there is I’ll have to say about that. Now I’m going to try and re-create comments on your thread. Lol 😂

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Oh boy, Wendy I sent you a very long message but I think I sent it to myself. ) : I'm not sure I use this site correctly. It's really too long to retype so I'll let it go. I really enjoyed this one from you. You have a great sense of humor. I failed to respond to some of your questions before. I'm sorry that you are having health problems also. BTW, how do you get the emogi's? Nancy

frankbukowski | @frankbukowski | Feb 20 12:31pm

I know how it feels. I have had intermittent periods, weeks or months, when it was almost impossible for me to take a shower. It's gotten better recently because I decided I was just going to FORCE myself to get into that spray. I know it sounds "crazy" (can I use that word here?) that we can't take a shower, but that is the reality of the situation. I may be better because of my drugs; I take clonazepam and Wellbutrin, and things got better once I GOT OFF of Ritalin. I wish you all the best in dealing with this; it is very difficult.