Prepared for a Medical Emergency?

Posted by fiesty76 @fiesty76, Oct 11, 2020

My neighbor friend called Thurs almost hysterical: "Please call 911 and come down. Bob (in mid 80s) has fallen." When I hurried over, Judy was so red in the face, I was as concerned for her as for Bob. I have never seen someone so flushed. I asked her sit down and fortunately EMS arrived in minutes. Hooray for them!

While others tended to Bob, I asked another to take Judy's b.p. because I feared a stroke or heart attack. Her b.p. was high but not alarmingly so. Next day I learned she flushes easily but I’d never seen another so startlingly red.

Judy was in such shock that she couldn't give EMS information...his cardio's name, which hospital, what medicine's Bob takes. I reminded her that Bob had a pacemaker, named his cardio because he was the one I'd rec'd to them a few yrs ago and which hospital Bob had put his brother in.
The EMS team were great; it took 4 of them to lift Bob onto a guerney while a 5th one and I tried to get info from Judy.

I told her I couldn't drive her to the hospital because I am still out of commission with my back. She was in such shock she couldn't remember how to get to the nearby main street that would take her straight down to the hospital. I wrote directions for her, told her to take Bob's billfold, ins info, his glasses,her billfold, a mask, her glasses and more. Was there someone she could call to drive her or follow her to the hospital? No, she could do it. She called me about 10 minutes later to say that she had gone to the wrong hospital, much farther away! I asked if she had GPS on her phone or car and she did.

Incredibly there were no broken bones but a cut on his head and his glassy stare as they carted him to ambulance made me think maybe a stroke or heart attack. A brain scan revealed a tumor on the brain which caused a seizure leading to his fall in the bathroom. Determination for surgery has not yet been made.

Living alone, I'd earlier prepared a folder "For Emergency" and have it on credenza by front door. It contains:
1. "Vial of Life" emergency info sheet (www.americanmedicalalarms.com);
2. Medical Directive Concerning Medical Orders for Scope of Treatment (includes DNR) (don't have web site) Orders differ per state in U.S. and this lists for each.
3. List of doctors; 4. List of medications; 5. copy of insurance card and driver's license & location of hidden house key

In sharing with another single friend later about this and how Judy was in such shock she couldn't answer EMS questions or think about what she needed for the hospital, my friend had never considered making this emerg. info. readily available in case of emergency.

Medical emergency information may have been shared and discussed earlier on forums but witnessing first hand how neither the patient nor partner could not provide information to EMS alarmed me so I'm sharing my experience here.

It might be worth a few minutes of preparation to have this info. handy. Best to all.

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@fiesty76

@gingerw, Thank you so much for your post. I wish I could impress on your hubby and so many others who put off creating their estate plans and final wishes the importance of doing so. It took a stroke for me to realize the urgency in updating my affairs and making them readily available for my daughter. The peace of mind I have, like yours, of having my affairs in order is incomparable. "Saying it" as you wrote has no bearing in a court of law as my dear friend has recently learned the hardest of ways.

Because my best friends were not married and held both joint and separate accounts and properties like you and your hubby, they'd made individual wills and burial plans. However, lack of access to his partner's documents prevented my friend from carrying out her wishes and left him in terrible uncertainty about his own immediate and continuing access to the home they'd shared for over 20 years.

After 5 months of my friend's daughter creating daily sheer hell across the board with medical/home care/ investment/banking/insurance and other personnel involved, she confronted my friend with untenable ultimatums and choices regarding his continuation in the home my friends shared and maintained together.

Presented with agreements Saturday she'd had an atty. draw up for him to sign, he told her that she'd left him no choice but to start legal common law spousal actions earlier advised by his atty. She was shocked by his response. She was packed and along with her daughter and one dog was planning to finally absent the house today and return home to Denver. Now, re-negotiations will take place and this time with legal counsel.

Ginger, I especially thank you for the link to the medical alert site! I was unaware of this service and the i.d. options it offers! Yay! I'd looked at id to order at another time but didn't find anything that provided what I wanted like name/phone/addr. This org. sounds wonderful by providing the emergency info medical pros would need.

May I ask if you chose the bracelet or necklace for id? Would the dog tag necklace @$25 or mesh chain bracelet at $35 provide all I'd need? I couldn't tell from the site what info would be on either...just name? malady? Did you go with the Advantage Plan for $50/yr?

Because I am a frequent walker and have had a stroke, I am particularly interested in having immediate, on-person id that would alert someone for help.

I'll be calling the site this week and am delighted at the peace of mind it offers. If this is too off topic, could you please private message me about your choices if you feel comfortable doing so? Hugs and more! P.S. Would threatening your hubby with a shake to get going from a fiesty friend help prompt him to action? Smiles and a happy, safe and healthy Sunday to all who gather here.

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@fiesty76 I'm sorry your friend's partner has had all this nonsense to deal with whole grieving. It is a perfect example of how we need to have all of our bases covered. If he only had copies of the documents it would have helped so much. And it underlines for all of us the importance of having our paperwork in order.

Yes I have the advantage program through Medic Alert.
Ginger

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@fiesty76

@sueinmn, Thanks Sue. Yes, I keep a handy list of docs &, emerg. contacts with numbers & locations as well as a dated list of all meds, along with health &other ins. cards in billfold as well. Although, my daughter has a copy of what I first posted, I appreciate the tip to make a couple of other filled out copies to have on hand "just in case". I made extra blank copies of the first two docs referred to above to share with others.

Additionally, a couple of years ago, I compiled a comprehensive notebook for myself and a duplicate for my daughter: "URGENT INFORMATION" listing all insurance, banking,investment, utilities, automatic bank pmts for accounts, vet & emerg. vet clinic, credit cards, qtrly tax dates and sources requiring taxes, sources of income, doctors/specialty, prescriptions & otc, property, car and personal maintenance & service people as well as friends, neighbors and online groups and people I corrspd. with regularly. These have acct numbers, locations,phone numbers, etc. Also included is who has keys to my home.

This expandable folder is first in my file cabinet and also contains Estate, Will, legal, medical, POAs and Directives for medical as well as for state banks and investment firms. A last inclusion is a list of what is held in my bank safety deposit box. It took some time to compile this but I set the date of April 15th to update it each year. At least once/yr., if not before, everything gets updated.

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@fiesty76- Wow, what a lot of work and tremendous help! Thank you.

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@gingerw

@fiesty76 I'm sorry your friend's partner has had all this nonsense to deal with whole grieving. It is a perfect example of how we need to have all of our bases covered. If he only had copies of the documents it would have helped so much. And it underlines for all of us the importance of having our paperwork in order.

Yes I have the advantage program through Medic Alert.
Ginger

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Thank you for your understanding, @gingerw. The daughter's behavior has made the grieving and loss of our loved one more difficult. I can only hope that when she and her crew actually vacate, my friend will be able to move forward more easily.

Thanks again for the medical alert link and information! Sounds like just what I'd been looking and hoping for. Once the company has info on file, it will further simply an emergency to the hospital.

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