Pampering Yourself

Posted by Gem @gemmax, May 5, 2018

After many years of illness and a loss of the person that I used to be, I made a decision to make myself as comfortable as possible; I created a cozy nest in our master bedroom and not only made it beautiful, but put everything that I use and need within reach of my side of the bed. This is what i did:I decided what we needed and how it would all fit into the room. I got everything in the appropriate sizes. a few pieces were new, but most were things we already had in other parts of the house.After we put everything in place, I found that our King bed (one that moves up and down) still fit. we had the room painted a soft cream with white trim and added cream colored draperies on the windows as well as shades for light control. As I sit writing this,beside me is a small white 4 drawer chest that has everything I could need in it (books, bible, drawing pad, drawing pencils, a journal, an appointment book, a heating pad, dining napkins, small cotton towels, a container for waste paper, a box of Kleenex, round tins for all sorts of needs such as lipbalm, nail equipment, skin cream, etc…use your imagination. )On top is a phone,a lamp that works without electricity for emergencies, a TV and bed control and room for a small tray. Just behind my left shoulder is a small floor lamp that i can easily reach. Looking straight ahead on the wall opposite the bed is a very small electric fireplace with a beautiful painting of flowers above , that i have always loved. Beside it is a small round drop leaf table with 2 chairs so that if i can't get out of bed, my husband can still dine with me, In the corner next is a larger dresser for clothing with a small TV on top. The walls are decorated with several large painitings and photographs. a clothes tree stands by the dresser for quick hangups instead of having to open the closet door and search for things if i don't feel like it. My husbands side has a rounded table and a table lamp. I splurged on cotton bedding in several colors and bought a bunch of pastel pillowcases at a clearance sale. I have two really good pillows for us and four more so we have a pile of pillows.I really spent very little money, but it is so comforting. I encourage you to create a special place for yourself where you can rest. Use what you have, use your imagination, do it all gradually. Large or small, It makes all the difference in the world. My favorite thing in mine is a little fancy photo holder with pictures of all those that I love still here or home with God. I love looking through it and seeing those precious faces of my family anytime I want. I would love to hear your ideas and what you have done to make your nest. Be blessed and sweet dreams!

@gailb

Thank you for inviting me to comment on this thread @lisalucier. I decided a few years ago that my husband and I needed our own cozy nest at home. At the time we had owned our bed and breakfast inn, with a restaurant for 11 years. I had worked with joy to make each bedroom at the inn, a special, warm, relaxing place for our guests. I put feather bed toppers on all the mattresses, bought the best 600+ thread sheets, had lots of comfy pillows on the beds, assured there was a recliner or other seating for those who couldn't sleep in bed, and provided throws to use. I also got lightweight feather comforters and got beautiful duvets for each bed. We had 5 "units" with one unit having 3 bedrooms in 2 stories. We also had a 4 bedroom cottage for guests. I really wanted our guests to be able to totally relax and feel pampered. We provided a "welcome basket" with fresh fruit, chocolates, locally made cheeses, Amish made cinnamon rolls, and either wine or their choice of beverage, as well as bottled water. There was a small microwave, 1/2 high refrigerator, and small table and chairs in each room. Amish had built these rooms for us after my husband and I created the design. They had 3/4 yellow pine floors, wood trim and beautiful bathrooms. The cottage was bungalow style. It was a lovely and special place to stay. Outside we provided an arbor filled with flowers and relaxing places to sit and read, eat or just relax.

The reason I'm telling all this is because my husband and I worked very hard to make our guests feel pampered and cozy, but we were actually ignoring our own needs for the same thing. After we closed the restaurant (too much work for negative return to income), we decided to remodel the building it was in to make two additional guest rooms, the office, and a living space for us. That freed the cottage, where we had been living, to be available for reservations. I realized in planning this remodel that we needed the same pampering as our guests. We actually decided to put our four poster bed in part of our large living room. We added an antique wood stove from an Amish friend, my husband repaired and refinished it. The wood stove was in our small kitchen and was lovely. I used the same decorating and furnishing plans for our nest as I had for the guest rooms. Each guest space had a different decor, using plaid and fox hunting in the Hunter Room, girly bright colors in the Prairie Rose Room, rustic furnishings in the Rustic Suite, a garden theme in the Garden Room, and a very cozy and quite theme in the Retreat Room. In our space I used a traditional theme with Amish simple joys. Our bed was so comfortable with the feather bed topper and lots of pillows. Our side tables held all the things we needed at hand, including a drawer on each side for medications we both must take now. We had a large flat screen TV in front of the bed, and a recliner love seat between the bed and the TV. We really needed a nest to go to at the end of each day.

We have now moved into our daughter's home, and we are actually moving again with her to a new large beautiful home with a view and lots of pampering features. I am furnishing our bedroom which will have a king bed with massager, and electronic head and leg lifts. I am making it as cozy and nest like as possible. We now have our own zone heating and cooling for our bedroom which is wonderful. We will have 2 recliners and reading space in the bedroom as well. I so appreciate @gemmax description of what you have done in your bedroom. I will remember to include the small boxes and special touches you have used to make your life and space special. I have artwork created by my son who has a Master's in Fine Art, and artwork done by my mother who died in 1993. I have other original art done by friends of mine. This will all be in our bedroom. I am also setting up an art studio in another bedroom so I can resume my own painting and drawing love.

At this time of life, I think it's so very important to treat ourselves with the tenderness and love that we have always wanted. I used to seek it from others, and it took many years and lots of therapy and reading for me to discover that I am the only one who can give me the love I had always longed for. I now know that I can be happy anywhere because I bring happiness with me. Yes, I have pain and problems, and depression, but my life is good. I have worked so hard to become a healthy, loving, and kind person. My childhood was a mess and left me with PTSD, but I didn't want to let that rule my life. I am happy with whatever happens in my life now. I have paid my dues and we have all earned the time to enjoy our lives. We can be as active or as quiet as we want or need to be without regret or guilt. It's such an important passage to go through at this time in our lives.

I'm looking forward to reading what others offer as ways they pamper themselves. My husband and I just completed our ultimate pampering with our 15 day cruise and stay in French Polynesia. This is something we would not let ourselves do when we were younger and work was our focus. It was a dreamy trip and much more than we had expected. There were people on the small sailing cruise ship who were using walkers, canes and some in their 90's! There were no elevators on the 4 story ship. I was shocked that people were still cruising with disabilities and at their ages. Lest I leave you with the impression that it was a geriatric cruise, the vast majority of the 110 guests were in their 40's. There were 100 crew members taking care of our every need! Amazing pampering.

Gail
Volunteer Mentor

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@lisalucier We sold the inn to one of our Amish housekeepers. She and other of her family members worked for us for at least 10 years. The whole family loved the inn, so when we put it up for sale, she made an offer. She's in her late 60's so had a difficult time getting a mortgage loan. We decided to finance her so she could buy it. If you want to ever visit, it's the Arbor House Country Inn in Jamesport, Missouri. Google it to see photos. She's an amazing woman who loves what she does. And yes, the trip was amazing.

Thanks, Gail, Volunteer Mentor

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@gemmax

@gailb. I agree with you so much. It can all be special at each stage of life. Thank you for telling your story to us all. Your inn sounded just wonderful!

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@gemmax You write beautifully and I would never have known you had a difficult time keyboarding. I'm sorry you're having this problem and I have even more respect for your ability to create beauty in your life. Thank you for sharing your world with us.

Gail
Volunteer Mentor

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@gemmax

@lioness I am so glad that you are. I think it will be a good thing. I found things that I had forgotten all about that I loved years ago.Happy days making your special nest.

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Thanks for your cozy comfort I,'ll have to put on my thinking cap now

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@gailb

Thank you for inviting me to comment on this thread @lisalucier. I decided a few years ago that my husband and I needed our own cozy nest at home. At the time we had owned our bed and breakfast inn, with a restaurant for 11 years. I had worked with joy to make each bedroom at the inn, a special, warm, relaxing place for our guests. I put feather bed toppers on all the mattresses, bought the best 600+ thread sheets, had lots of comfy pillows on the beds, assured there was a recliner or other seating for those who couldn't sleep in bed, and provided throws to use. I also got lightweight feather comforters and got beautiful duvets for each bed. We had 5 "units" with one unit having 3 bedrooms in 2 stories. We also had a 4 bedroom cottage for guests. I really wanted our guests to be able to totally relax and feel pampered. We provided a "welcome basket" with fresh fruit, chocolates, locally made cheeses, Amish made cinnamon rolls, and either wine or their choice of beverage, as well as bottled water. There was a small microwave, 1/2 high refrigerator, and small table and chairs in each room. Amish had built these rooms for us after my husband and I created the design. They had 3/4 yellow pine floors, wood trim and beautiful bathrooms. The cottage was bungalow style. It was a lovely and special place to stay. Outside we provided an arbor filled with flowers and relaxing places to sit and read, eat or just relax.

The reason I'm telling all this is because my husband and I worked very hard to make our guests feel pampered and cozy, but we were actually ignoring our own needs for the same thing. After we closed the restaurant (too much work for negative return to income), we decided to remodel the building it was in to make two additional guest rooms, the office, and a living space for us. That freed the cottage, where we had been living, to be available for reservations. I realized in planning this remodel that we needed the same pampering as our guests. We actually decided to put our four poster bed in part of our large living room. We added an antique wood stove from an Amish friend, my husband repaired and refinished it. The wood stove was in our small kitchen and was lovely. I used the same decorating and furnishing plans for our nest as I had for the guest rooms. Each guest space had a different decor, using plaid and fox hunting in the Hunter Room, girly bright colors in the Prairie Rose Room, rustic furnishings in the Rustic Suite, a garden theme in the Garden Room, and a very cozy and quite theme in the Retreat Room. In our space I used a traditional theme with Amish simple joys. Our bed was so comfortable with the feather bed topper and lots of pillows. Our side tables held all the things we needed at hand, including a drawer on each side for medications we both must take now. We had a large flat screen TV in front of the bed, and a recliner love seat between the bed and the TV. We really needed a nest to go to at the end of each day.

We have now moved into our daughter's home, and we are actually moving again with her to a new large beautiful home with a view and lots of pampering features. I am furnishing our bedroom which will have a king bed with massager, and electronic head and leg lifts. I am making it as cozy and nest like as possible. We now have our own zone heating and cooling for our bedroom which is wonderful. We will have 2 recliners and reading space in the bedroom as well. I so appreciate @gemmax description of what you have done in your bedroom. I will remember to include the small boxes and special touches you have used to make your life and space special. I have artwork created by my son who has a Master's in Fine Art, and artwork done by my mother who died in 1993. I have other original art done by friends of mine. This will all be in our bedroom. I am also setting up an art studio in another bedroom so I can resume my own painting and drawing love.

At this time of life, I think it's so very important to treat ourselves with the tenderness and love that we have always wanted. I used to seek it from others, and it took many years and lots of therapy and reading for me to discover that I am the only one who can give me the love I had always longed for. I now know that I can be happy anywhere because I bring happiness with me. Yes, I have pain and problems, and depression, but my life is good. I have worked so hard to become a healthy, loving, and kind person. My childhood was a mess and left me with PTSD, but I didn't want to let that rule my life. I am happy with whatever happens in my life now. I have paid my dues and we have all earned the time to enjoy our lives. We can be as active or as quiet as we want or need to be without regret or guilt. It's such an important passage to go through at this time in our lives.

I'm looking forward to reading what others offer as ways they pamper themselves. My husband and I just completed our ultimate pampering with our 15 day cruise and stay in French Polynesia. This is something we would not let ourselves do when we were younger and work was our focus. It was a dreamy trip and much more than we had expected. There were people on the small sailing cruise ship who were using walkers, canes and some in their 90's! There were no elevators on the 4 story ship. I was shocked that people were still cruising with disabilities and at their ages. Lest I leave you with the impression that it was a geriatric cruise, the vast majority of the 110 guests were in their 40's. There were 100 crew members taking care of our every need! Amazing pampering.

Gail
Volunteer Mentor

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I just looked up Arbor house it's beautiful if that was in California it would be 300.00 a night

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@gailb

Thank you for inviting me to comment on this thread @lisalucier. I decided a few years ago that my husband and I needed our own cozy nest at home. At the time we had owned our bed and breakfast inn, with a restaurant for 11 years. I had worked with joy to make each bedroom at the inn, a special, warm, relaxing place for our guests. I put feather bed toppers on all the mattresses, bought the best 600+ thread sheets, had lots of comfy pillows on the beds, assured there was a recliner or other seating for those who couldn't sleep in bed, and provided throws to use. I also got lightweight feather comforters and got beautiful duvets for each bed. We had 5 "units" with one unit having 3 bedrooms in 2 stories. We also had a 4 bedroom cottage for guests. I really wanted our guests to be able to totally relax and feel pampered. We provided a "welcome basket" with fresh fruit, chocolates, locally made cheeses, Amish made cinnamon rolls, and either wine or their choice of beverage, as well as bottled water. There was a small microwave, 1/2 high refrigerator, and small table and chairs in each room. Amish had built these rooms for us after my husband and I created the design. They had 3/4 yellow pine floors, wood trim and beautiful bathrooms. The cottage was bungalow style. It was a lovely and special place to stay. Outside we provided an arbor filled with flowers and relaxing places to sit and read, eat or just relax.

The reason I'm telling all this is because my husband and I worked very hard to make our guests feel pampered and cozy, but we were actually ignoring our own needs for the same thing. After we closed the restaurant (too much work for negative return to income), we decided to remodel the building it was in to make two additional guest rooms, the office, and a living space for us. That freed the cottage, where we had been living, to be available for reservations. I realized in planning this remodel that we needed the same pampering as our guests. We actually decided to put our four poster bed in part of our large living room. We added an antique wood stove from an Amish friend, my husband repaired and refinished it. The wood stove was in our small kitchen and was lovely. I used the same decorating and furnishing plans for our nest as I had for the guest rooms. Each guest space had a different decor, using plaid and fox hunting in the Hunter Room, girly bright colors in the Prairie Rose Room, rustic furnishings in the Rustic Suite, a garden theme in the Garden Room, and a very cozy and quite theme in the Retreat Room. In our space I used a traditional theme with Amish simple joys. Our bed was so comfortable with the feather bed topper and lots of pillows. Our side tables held all the things we needed at hand, including a drawer on each side for medications we both must take now. We had a large flat screen TV in front of the bed, and a recliner love seat between the bed and the TV. We really needed a nest to go to at the end of each day.

We have now moved into our daughter's home, and we are actually moving again with her to a new large beautiful home with a view and lots of pampering features. I am furnishing our bedroom which will have a king bed with massager, and electronic head and leg lifts. I am making it as cozy and nest like as possible. We now have our own zone heating and cooling for our bedroom which is wonderful. We will have 2 recliners and reading space in the bedroom as well. I so appreciate @gemmax description of what you have done in your bedroom. I will remember to include the small boxes and special touches you have used to make your life and space special. I have artwork created by my son who has a Master's in Fine Art, and artwork done by my mother who died in 1993. I have other original art done by friends of mine. This will all be in our bedroom. I am also setting up an art studio in another bedroom so I can resume my own painting and drawing love.

At this time of life, I think it's so very important to treat ourselves with the tenderness and love that we have always wanted. I used to seek it from others, and it took many years and lots of therapy and reading for me to discover that I am the only one who can give me the love I had always longed for. I now know that I can be happy anywhere because I bring happiness with me. Yes, I have pain and problems, and depression, but my life is good. I have worked so hard to become a healthy, loving, and kind person. My childhood was a mess and left me with PTSD, but I didn't want to let that rule my life. I am happy with whatever happens in my life now. I have paid my dues and we have all earned the time to enjoy our lives. We can be as active or as quiet as we want or need to be without regret or guilt. It's such an important passage to go through at this time in our lives.

I'm looking forward to reading what others offer as ways they pamper themselves. My husband and I just completed our ultimate pampering with our 15 day cruise and stay in French Polynesia. This is something we would not let ourselves do when we were younger and work was our focus. It was a dreamy trip and much more than we had expected. There were people on the small sailing cruise ship who were using walkers, canes and some in their 90's! There were no elevators on the 4 story ship. I was shocked that people were still cruising with disabilities and at their ages. Lest I leave you with the impression that it was a geriatric cruise, the vast majority of the 110 guests were in their 40's. There were 100 crew members taking care of our every need! Amazing pampering.

Gail
Volunteer Mentor

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@gailb — I looked it up, and it sure looks lovely. I did my undergrad degree at Mizzou, but Jamesport was new to me. Located it now.

Continuing to pamper yourselves like you did for former guests sounds like a great plan.

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@gemmax Hello Gem:

Never worry about misspellings or grammatical errors – we all make them. We just encourage everyone to express their thoughts and feelings. (No red pens to circle errors – ever),

Teresa

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MORE PAMPERING .(Girls and partners)..LOVING YOURSELF….Whether we are part of a couple, a family or single. We can love ourselves in so many ways. It is tempting when we feel so sick so much of the time to let our personal care slide. It is often difficult to keep up with grooming. I have personally found that the more effort I put into caring for myself, the better I feel. I originally had black hair, but as it turned white at very young age, I had it colored in a salon.As I became more and more ill, I thought how difficult it was and was it really worth it spending the time ,often at the expense of pain? I decided to let my hair grow out to it’s natural color. I also let it grow long again. It is pure silver and is very straight and I wear it in a ponytail or a braid. Itis so much esier not to have to think about it. And surprisingly, I have gotten a lot of compliments on it. I started thinking about all of the things that I had let go. I love cowboy hats, but I hadn't had one in years, so I went out and found a stetson! Could be that you love berets or big straw hats or beautiful scarves. the point is…whatever you love, do it now!
No one may ever see your legs except yourself, but keep then smooth and soft, use the scented cream that you love on them. Paint your toenails red or blue or purple or whatever! Take care of your hands and your fingernails the same way. Also, there are great comfortable bras now for you girls that do not pinch or hurt and still have lots of support.Whatever kind of lingerie that you like, buy the most beautiful that you can and colorful. Look for warm cozy pajamas and a really cozy robe for winter. Buying in off season can be rewarding financially. Even if you feel really lousy, use a good cream on your face,and add a touch of cream blush, eyebrow gel and a matte lipstick on top of lip balm. Just a tiny bit. I found that I’m often pale and l don't want to look like a clown. Buy scented soaps and look for great shampoos and condtioners. Find a couple of comfortable midi length dresses that you can wear at home with some warm soft socks for your feet. Always have a pretty sweater handy.The point is…. You know who you are…don't let illness take that away. Light a scented candle.Wear anything you love, Take care of yourself. LOVE YOURSELF Be blessed. .Would love to hear about your favorite routines. Gem

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