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Painful Intercourse

Posted by myjourney1979 @myjourney1979, Aug 20, 2012

I started having the pain before I started having kids. The pain is when my husband inserts his penis. I feel a lot of pressure and it is very painful when he does deep penetration. Now mind you this use to not bother me. I enjoy having rough intercourse. Well as time went on, after having 2 children, I found out that I had endometerosis. So at the age of 29, I decided to have a full hyst, thinkng that would solve my problem but unfortunately it didn't. I am gettting very flustrated because I am not able to enjoy my sex life. I have been to the gyn to see if they could help me and all they want to do is send me to a pain clinic (not). I am hoping someone out there has experience and can relate to what I am going through. Please Help!!

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Laurie, Volunteer Mentor | @roch | Mar 19, 2021

guss @guss , in response to your comment that a dr told her to have more sex.

There are some medical conditions that can be classified as "use it or lose it" . But I think that applies mostly to post-menopausal women.

Endometriosis is a condition that could have some of symptoms you describe, example pain and heavy periods. Endometriosis is not a sexual transmitted disease and is treatable. More sex does not improve this condition, unless more sex leads to pregnancy.

If it is a good relationship you should not end just due to her medical conditions, but if you do not trust what she is saying then I question the relationship.

I hope you are practicing safe sex and preventing any chance of pregnancy. .

LM

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Erika | @erikas | Mar 19, 2021
In reply to @guss "Hello again, id like to run this by you just for the heck of it. And..." + (show)
@guss

Hello again, id like to run this by you just for the heck of it. And if possible please dont add this to print. She has since old me that she doesnt know the exact name of what the doctor called it, but said the doctor told her she needed to have more sex because the lack of sex is what she needed to help with the pains in her womb and the heavy bleeding!! Feel free to share your candid thoughts (all kept private of course.)
Thanks for youur time! Its very much appreciated!! Have a wonderful day!!

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@guss I sounds like you do not trust what she is saying and she is confused and/or doesn't understand or want to share the information with you. We don't know at this point. I'm not see this scenario turning out well without those key ingredients of honest communication and trust. This is only my opinion coming from my own experiences. Have you considered sitting down with her and talking this out? I think people often makes things overly complicated by not being direct. Of course we should be kind too during this process. Could you ask her if you could help figure this out so you can both find the best way forward? Most medical notes are now available online and through apps. You should be able to easily read those notes. She may not want to share those notes with you and that is certainly her right.

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Merry, Alumni Mentor | @merpreb | Mar 19, 2021
In reply to @guss "Hello again, id like to run this by you just for the heck of it. And..." + (show)
@guss

Hello again, id like to run this by you just for the heck of it. And if possible please dont add this to print. She has since old me that she doesnt know the exact name of what the doctor called it, but said the doctor told her she needed to have more sex because the lack of sex is what she needed to help with the pains in her womb and the heavy bleeding!! Feel free to share your candid thoughts (all kept private of course.)
Thanks for youur time! Its very much appreciated!! Have a wonderful day!!

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@guss- I agree with @erikas. She has changed her story three times now. I don't know how old you are and it sounds as if you haven't been with her that long. Just make sure that you have protected yourself and go with your instincts. Usually they are right!

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2011panc | @2011panc | Mar 19, 2021
In reply to @guss "Hello all, i am asking in a eyes wide open but i dont have a clue..." + (show)
@guss

Hello all, i am asking in a eyes wide open but i dont have a clue kind of way.. i started a relationship with a pretty woman and she complained of pains in her abdomen area. Subsequently she was later told she had pelvic inflammation and from what i have read its is usually caused by gonorrhea and/or chlamydia. She said she thought the Dr. Told her chlamydia was what she had but has since denied it. Is there any other ways to get PID without having sex, and would it be rare to get it that way? I love her but hard to hold onto "benefit of the doubt"aangle... please help !!

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@guss I had PID a while ago. In my case they said they did not find an origin. I had not SIDs. What I have come to believe is that the IUD I had at the time caused it somehow. It happened about the same time as I found out I had developed toxic shock syndrome. PID stands for Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. All that tells you for sure is that you have a, probably repetitive, inflammation in your pelvis. In a woman there are many sources for inflammation in the pelvis and an SID is only one. You might find it helpful to read up on PID and women's gynecological issues.

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