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Has anyone taken these over the counter anxiety medicine?
Thank you, I will see my doctor about going that route. It's a crippling for me as I can't seem to figure out what is causing the anxiety. I tried psychotherapy and it didn't seem to help me. I tried the super mom approach and it has failed miserably.@thankful
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A behavioral therapist might suggest exposure therapy, which you can read about, make an appointment and emphasize the havoc pertaining to work, and transportation of children. Very positive to speak up, and all those tears are a credit to your perseverance. Driving is a privilege; you are setting a great example of that and I’m so glad I saw your posts. My Mother never addressed her fear of driving and missed countless opportunities to participate in her children’s activities. I remember delivering Girl Scout cookies in a taxi, at the age of nine! We lived in the country so I was ashamed of my embarrassment, but grateful for my Fathers taxi cab solution. Soon she could no longer leave our property. She never sought help. I admire your fortitude.
@me2a I can no longer do the things you have shared. I have no answers but can grasp the angst and it hurts. You are not the only one. I can no longer even ride in a car on the freeways. I tried and had to pull over and park my car. I will never try this again.
Do you know what brought this about??
@parus– Good morning! Some nasty weather headed our way but should clear up by tonight. It's not below freezing. After you pulled over in your car, how did you get to where you were going? This happened to me a lot during my "panic years". I'm calling it that because you and @me2a reminded me that I actually had quite a few. They also consisted of dry heaving, a lot. Do you want to be able to drive on the highway? I can see, with all the crazy drivers out there, why anyone would be fearful of driving on the highway, but I do believe that you are talking about a different type of fear.
My 2 sons came to rescue me. Terrible for them to see their once strong mother reduced to a wimp. I can remember sitting there with traffic screaming by, trucks shaking my car. I will never try that again!! Fear is a terrible thing.
Will not be going back to PT. There method is force things. I now know there is no help. At least I know I tried. I am fed up with being bullied.
Lots of wind today. The Ides of March looms.
@parus– Different PT businesses offer different approaches. Can you go to another one? It beaks my heart when you say that you know now that there isn't any hope. I don't want to give you platitudes but but I don't want you to give up. You are strong, there's always something around the corner!
@parus– Is there someone on here bullying you?
@merpreb Doubtful. The whole world is after me for now. Time to crawl into my little world. Still in mega pain from PT. Not sore. Scheduled to have more tomorrow. Terrified!!
@parus– Such a confusing time for you, I know. It's like you are doomed if you do and damned if you don't. Have you talked to your therapist and tell her how painful it is after?
@me2a– Perhaps there are better suited, non addictive drug(s) that a Psychiatrist would recommend today, but for me this is what allowed me to take back my life. I never figured out why this was happening to me, but my Psychiatrist said simply think of a car. It needs all kinds of different fluids, etc. to keep in running and for some reason your body is not producing enough of that ingrediant. That was simple enough for me to grasp and I went with and never looked back. I wish you much success and good health! Jim @thelisamarie
@parus Tell her how it hurt I did called office told them they gave me new therapist When I went saw her and I think it hurt so bad she stirred up my fibromyalgia ,is this maybe why you hurt so bad? I had to use my Tens to relax my muscles
How do you deal with your anxiety when your in the car? I started experiencing these episodes about 6 years ago when I was pregnant with my daughter. I am 42 years old, my job requires a lot of driving and my kids are in all kinds of sports. I have stopped driving on the freeways and the past week I've noticed driving in certain local areas are becoming difficult. I don't want Xanax or ativan. I pray a lot and cry a lot about this. What helps you.
I too suffered your experience while in car. I would stop where safe, breathe, acknowledge I was having a panic attack and talk myself down. Having Valium always with me was also an option to take if needed. A little something might help to deal with the anxiety once you feel it coming on. Never figured out the why the panic attack, dentist, post office parking lot…but don’t stop living. Get help.
I wondered about that for a long time. Why do I get these panic attacks? and even more puzzling: why not… when I am clearly in a stress situation?
My guess is that we, this group, or people like us with panic attacks and phobia and such, are sensitive people, maybe very sensitive. That combined with low self esteem or a bad youth – I was beaten up by my dad when I was a kid, in his nonsensical way of bringing up a kid. I don't hold a grudge against him for that – only pity him for being a victim too (was taken to Germany in the war and made it back)
So I grew up as an insecure kid who had his bravour to get along in life. And that went well for a long time, during my time as a student, in the army, working for the government.
It was only after I chose for myself in life and quit my job at the government to get my degree in social work, and, shortly after that, my first giant panic attack occurred…I remember it vividly..
Not really a coincidence.. After doing what was expected from me – get promotions, work for the government, have status.. doing all those things I decided to change my life for what I thougt was right for me. And thus shaking of this straitjacket of expectations.
That looks nice when I write that down like that. And it was -I must say. But here is the catch – and I return to the question asked: the Why – I wasn't aware that there is always a connection between cause and consequence luring ..
In my case I shook off the yoke of my upbringing and did not fullfill the expectations of my father anymore. Hurrah… But the downside is that while doing what I wanted I also gave up the certainties in life .. doing what others want me to do and going my own way
Doing what other people expected -or more to the point, a piece of me that was modelled in my youth and adolescence – had its benefits: doing the right things, good boy. don't get hit, get some sort of appreciation. Comfortably.
But when loosing that I had to get my certainties in life from something else and that is where the struggle began. I did allright I think but it laid the base of a basic insecurity. Went well for a long time. But when some traumatic events took place (I won't bother you with details) it went bad. Panic attacks, agoraphobia, you name it.
I still have to realize that only me can be the base of confidence in life..
When put in a situation when I still have to depend on others, give up control, I risk getting panic attacks and the rest of the long list of symptoms that you likely know very well.
Unfortunatly there are situations in life that you have to give up control. Like a visit to the dentist – you lay there in this chair, completely handed down and with almost no control over the situation. The highway in car: you have to drive in this lane, and with the speed that the rest is dictating.. Waiting in line in a busy mall waiting your turn.. the list is endless. Fill in your own worst scenarios..
I think that is at least a part of the Why. The other part is being susceptible for this specific condition – who knows. Could be a physical, natural lack of serotonin levels probably. That is why a lot of people benefit from pills that correct that, like all sorts of SSRI's like Citalopram or whatever.
Why some people just get a "normal" gastric ulcer or high blood pressure instead off panic attacks..? I gave up to even think about that . It is a fact that we have to deal with.. one way or the other. The sneakyness (is that a word) of our specific challenges is that it has the risc of acceptance of the limitations and thus making our lives smaller and tinier and less fun as it should be. and as we are entitled to.
Hope I didn't put too many words here. Maybe someone recognizes patterns and get a bit more understanding.. thats why I noted this down.
@faraway– Good morning. I'm glad that you have found Mayo Connect. I use to have panic attacks. In my opinion panic attacks are a response to a fearful situation. Children who have experienced child abuse never really get over feeling threatened. Your being hospitalized after your assault was one large trigger of your fear from childhood. I think that there are certain things that we can forget and overlook as adults and others that just sit in our memory banks and jump up when triggered. My mom used to slap me. She was part of the first generation born here and held to certain child rearing customs. I know that she had no intention of harming me but that behavior stayed with me for a very very long time, and my response to it too.
I believe that you would benefit greatly from some behavioral therapy, to learn methods to help stop the triggers that cause these attacks. How are you feeling today?
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