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Has anyone taken these over the counter anxiety medicine?
@sandytoes14 Yes, it is a challenge. I try to be encouraging to others here at connect. Currently I am discouraged and this is all the input I have for now.
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I just read your post above (from Apr 19) and I want you to know that your efforts to be encouraging on Connect have been very successful. You have helped many and that is appreciated by all of us because we realize that you struggle yourself. You really go beyond yourself many times and we thank you for that effort.
Good Morning everyone. I have not tried anything else yet as money was an issue. I did start taking a senior multi vitamin. Prayers for all of you. The weather has been up and down here and rainy so my pain has taken over. I quit taking the patch and back smoking again which I hate to admit. I will start the patch again on May 1st. I WILL beat this smoking crap! I get upset at these tobacco companies now that I know what they did to us smokers. Making it more addicting and harder to quit. Of course they never told me to start so not all their fault. My panic attacks have slowed down quite a bit. I think it is because some of the stress I deal with is gone and the other stress I deal with has been calmer than normal but I know that one is always around and will rear its ugly head again. I cannot deal with people yelling or talking in loud voices. I know it has to do with my parents constantly yelling and fighting with each other and the abuse that happened because of it. I have never been a person to yell because I told myself when I was quite young I would never act like that and I don't. That might be one of my triggers is that and I hold it all in. I know that is why I smoke. No stress would be wonderful! God Bless.
I agree with what you and Lisa have written. Growing up with yelling is a stressful start to life. It is hard to feel relaxed as an adult when your early years were spent never knowing when the next verbal explosion would happen or where it would come from (sort of like living near an active volcano, I suppose). There are many popular comedy TV shows that I don't watch because of the yelling and/or sarcasm (which lots of people think are funny) but not so for many of us.
@lisalucier I don't deal with it at all. My neighbor has that constantly going on and when I walk outside to do whatever my anxiety kicks in and I have to go back in. My ex will do the same thing and I have to just walk away. (I live with him now because he helps me with the grandaughter). He is very good with her but he is just a grumpy ole man most times and its very hard. That is why he is an ex but I trust him with my granddaughter and there is hardly anyone I would trust with her. (past issue.)
@hopeful33250 I don't watch abusive shows either. I stay focused on the funny ones with no yelling or some of the police shows. I am an ex police fire rescue dispatcher so I do like watching the ones that are not too graphic to look at.
@littleonefmohio — you know, breaking the chain of being a yelling household is a great thing — kudos to you for all your efforts toward that. My parents were both yellers, and my husband did not grow up in a family like that. When we were first married, he would tell me he'd be happy to talk about X when I would stop raising my voice. It kind of stunned me, but I quickly realized that we'd have much less drama and more calm in our house if we did not communicate through yelling. In our 14 years of marriage, yelling has been a real rarity, and that's been a huge blessing.
How do you deal with it now if others yell or talk loudly? Does that come up with relatives, friends, watching sports events?
Good for you for realizing that you need to stop raising your voice.
Yes, I understand what you are saying. Some the police shows are good, especially where they always get the "bad guys."
The only way I can deal with yelling is to stay a way from others. Yelling sends me into a panic and a dark place. I am still working on not feeling like everything is my fault when others yell. Intellectually I know the yelling is not my fault, but the fear and guilt take over then the fear. thankful for my woman's cave. I can always go to my bedroom, turn the fan on high and escape the yelling. I am too sensitive is what I have been told. Maybe so.
Being over sensitive can cause us a lot of grief in a number of ways. Having a quiet place to go to is a blessing.
It certainly is not your fault! We can never be too-sensitive when aggression is going on. You are right-on!
Teresa, I didn't grow up with any yelling at all. It was the opposite. My parents were quiet. I had no siblings. I believe part of my problem is I love quiet and am a loner. I become overly excited in a crowd and especially if it is noisy. I love people, but have to accept my limits.
Yes, I understand. Quietness has its own rewards and challenges, doesn't it?
@liz223 — sounds like you really know yourself and your personal limits. That is very admirable.
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