Oh, it gets a little harder, doesn't it? What does this teach me?

Posted by joedeb @joedeb, Jun 14 8:54am

The neurologist added another greeting question this time. How are we doing? It's getting a little harder? Yeh, that answer was easy. But I'm trying to switch my mentality from "why is this happening to me" to "what is this trying to teach me" can be a game changer. Not my quote.
I have to keep searching for meaning and purpose otherwise I get drug down in the dailies. This article helped.

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/14/opinion/dementia-alzheimers-family-memoir.html?unlocked_article_code=1.O08.Lydg.H4vlnXgKNFnU&smid=em-share

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Becky, Volunteer Mentor | @becsbuddy | Jun 14 5:24pm

@joedeb What a wonderful article! The NYT frequently has very good articles! Do you subscribe to it?

1995victoria | @1995victoria | Jun 20 11:14am

I found these resources in Brain & Life magazine (free online or by mail) here are some additional resources carekindnyc.org (there are other cities that offer this) Caregiver Action Network 855 227 3640 and Alzheimer's Association that has 24/7 free helpline staffed by master's level clinicians 800 272 3900
You never know who will have the "right"answer for you......all the best....

wmehan | @wmehan | Jun 21 8:24am

Thank you for “why is the happening to me to what is this trying to teach me”.

elliottw | @elliottw | Jun 21 10:00am

Quote from the NYT's article..... “I remember I used to be very smart,” she tells her husband in the novel. My spouse says that from time to time. She still is pretty fluent in three languages. She can 'lead' sing hundreds of popular songs from the 50's, 60's, and 70's....word for word. She still finished college in 3-years. She use to have a 140 IQ. She knows her father, brother, and sister. She just isn't so sure about who I am, I don't take it personally.

slarson14 | @slarson14 | Jun 24 10:18am

In reply to @wmehan "Thank you for “why is the happening to me to what is this trying to teach..." + (show)

This statement is where I had to go in my thinking when my eldest daughter, at age 27, was diagnosed with brain cancer.

If I had not kept keeping touch with God and asking him : "What are you trying to teach me?". I would have gone off the deep end.

My heart goes out to anyone dealing as a caregiver with a loved one with any serious life changing diagnosis. You just don't know until you know how tough this job is.