Eulogy for those who have passed

Posted by samcal9977zz @samcal9977zz, Sep 21, 2023

My wife's mom passed last night. She passed in her sleep. She was 89 years old.

Thank you all for your support and insightful information!

It has been much, much appreciated!

Wishing you all well through your own struggles and difficulties.

My mother-in-law was a long term volunteer with The Special Olympics. A teacher, she was very dedicated to her students and to the kids in The Special Olympics.

My wife and I are poets.

I thought I would leave everyone with this lovely haiku, by the famous Japanese poet Issa:

(on the death of his child)

Dew Evaporates
And All Our World Is Dew...
So Dear, So Fresh, So Fleeting.

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<p>Eulogy for those who have passed</p><p>My mom passed in June. And now, my wife's mom just passed last night.</p><p>it has been hard.</p><p>Lost and confused and upset I went to the internet and found a couple of eulogies that really helped bring me some peace.</p><p>Some very beautiful words.</p><p>I thought I might share:</p><p>1) Actor Kevin Costner at Whitney Houston's Funeral<br />"You'll Be Good Enough"</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wjh0N1EzPI</p><p>+++</p><p>2) Singer Cher at the Funeral of Sonny Bono</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdHdd5ejAeY</p&gt;

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Hi,
She sounds like she was a wonderful person! It takes a special person to do that kind of work. She deserved to wake up in Heaven!
Your poem was very nice! I'll say a prayer for you and your wife to get through this sad time without your Mom.
PML

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Wow, that was less than two weeks from your initial post. Very sorry for your loss. Praying for peace and comfort for your entire family. Very fitting haiku as well.

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@samcal9977zz

<p>Eulogy for those who have passed</p><p>My mom passed in June. And now, my wife's mom just passed last night.</p><p>it has been hard.</p><p>Lost and confused and upset I went to the internet and found a couple of eulogies that really helped bring me some peace.</p><p>Some very beautiful words.</p><p>I thought I might share:</p><p>1) Actor Kevin Costner at Whitney Houston's Funeral<br />"You'll Be Good Enough"</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wjh0N1EzPI</p><p>+++</p><p>2) Singer Cher at the Funeral of Sonny Bono</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdHdd5ejAeY</p&gt;

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Very touching and uplifting words.

I wanted to post something similar here after Mother's Day a few months ago. I had just visited the family cemetery plot where my mom (brain cancer), grandmother (breast cancer), grandfather (lung cancer) are all buried, and where the spot reserved for my dad (mesothelioma) would soon be occupied.

I delivered a eulogy for my dad in July, and chatted after the service with two high school classmates and a neighbor who are all battling cancer, as I am.

I hate cancer, but have been very blessed in my own journey, and just wanted to publicly express my appreciation to all the doctors and researchers who are working on cures, all the caregivers (professional and family) who keep us comfortable, and all the more distant people who pray for us, share positive thoughts and helpful advice on these forums.

While I hope to be around for a long time to come, I want to honor and thank those who will outlive me with this short "living eulogy" from the bottom of my heart.

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@samcal9977zz

<p>Eulogy for those who have passed</p><p>My mom passed in June. And now, my wife's mom just passed last night.</p><p>it has been hard.</p><p>Lost and confused and upset I went to the internet and found a couple of eulogies that really helped bring me some peace.</p><p>Some very beautiful words.</p><p>I thought I might share:</p><p>1) Actor Kevin Costner at Whitney Houston's Funeral<br />"You'll Be Good Enough"</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2wjh0N1EzPI</p><p>+++</p><p>2) Singer Cher at the Funeral of Sonny Bono</p><p>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gdHdd5ejAeY</p&gt;

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Thoughts with you all

My sister passed in March from PC.

We delayed our trip to Amsterdam, river cruise to Switzerland for 18 months.

We brought her with us and she will always be a part of those places.

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Very sorry for your loss. I am happy that she passed in her sleep. That is a gift that I hope to have when my time on earth is finished as well.

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Saddened to hear of her passing..
prayers for your family 🙏🏻

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I'm so sorry for everyone's losses.

In Blackwater Woods (Mary Oliver)

Look, the trees
are turning
their own bodies
into pillars

of light,
are giving off the rich
fragrance of cinnamon
and fulfillment,

the long tapers
of cattails
are bursting and floating away over
the blue shoulders

of the ponds,
and every pond,
no matter what its
name is, is

nameless now.
Every year
everything
I have ever learned

in my lifetime
leads back to this: the fires
and the black river of loss
whose other side

is salvation,
whose meaning
none of us will ever know.
To live in this world

you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it

against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.

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Yesterday, October 31st, is one year since I buried my husband. So far my grief has not lessened much. We were together for 62 years and married for 59 years. That is a lifetime. I am 89 years old and so far in reasonably good health. I am able to live independently. I am trying to live two more years because that is when my son and daughter-in-law are planning to come here to see me. They live in Thailand. I decided that November 1st is a good time to try a new regime. I will try to exercise more and eat smaller portions. Hopefully this will give me my two more years.

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