Mom thinks people are stealing from her

Unfortunately this situation is so common. I went through it with my mom; in her case major clutter and hoarding added to the problem. My mom saw people in her swimming pool (lived in FL) at night, usually naked! I just wish I had the advice I just read from others here--LET IT GO. I argued, tried to comfort--just doesn't work. There seems to be a single-mindedness of those with dementia--what they think is what they think and you can't change it. And stealing--when most of the time she would hide things herself and then forget. And everyone including me were under suspicion. My husband has that single-mindedness now, and I have a nice anxiety medication and take 1/2 a pill (not daily by any means) that keeps me calm--probably more psychologically than medically to stay calm and not argumentative (my natural state).

My mom has been hiding her $ and taking her wallet out and hiding it in her room and her purse and she swears people are stealing from her too- reguardless that i find it every time still someone is stealing- my son abd daughter in law and kids live here too and she is constantly calling her the b word to me because she is convinced ahe is stealing from her. Im SO worn out and tired of hearing her foul language and absolutely false accusations about her i have a lock on her door which is always still locked when she gets home from anywhere she goes.. i mean being human has its limits. Im So tired. No one in my household would ever steal from her. Especially under my watch. We have given her a safe to put her $ in still she doesnt think its safe. Also going to set up a camera in her room so she can see its inly her who is ever in her room. Its so wearing.

My mother recently moved into a retirement home. She sold her house and now she blames me and my sister for forcing her to move into the retirement home. While living in her house, she complained about an imaginary family of 4 that lived in her house and called the police out 8 times to investigate the intruders. Now that she has moved into a retirement home (assisted living) she is now claiming the staff there and are stealing many items from her room (i.e. socks, chocolate bars, food items etc.) She now wants me to find her an apartment to move into. I pretend to assist her but now she is getting angry at me for not finding her an apartment. Applying logic doesn't work, and I know she is using the theft of her items to rationalize a move to an apartment. She is no longer capable of looking after herself (meal prep, showers etc) and she lives 90 minutes away from me and does not want to move closer to me as I live in the big city. I am at my wits end!