I want to open this discussion because I know that for a lot of us holidays can be a very tough time of the year, both physically and emotionally. One of the ways that it can be a burden is knowing that a lot of people don't know how to treat us…are we considered well? Should we let her/him do this? Can she/he handle things? Many more questions arise that can be cumbersome and or funny even. And some of us don't have many people or any people to fawn over us.
In my case I have a very very over protective husband and younger sister. If I didn't ask my sister many times to stop asking me how I feel everyday I'd have to divorce her, lol. I know that "she's just concerned" but geesh, I want to look forward after 21 years of lung cancer, not look back or even at my present state. I want to be treated like nothing is wrong because reliving how I feel brings me back to times that I don't want to live again.
My husband is worse! I have spoken at length about this with him and I do give him extra room because he's taken care of me so well and completely. I have to let him feel that he is helping me in some way.
I think that friends and family need to feel some power because they feel so helpless. I let my sister drive to a shopping center to give her more of a feeling of helping me and I sit back and enjoy the ride, although I am a better driver, lol.
How do you handle these circumstances? How do you get attention if you want it or need it during the holidays? How do you avoid being a center of attention or fawned over too much?
I also want to thank you for letting me into your lives on this forum as a new mentor. You have all been so kind and welcoming. Have a wonderful holiday season. Please take care of yourselves, and maybe let someone help you, just a little bit, or ask for help if you need it!
Liked by Colleen Young, Connect Director