Lost my parents within 2 years of each other. I'm an only child.

Posted by queenb56 @queenb56, Jan 30 2:32pm

I inherited their home, had an estate sale, painted, laid new flooring etc. Moved my furniture and stuff in. I just can't seem to put my things in closets or make decisions about where things should go. Can't seem to take ownership and settle in. Make the home mine.

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@queenb56 I am sorry you lost your parents so close to each other. I did also, they died 13 months apart. When Mom passed I was 66 years old, and I felt like an orphan! I do have a sister who now owns the house we grew up in. My parents bought it in 1958. She and her husband renovated the entire house and moved in. I don’t know how they felt about moving in there, but we are happy to have kept the house in the family.
I suggest that you take your time settling in to your home. You’ve taken steps to make it your own. Maybe there are a few other ways you could put your touch on the house.

Best wishes

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@SusanEllen66

@queenb56 I am sorry you lost your parents so close to each other. I did also, they died 13 months apart. When Mom passed I was 66 years old, and I felt like an orphan! I do have a sister who now owns the house we grew up in. My parents bought it in 1958. She and her husband renovated the entire house and moved in. I don’t know how they felt about moving in there, but we are happy to have kept the house in the family.
I suggest that you take your time settling in to your home. You’ve taken steps to make it your own. Maybe there are a few other ways you could put your touch on the house.

Best wishes

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Thank you, glad your family were able to keep your family home. I kept a few pieces if my parents furniture. Updated a few chandeliers and hung them in other rooms. My taste are more country casual, I have a hard time reconciling the big difference it makes in each room. I never lived in this house my parents built it after I had already married and had a child. Never thought I would live here. I want to make it mine, it's just hard.

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@queenb56

Thank you, glad your family were able to keep your family home. I kept a few pieces if my parents furniture. Updated a few chandeliers and hung them in other rooms. My taste are more country casual, I have a hard time reconciling the big difference it makes in each room. I never lived in this house my parents built it after I had already married and had a child. Never thought I would live here. I want to make it mine, it's just hard.

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@aueenb56 I am sorry it’s so hard. It sounds like you’re making progress by decorating your home the way you want.

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So sorry for your losses. That’s a bunch to deal with. Take your time to settle in and maybe just do one thing each day.

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@queenb56 I am so sorry for your loss. My father died when i was young. My mother died a few years ago, when i was 68. I didn’t live in the same town and unfortunately had to sell her house. It had been my grandparents’ house . It was the home i grew up in. I had mixed emotions about selling. I think just make changes to have the house feel like yours while keeping some things of the pat that you like. Hugs. I still miss my Mom every day.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I agree with the person that said to allow yourself time … at least that is what I am doing. I am trying to be patient and understanding of myself. You need time to adjust to a major change like that.

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@SusanEllen66

@queenb56 I am sorry you lost your parents so close to each other. I did also, they died 13 months apart. When Mom passed I was 66 years old, and I felt like an orphan! I do have a sister who now owns the house we grew up in. My parents bought it in 1958. She and her husband renovated the entire house and moved in. I don’t know how they felt about moving in there, but we are happy to have kept the house in the family.
I suggest that you take your time settling in to your home. You’ve taken steps to make it your own. Maybe there are a few other ways you could put your touch on the house.

Best wishes

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I lost both parents 13 months apart too! Life isn't the same once they're gone. I do have one sibling left. My other sibling passed almost 6 years ago due to pancreatic cancer.

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I'm sorry that you're an only child. It's rough enough losing both parents, but to have no siblings to help you in your grief... painful!

Give yourself time to adjust to living in what was your parents' home. Once you add your special touches, invite friends over, or have an open house, you may feel a bit different than you do now.

I know you must feel lost, but even when you're not grieving it takes 6 - 8 years to make a place your home. It will happen eventually.

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@queenb56

Thank you, glad your family were able to keep your family home. I kept a few pieces if my parents furniture. Updated a few chandeliers and hung them in other rooms. My taste are more country casual, I have a hard time reconciling the big difference it makes in each room. I never lived in this house my parents built it after I had already married and had a child. Never thought I would live here. I want to make it mine, it's just hard.

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@queenb56, your words "I want to make it mine." ring true and I also hear that you want to honor your parents. I'm sure that they would want you to be happy and to make the house your home. It sounds like you have selected cherished items that are meaningful to you and given them a new opportunity to shine.

How are you doing today?

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Do the things you enjoy to do…even if it takes time.
One day at a time.
Time can heal all wounds.

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