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Loss of wife: Still having a hard time sleeping. Alone a lot.

Posted by jerrynord @jerrynord, Sep 21, 2021

I lost my wife 4 months ago and still have a hard time sleeping and constant thoughts of quilt for not giving her enough attention. Alone a lot. All children live far away.

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Annie | @mlenney167 | Feb 25, 2022
In reply to @mikaylar "Annie, you are not alone. I lost my brother 8 months ago in a terrible suicide..." + (show)
@mikaylar

Annie, you are not alone. I lost my brother 8 months ago in a terrible suicide wherein he exploded his home and flattened 2 other homes and condemned 3 more. Eight are homeless, including 5 children. I am still in a denial and trying to get through each day. They tell me it takes a lot of time and never fully goes away. Stay busy, keep people around you and attend church. Mikayla

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That is so tragic @mikaylar
Sending hugs and prayers your way. I need to be more in touch spiritually- and attending church might help too.

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Mar 6, 2022
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@ccarper

You are one of many who live with this. I am one of the many also!

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Hi @ccarper welcome. I see from your profile that you have also lost a life partner. How are you doing? What’s your favourite memory?

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ccarper | @ccarper | Mar 7, 2022
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Hi @ccarper welcome. I see from your profile that you have also lost a life partner. How are you doing? What’s your favourite memory?

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I still struggle with learning to accept the loss. There are many, many memories I consider favorite, but at the top of the list is the day I said “I do”!

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Colleen Young, Connect Director | @colleenyoung | Mar 13, 2022
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@ccarper

I still struggle with learning to accept the loss. There are many, many memories I consider favorite, but at the top of the list is the day I said “I do”!

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@ccarper, I bet @IndianaScott can relate.

I love that the top of your memory list is the day you said "I do". Funny (and lovely) how after spending years together, our mind's eye holds the image of our first days.

Do you have family around you? How are you finding moving within your social circles?

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ccarper | @ccarper | Mar 13, 2022

Yes, I have family reasonably close. Kids and Grandkids.
I also have many friends who have helped me navigate the change in my life. There are days, however, that I am terribly depressed and lonely. Then, I have to consider how good it is for Jan to be in Heaven and rejoicing that she won the battle with breast cancer. No more pain. No more worry. For all of eternity!! Just knowing that helps me endure.

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