Inconsiderate, intimidating neighbors cause depression and anxiety?

Posted by robertwills @robertwills, Oct 26, 2024

Lets; say you have neighbors that sit outside your apartment building, smoke "weed" in public view (which is illegal) and use intimidating gestures towards you as you come and go. Could this be enough to cause legitimate depression and anxiety?

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@robertwills

Thank you. It was the same today as yesterday. No fear upon waking up but a little fear when going outside. I was looking around a little nervously and I saw another man I did not know. I paid more attention to him than I used to but I was not afraid like before.

I think I will always be paying more attention around here, which is not a bad thing because you never know. On the other hand hose awful men did ruin the perfect peace of mind I always used to have here.

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@robertwills you know the expression: “Once bitten, twice shy”? That’s you at the moment. In time you will get more comfortable.

Keep saying to yourself: “the worst is over - and I’ll get over the rest!”

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@robertwills

Thank you. It was the same today as yesterday. No fear upon waking up but a little fear when going outside. I was looking around a little nervously and I saw another man I did not know. I paid more attention to him than I used to but I was not afraid like before.

I think I will always be paying more attention around here, which is not a bad thing because you never know. On the other hand hose awful men did ruin the perfect peace of mind I always used to have here.

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@robertwills - one day at a time …!

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@robertwills - one day at a time …!

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Yes, I have been taking it one day at a time. Thanks.

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Update: It's been 1 week since the men left. What a difference! I have my peace of mind back and feel safe again! However, I am still wary and catch myself glancing around nervously as soon as I walk outside or coming into the building.

I think I'm going to celebrate a little this weekend. I think I might get the box of luxury fudge brownies I have been eyeing for the last 6 months! But I'll probably end up getting the European biscuits that I know are healthier for me.

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@robertwills

Update: It's been 1 week since the men left. What a difference! I have my peace of mind back and feel safe again! However, I am still wary and catch myself glancing around nervously as soon as I walk outside or coming into the building.

I think I'm going to celebrate a little this weekend. I think I might get the box of luxury fudge brownies I have been eyeing for the last 6 months! But I'll probably end up getting the European biscuits that I know are healthier for me.

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Robert,
That is so good to hear about things being alright now! For so long they weren't. We knew God would answer our prayers but we didn't know when! Now you can get back to a normal life and enjoying it too! Go buy the luxury fudge brownies! You deserve them. You've been through a lot! Besides, God made chocolate too! It's nice to finally have a happy ending!
PML

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@pml

Robert,
That is so good to hear about things being alright now! For so long they weren't. We knew God would answer our prayers but we didn't know when! Now you can get back to a normal life and enjoying it too! Go buy the luxury fudge brownies! You deserve them. You've been through a lot! Besides, God made chocolate too! It's nice to finally have a happy ending!
PML

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PML: Thank you again. I am still staying vigilant here but with no fear anymore. I think about what happened often. Like "How could this happen here?" "Why did they not like me in particular?" "I would have been a nice neighbor to them. But that's nonsense they weren't going to be nice back!". "If I would have reported it sooner it would have been over sooner.". It was truly a living nightmare that I will not forget but I will not be permanently damaged by it in anyway. It definitely has made me better able to handle trying situations. Now I know to take action early on; don't wait. So there is some good to come out of it.

As for the brownies, I really want to stay as healthy as possible right now so I think I will get the European butter biscuits, which are quite decedent. These have lot fewer ingredients and have the old world taste. But when I get to the store tomorrow I just might go for the brownies!

Thank you again. Your concerns and prayers over the months really helped get me through this.

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@pml

Robert,
That is so good to hear about things being alright now! For so long they weren't. We knew God would answer our prayers but we didn't know when! Now you can get back to a normal life and enjoying it too! Go buy the luxury fudge brownies! You deserve them. You've been through a lot! Besides, God made chocolate too! It's nice to finally have a happy ending!
PML

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PML: I got an adult breakfast cereal instead of the brownies or biscuits. It has a lot of sugar but there's also whole grains. So this is something in the middle. Maybe in a couple of weeks when I am finally "out of the woods" here so to speak I'll go wild on the brownies.

It occurred to me earlier that the situation here was really that bad and that it is totally dishonorable that it went on so long with so many people seeing and smelling it. When I went out today I actually got a "phantom" smell of marijuana. That's how conditioned I had become. I'm still looking around when I go outside, but I don't have the fear any more. I can't believe I actually experienced something like this. How in the world did these people get into this nice building? It appears through deceit and the ways housing laws are written. The similar laws that made getting them out almost like pulling hens teeth.

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Update: I was able to finally do laundry in the laundry room! No more washing clothes in the sink!

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