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in my 70's and even cialis doesn't help

Posted by spanishwiz04 @spanishwiz04, 3 days ago

Even in my 60's I was able to get it up and enjoy sex with my wife but now, in my 70's I can no longer get it up. My urologist prescribed cialis which gives me an increase in swelling but not hard-but, how would I know since she no longer wants to have sex? I miss it so much I am ready to cheat since she no longer will but don't know if I can even penetrate. I have met up with other women who were desperate to be fucked but at that time I couldn't do it. Any advice?

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grandmira | @grandmira | 1 day ago
In reply to @rich72 "@grandmira I absolutely recommend it. I was on Flomax for BPH symptoms after a bad urinary..." + (show)
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I absolutely recommend it. I was on Flomax for BPH symptoms after a bad urinary tract infection. Flomax made me very tired all day, almost as though I had taken a sedative. I need to exercise every day because of cardio and pulmonary issues, so I asked my urologist if I could try tadalafil (didn't know at the time that is was Cialis). I had read it accomplished the same thing as Flomax, even though it's a different class of drug. He approved, and I started taking 5 mg a day. Don't remember if it happened after one dose, but "wood" came back, and is here to stay. Hope it works for you. Definitely worth a try, even with a higher copay.

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Thanks for the info. Flomax makes me tired as well and that is almost three months on it. My urologist did suggest having the TURP procedure and I am seriously considering it, if nothing else to get of the medication. My real reservation to turp is ED and incontinence. Even with Flomax I still get up twice a night and sometimes but not as often as I used to, 3 and 4 times. It’s a real pain in the derrière.

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grandmira | @grandmira | 9 hours ago

An erection is a complicated action requiring that all systems have a green light. I think we have a tendency not to factor in the importance of the emotional element, as the physical are more easily experienced that is touching, caressing etc. If we feel rejected and it doesn’t have to be overt, our bodies will react, no green light. In my humble opinion we must take our time to get those “green lights” so that we are ready for the finish line. Even if we don’t get there the trip was fun. Enjoy each other in all facets of your relationship as the journey is short from where I sit. I write this simply because having read what many of the folks are dealing with, I think any pleasure that one can have in a relationship is worth the effort.

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mykmyk | @ivan13za | 7 hours ago

I think the original question was a mix of ED and wife’s loss of libido, to quote: “since she no longer wants to have sex.”
We seem to be concentrating on treating the ED, which is, mostly, very treatable. Loss of libido in a partner is not easily treated and can led to real sexual frustration.
Forgive me if I am wrong, but I think frustration is the deeper issue in spanishwiz04’s post.
A temptation to cheat on his spouse was a clear issue and this could damage relationships or even destroy his marriage.
This is not healthy and so advice on how to get sexual satisfaction within his circumstances is, perhaps, a better way forward than suggestions he use Viagra, Levitra et al. Of course, if spanishwiz04 can get an erection then manual masturbation does become possible.
I personally know the difficulties of sexual frustration when a spouse loses all desire and I have, with her knowledge and agreement found a solution within marriage.
Also, grandmira has good advice here.

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