Importance of focusing on Positive with Depression & Anxiety.

Posted by BoneHead @stsopoci, May 27, 2019

In my journey with the millions of humans who are brave enough to go down the path of recovery without alcohol, bad drug and more drugs, I have gradually more and more discovered how important it is to crawl out of my deep hole, bad attitude, self-importance, feeling sorry for myself, angry, sad, etc, etc, condition and more toward the LIGHT!!! That means changing and moving for me away from some friends that are very negative about everything. That means walking around the block when I get upset so I can calm down and see the light. That means taking care of myself, exercising, eating right and meeting new friends and keeping old friends that are well-balanced. Positivity in life is available to everyone and it’s FREE. I have gone on a path throughout my early days of self-medicating with lots of alcohol, drug, etc. I cleaned myself up in 1996, OCT 13th but I still did not feel right until I could ask for help from a professional. Found out I was GAD (inherited from my MOM) and a few other close seconds. I went on medication for years on various meds until I found the chemical that keeps me pretty normal. BUT, BUT…something else was missing because I still suffered through the negativity of every situation that I could create in a moments time.

I love these groups because you are honest with yourself which is very important.
Finding good friends that understand you and the importance of staying positive with your journey through life.
Taking good care of yourself.
We all are unique so what works for me does not always work for you. I’m on 20mg of Lexipro.
What do other people do to stay positive?

@caf

Such a hopeful bright light! I am 59 and have been battling with depression & anxiety for years ( alcoholism and depression in my family) and just tapered off of Effexor thinking I had arrived to a place where I could handle my life .. then covid, a business with daily adjustments & changes and wound up in another major depression. I’m back on Effexor and pray to god the negativity and anxiety will wane..thank you for your encouraging words

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@caf Welcome to Mayo Connect! we're glad you are here to join us, and share experiences. Sometimes our best intentions need to be placed on a side shelf while we deal with harsh realities. Will you be thinking about tapering off Effexor again in the future, when you feel on a more level keel?
Ginger

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Hello ginger, thank you for your message. I am once again perplexed at the power of my debilitating dark major depressions so i am not sure what i will do in the future. I have had depressions on and off since the age of ten so i am wondering if it is just my brain chemistry that has for years been compromised.. i didnt start taking meds till i was about 42.. so nice to hear from you! Carrie

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@caf

Hello ginger, thank you for your message. I am once again perplexed at the power of my debilitating dark major depressions so i am not sure what i will do in the future. I have had depressions on and off since the age of ten so i am wondering if it is just my brain chemistry that has for years been compromised.. i didnt start taking meds till i was about 42.. so nice to hear from you! Carrie

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@caf Hello Carrie,

I just noticed your post. It seems that many of us have a problem with brain chemistry and sometimes the work of anti-depressants is very helpful in balancing out that type of problem. I wish you well and hope that you keep in touch with Mayo Connect.

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@caf

Hello ginger, thank you for your message. I am once again perplexed at the power of my debilitating dark major depressions so i am not sure what i will do in the future. I have had depressions on and off since the age of ten so i am wondering if it is just my brain chemistry that has for years been compromised.. i didnt start taking meds till i was about 42.. so nice to hear from you! Carrie

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@caf Carrie, it was a challenge for me to learn to rip the power away from the depression I also deal with. But, as I have control issues LOL, I had to, in order to keep going. I decided whatever it took to keep those dark wolves from my door, even if it meant they were still in the front yard, waiting for me to invite them back. Medication, therapy, exercise, writing it out, all have helped me. Will the battle ever end, probably not. But I am working hard. What other methods have you worked with to help you in depressive episodes?
Ginger

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Hi ginger, yes it seems the healing never stops but i am committed and so inspiring to hear your words, thank you. I am starting with a new therapist, going to try emdr, and exercise will resume when the effexor Kicks in. At this point cant eat and no motivation Its a tough first couple weeks on effexor..it too shall pass. What kind of medication are you on?

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@caf

Hi ginger, yes it seems the healing never stops but i am committed and so inspiring to hear your words, thank you. I am starting with a new therapist, going to try emdr, and exercise will resume when the effexor Kicks in. At this point cant eat and no motivation Its a tough first couple weeks on effexor..it too shall pass. What kind of medication are you on?

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@caf Carrie, right now I am not on anything. I do have a referral to do some therapy, again, and may find myself on an anti-depressant. In the past I was on citalopram.
I look forward to hearing about your experience with the new therapist. Will you let us know how it works out for you, please?
Ginger

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@gingerw

@caf Carrie, it was a challenge for me to learn to rip the power away from the depression I also deal with. But, as I have control issues LOL, I had to, in order to keep going. I decided whatever it took to keep those dark wolves from my door, even if it meant they were still in the front yard, waiting for me to invite them back. Medication, therapy, exercise, writing it out, all have helped me. Will the battle ever end, probably not. But I am working hard. What other methods have you worked with to help you in depressive episodes?
Ginger

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Maybe your control issues will work for your good!
You listed what helps you. Every day we fight battles, trying to change our behavior. You are in control of you. Let us know when you have won. You will win!
You are one determined woman!
I am impressed by your writing.

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@gingerw Don't forget your crafts too the art work of zantangle tI like your photo

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@gingerw

@caf Carrie, it was a challenge for me to learn to rip the power away from the depression I also deal with. But, as I have control issues LOL, I had to, in order to keep going. I decided whatever it took to keep those dark wolves from my door, even if it meant they were still in the front yard, waiting for me to invite them back. Medication, therapy, exercise, writing it out, all have helped me. Will the battle ever end, probably not. But I am working hard. What other methods have you worked with to help you in depressive episodes?
Ginger

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To Ginger: As in the past I struggled with thoughts of Suicide for two years,I have learned so much about my life and why I stayed so long with the narc and drug addicts. I have lost a lot for sure. This little paragraph made me cry tears of joy. Education and parenting are key things as our children grow. It is a good thing that God is always there and I left this with my children. So I know they are never alone, even if I am not there for a time.Ps. Bonehead ! Thanks for your paragraph. It meant a lot. cat

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@gingerw

@caf Carrie, it was a challenge for me to learn to rip the power away from the depression I also deal with. But, as I have control issues LOL, I had to, in order to keep going. I decided whatever it took to keep those dark wolves from my door, even if it meant they were still in the front yard, waiting for me to invite them back. Medication, therapy, exercise, writing it out, all have helped me. Will the battle ever end, probably not. But I am working hard. What other methods have you worked with to help you in depressive episodes?
Ginger

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@gingerw All of us dealing with depression are always in the arena on some level-I think so at any rate. I paint it out into the yard.

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@caf

Hi ginger, yes it seems the healing never stops but i am committed and so inspiring to hear your words, thank you. I am starting with a new therapist, going to try emdr, and exercise will resume when the effexor Kicks in. At this point cant eat and no motivation Its a tough first couple weeks on effexor..it too shall pass. What kind of medication are you on?

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@caf Hi, I'm GailBL, and I'm a returning Volunteer Mentor. I noticed that you're starting Effexor for depression. I think it might be good to review the posts posted on "Tips on minimising withdrawal symptoms from Effexor (aka Venelafaxine)" thread. There are 372 pages of posts on problems with this drug. I just think you need to be aware of them since you're just beginning it.

Please ask your doctor for a "DNA test" to find antidepressants that will work best with your body and metabolism. Best of luck. My life completely changed for the best after antidepressant, Citalopram.

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Hi gail, thank you for your message. I have been on Effexor on and off for years and it has worked but i am just now starting again, with nausea cant eat, etc. I should have just stayed on it! Did you ever try effexor?

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@caf

Hi gail, thank you for your message. I have been on Effexor on and off for years and it has worked but i am just now starting again, with nausea cant eat, etc. I should have just stayed on it! Did you ever try effexor?

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I will indeed ask for the dna test..I haven’t heard of citalopram..will ask.. and will read more about Effexor.. thank you for your help!

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@gailb

@caf Hi, I'm GailBL, and I'm a returning Volunteer Mentor. I noticed that you're starting Effexor for depression. I think it might be good to review the posts posted on "Tips on minimising withdrawal symptoms from Effexor (aka Venelafaxine)" thread. There are 372 pages of posts on problems with this drug. I just think you need to be aware of them since you're just beginning it.

Please ask your doctor for a "DNA test" to find antidepressants that will work best with your body and metabolism. Best of luck. My life completely changed for the best after antidepressant, Citalopram.

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I was prescribed Escitalopram by a doctor and I could not tolerate it. (chest pains)

I called a family member who is a Physician’s Assistant: “Stop taking it.”

I called the doctor:”Stop taking it.”

I am not saying “Stop.” One prescriber said many of her older patients can tolerate this pharmaceutical.

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@helenfrances

I was prescribed Escitalopram by a doctor and I could not tolerate it. (chest pains)

I called a family member who is a Physician’s Assistant: “Stop taking it.”

I called the doctor:”Stop taking it.”

I am not saying “Stop.” One prescriber said many of her older patients can tolerate this pharmaceutical.

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AND…..It did benefited GailBL.
Each of our bodies is unique!

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