I'm the spouse of a chronic Migraine sufferer

I understand your wifes delema, yet I never thought about how this could effect others. As a teen, I had what appeared to be knives in my temples, debilitating. Dr. told me if I don't stop using drugs and start eating, there is a procedure that a drill pierces the skull to relieve pressure on the brain.
A friend gave me a head massage, and said, when he removes his hands from my temple, the pain will go with it. It worked. Psychlogical? Biofeedback? Who knows, could have been the rubbing of my blood vesils.
What I eat, processed foods, and bread messes with my sinus, so, using a neti-pot to clean it out, removes any cause for head problems.
A simple headach tablet actually works for me, and being out in the fresh air, especially after rain which cleans the air of pollen and dust, is a great joy.
I'm sure you and you wife has tried all of these and then some. Wish I had more to offer.

I am a 75 yr old woman who is in the same situation. I do not know, how to deal w the stress that I am feeling because of a member of my family is suffering from Migraine head aches very bad.

What can I do to help my family member?
Please help me help my child. Thank you.
VJ

What types of medications has she tried? has she tried botox, because that has worked wonders for me. if she has then I apologize. I understand where you are coming from because my boyfriend is in the same situation with watching me struggle and how to cope with tat. it is challeneging adn you have every right to struggle with it as well even when you arent the one in pain, you are seeing your loved one in pain.

@mackvogt13 therein lies the problem. She is not receptive to my suggestions. She struggles through the pain, speaks with her doctor, changes medications, and does research on her own. But she mostly feels like I don't know how to help her. And the truth is I don't know how. I remain calm supportive and understanding on the outside but I'm very frustrated hurt and confused on the inside. How do you wish for your boyfriend to support you?

@bcart18 I do everything that you are describing that she does. My boyfriend is in school right now to be an EMT and just loves medical stuff so he knows a little more than the average person about medical stuff. When we first got together I wasn't as bad off as I was now but he has done everything he can to get to know about my diseases, how to best help people with my conditions, help me when he can/without asking, and just being there for me when I need him because I do unfortunately know that I will have these issues forever. It breaks him that he cant "fix" these issues himself or do more but I'm just like lets be real, you are not my doctor, and it is not your job. you signed up to be my boyfriend not my caregiver. a relationship is supposed to be 50/50 so I put in as much as I can everyday and even if it is 30% he makes up that 70% because he knows eventually I will be doing that 70% for him someday you know. You just have to be there for here when times are tought and they really really are because it feel like no one can understand. I dont know how old you guys are but I am 19 and I just had to drop out of nursing school so it feel like my whole life just got put on pause but I am working very hard to get back to some sort of place to have some kind of career I would like. So having a goal is also important as well as having hobbies (especially if she is bedbound or mostly homebound). I know I kinda rambled but I hope this kind of helped a little bit

@mackvogt13 Yes, that was very helpful - thank you. We're a bit older than you, but your advice is still really helpful. I'm sorry that you had to drop out of Nursing School. I hope you make it back. Coincidently my wife is a nurse - she entered as a 2nd career and made her way through it amidst her migraines (not as bad then as they are now). I hope you find peace and painfree times to be able to become a nurse. Good luck to you. Thank you for your feedback.

@bcart18 That is very cool she took up a second career as a nurse! Thank you, I am trying everyday to get back to it! I truly do hope that she is able to find some relief. And don’t beat yourself up about it being hard for tou even thought you aren’t physically feeling the symptoms. just try to be patient.