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I'm the spouse of a chronic Migraine sufferer

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@mackvogt13 therein lies the problem. She is not receptive to my suggestions. She struggles through the pain, speaks with her doctor, changes medications, and does research on her own. But she mostly feels like I don't know how to help her. And the truth is I don't know how. I remain calm supportive and understanding on the outside but I'm very frustrated hurt and confused on the inside. How do you wish for your boyfriend to support you?

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@bcart18 I do everything that you are describing that she does. My boyfriend is in school right now to be an EMT and just loves medical stuff so he knows a little more than the average person about medical stuff. When we first got together I wasn't as bad off as I was now but he has done everything he can to get to know about my diseases, how to best help people with my conditions, help me when he can/without asking, and just being there for me when I need him because I do unfortunately know that I will have these issues forever. It breaks him that he cant "fix" these issues himself or do more but I'm just like lets be real, you are not my doctor, and it is not your job. you signed up to be my boyfriend not my caregiver. a relationship is supposed to be 50/50 so I put in as much as I can everyday and even if it is 30% he makes up that 70% because he knows eventually I will be doing that 70% for him someday you know. You just have to be there for here when times are tought and they really really are because it feel like no one can understand. I dont know how old you guys are but I am 19 and I just had to drop out of nursing school so it feel like my whole life just got put on pause but I am working very hard to get back to some sort of place to have some kind of career I would like. So having a goal is also important as well as having hobbies (especially if she is bedbound or mostly homebound). I know I kinda rambled but I hope this kind of helped a little bit