im scared that im pregnant

Hi @emmagrave. I have a daughter who is now 40 years old. When she was little and stressed or upset about something, I would gently grab her arms just above the wrists. It instantly calmed her. She told me a few years ago that it was one of the single most comforting things that she remembers. I still instinctively do that when she or any of my friends or loved ones are upset.
Imagine that I’m doing that with you right now. Take a deep breath and we’ll work through this, ok?

I know this feels like a very scary time if you think you’re pregnant. It happened to me when I was younger too..,even though I was on the pill at that time. But I wasn’t ready to be pregnant and was very scared that I was. I’m now 70 and that was a million years ago. ☺️

If your boyfriend was wearing a condom, they have a good reliability rate. So the odds are that you’re not pregnant. Do you think there was a time when the condom leaked?

One thing that you can do is buy a pregnancy test. They’re available at any drug store and you don’t need a prescription.
If there is a Planned Parenthood clinic in your city, you can also go there to get tested. It’s just a urine test.

Please believe me, I’m not judging you at all! We’re women…these things can happen. But I’d like to know if this is something you can talk over with your mom?

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thank you! it couldve leaked, we never really checked. and yes, if my period didnt come in the next few days, he said he would go grab a pregnancy test for me. As for talking about this with my mom, its a no-go, i don’t trust my parents and what they would do if they even found out i had a a boyfriend let alone that we have sex.

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I know this is an emotional situation for you and your boyfriend because this can be life altering for both of you. If this is a false alarm, then it’s a little wake-up call to really be extra cautious with using birth control. I’m glad that you and your boyfriend always use condoms and while they are fairly reliable accidents can happen.

So we’ll keep our fingers crossed that this is a false alarm. When you’re adult enough to be having sex you also have to be adult enough to understand there can be these unexpected consequences…and that’s not easy to remember in the heat of the moment. It can be pretty sobering and scary to realize how easy it is to become pregnant. Unfortunately it’s usually up to us women to be the responsible person in the partnership to make sure birth control is used every single time.

So, taking the pregnancy test is the right first step. Keeping in mind that PMS can actually have some of the same symptoms as early pregnancy so hopefully that’s what you’re experiencing.

I’m sure you’ve been looking for information about early pregnancy signs. This is a great site for more info.
https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/early-symptoms-timeline

And this article on signs of PMS vs early pregnancy https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/pms-symptoms-vs-pregnancy-symptoms

Sending you a hug…Will you let me know what you find out please?

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I know this is an emotional situation for you and your boyfriend because this can be life altering for both of you. If this is a false alarm, then it’s a little wake-up call to really be extra cautious with using birth control. I’m glad that you and your boyfriend always use condoms and while they are fairly reliable accidents can happen.

So we’ll keep our fingers crossed that this is a false alarm. When you’re adult enough to be having sex you also have to be adult enough to understand there can be these unexpected consequences…and that’s not easy to remember in the heat of the moment. It can be pretty sobering and scary to realize how easy it is to become pregnant. Unfortunately it’s usually up to us women to be the responsible person in the partnership to make sure birth control is used every single time.

So, taking the pregnancy test is the right first step. Keeping in mind that PMS can actually have some of the same symptoms as early pregnancy so hopefully that’s what you’re experiencing.

I’m sure you’ve been looking for information about early pregnancy signs. This is a great site for more info.
https://www.healthline.com/health/pregnancy/early-symptoms-timeline

And this article on signs of PMS vs early pregnancy https://www.healthline.com/health/womens-health/pms-symptoms-vs-pregnancy-symptoms

Sending you a hug…Will you let me know what you find out please?

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Hi! Today my period came, we had plans to go to the drug store to get a test but since my period came this morning, we didn’t. guess i was just really late this time.

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Phew!!! Thank you! That’s really great news because I know how worried you were. I’m doing a happy dance for you! 💃
I know that you’ll be extra careful from now on, right? 😉

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Hi! Today my period came, we had plans to go to the drug store to get a test but since my period came this morning, we didn’t. guess i was just really late this time.

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