I’m having a hard time finding something to look forward to each day

Posted by triciaann99 @triciaann99, Oct 25 12:06pm

I’ve been on a bad depression for the last three years. I’m very lonely in this having a companion. I am somewhat functional during the day, but what keeps me going as I know that I can take my sleeping pill at night, Ambien and get a good nights sleep. That is what I look forward to for so many years my doctor now has tapered me off Ambien because she believes I have abused which I have to an extent.
I am on Wellbutrin for depression. I don’t see that is helping, but I am just wondering what others do to make it through the day and what they look forward to because I have lost so many of my interests.

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I have been lucky with the family doctor I have now , ive had a few that werent in the past. gallstones for years before they were found ( amazing what you cant find if u dont look for it ) etc etc etc. arthritis meds are turning nasty, one is bad for the liver the other now is affecting my eyesight, cant see a specialist till december. There was a saying , " Physician heal thyself" unfortunately now the patient has to heal thyself too.

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I have been diagnosed with major depressive disorder. That was in 2021. I have personally found that anti depressants don’t work. I am currently weaning myself off of Cymbalta which I’ve been taking for depression and pain. I had a an anterior and posterior spinal fusion in 2018.

I live day by day, sometimes hour to hour. I feel lonely but I don’t like being around people.

It’s very complicated. I do think trying to get out of your head is a great idea, however. I will give it a serious try.

Ty.

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Profile picture for joycecates @joycecates

As hard as it may be, and I am guessing here that you aren't already doing this, move as much as possible. I know when you are depressed, (I suffer from this as well), any movement helps. Start slow if you wish, just start, and applaud yourself when you do it. You can do simple exercises, chair exercises, depending on you limitations, etc. It is so very important to move. It is probably one of the best things to help with depression. Utilize You Tube for videos on exercising with your capabilities. I can tell you it helps. If you have a senior center you can go to, that is very helpful in being with other people. I wish you many blessings and hopefully you will feel better.

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@joycecates thank you I will take your advice. I know exercise is supposed to be so good for you. It’s just so hard for me sometimes when I just can’t get out of bed, but I do live in an assisted living home so there’s plenty of places to walk indoors I just need to get out there and do it. !!

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@triciaann99 This may sound weird, but I enjoy watching "true crime" videos on YouTube. Part of it is gratitude for being sober now and not going to jail. Another piece is motivation for wanting to get the word out that people with alcoholism and drug addiction do things when under the influence they would NEVER do when sober. The criminal justice system needs an overhaul. I go to a jail (through my graduate internship) and help lead an anger management class. I was shocked to learn that this jail (a county in middle Tennessee) has no social worker or therapist on site AT ALL! These folks, although, broke the law, are not animals. I would say 90% of them need help, some kind of counseling or therapy and yet there is no one on staff for that. I find that disgusting and reprehensible. Anyway, did not mean to go on a soap box. I also, am fascinated with the human mind. I have always wondered about the "nature vs. nurture" argument. It is my belief that people are not born serial murderers, etc. I think they may have a biological propensity due to genetics, but I believe it is more how they were raised and the family of origin stuff. Most of it seems to go back to childhood trauma. Anyway, again, did not mean to be so long winded, but wanted to share some thing that I do, find interesting and can lose myself in when feeling like crap. Hang in there. Just for today!

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@diverdown1 thank you for your reply. I do believe the criminal justice system needs a complete overhaul. But that’s something stemming from a different issue of mine with a family member who has paid his dues and still seems to not get a fair shake at times

I am trying to find the little joy in life again for some reason I know that life is fragile and one should be grateful for every day. I just got done talking to my daughter, and she brings a big smile to my face. She wants to be a nurse. I love her so much Thank you all for your replies. I read every single one and I am taking a little bit from each reply and it’s so encouraging to hear sometimes it’s just a simple things that can make life enjoyable.

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Profile picture for joycecates @joycecates

As hard as it may be, and I am guessing here that you aren't already doing this, move as much as possible. I know when you are depressed, (I suffer from this as well), any movement helps. Start slow if you wish, just start, and applaud yourself when you do it. You can do simple exercises, chair exercises, depending on you limitations, etc. It is so very important to move. It is probably one of the best things to help with depression. Utilize You Tube for videos on exercising with your capabilities. I can tell you it helps. If you have a senior center you can go to, that is very helpful in being with other people. I wish you many blessings and hopefully you will feel better.

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@joycecates,
You are so right! My husband died in 2024 and I'm still having a hard time being alone. I get up everyday to the same old routine. However, after I've taken the garbage down and gotten the mail, I feel so much better physically and in a more positive mood. Also after I clean something or vacuum I feel happier even though I don't like cleaning or vacuuming that much!
PML

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@joycecates,
You are so right! My husband died in 2024 and I'm still having a hard time being alone. I get up everyday to the same old routine. However, after I've taken the garbage down and gotten the mail, I feel so much better physically and in a more positive mood. Also after I clean something or vacuum I feel happier even though I don't like cleaning or vacuuming that much!
PML

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@pml So sorry for the loss of your husband. I know what you mean about cleaning, LOL, I don't like to either, but after it is done I feel so much better. I started going to the gym as my medicare supplement provides Silver Sneakers which I truly love. If the only thing I do is to show up and walk around the inside track a little it is something. When I get home I feel so much better. There are lots of seniors there and I don't feel so alone. I also try youtube videos or silver sneakers online videos for exercises for seniors. It feels good. Try it. You may surprise yourself and really come to enjoy it. It is a struggle at first, but push through. Bless you.

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@joycecates thank you I will take your advice. I know exercise is supposed to be so good for you. It’s just so hard for me sometimes when I just can’t get out of bed, but I do live in an assisted living home so there’s plenty of places to walk indoors I just need to get out there and do it. !!

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@triciaann99 It is not easy to start. I know it isn't easy but keep trying. Living in an assisted living at least there are people there. I am so happy you are going to try. I bet you will be patting yourself on the back because you feel better! Bless you.

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Well, dear woman, that stinks. I am so sorry for the pain, mental and physical, that your depression causes you. My husband suffers from it and it is heartbreaking to watch. I work hard to help him manage, finding small things that make him smile. Occasionally, toast loaded with butter and peanut butter, and be damned the calories and cholesterol. You can only manage one thing at a time. Twenty minutes outside in the sunshine. British crime dramas in TV. Scrabble on his phone. Ice cream bars. Patting his head (sometimes I pat my own). Two or three small things a day can make a big difference, so try to figure out a few that will bring you comfort. Maybe the most important thing is knowing that there are people here that really care. You are not alone. Bette

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I am not a strong proponent of anti-depressants, however, I do believe when one suffers from depression one does not even have the mental energy to do anything! So with that said, sometimes a small dose of an anti-depressant, ie Zoloft (because you can half the 25 mg tablet very easily) it will what I call "lift the clouds" and allow you that energy to just try one thing and hopefully move on from there! I. too, think bedtime is the best.....you can go to sleep and not have to worry, think etc. But that certainly is not healthy. Hopefully you have a Primary physician who is on board with this and will give it a try. It's better than doing nothing!

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@kndaustin71 Zoloft made my depression worse to the point that I became suicidal. My doctor immediately changed my meds to 2 different anti-depressants that I've been on for several years now.

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Well, dear woman, that stinks. I am so sorry for the pain, mental and physical, that your depression causes you. My husband suffers from it and it is heartbreaking to watch. I work hard to help him manage, finding small things that make him smile. Occasionally, toast loaded with butter and peanut butter, and be damned the calories and cholesterol. You can only manage one thing at a time. Twenty minutes outside in the sunshine. British crime dramas in TV. Scrabble on his phone. Ice cream bars. Patting his head (sometimes I pat my own). Two or three small things a day can make a big difference, so try to figure out a few that will bring you comfort. Maybe the most important thing is knowing that there are people here that really care. You are not alone. Bette

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@bettes I love toast loaded with butter and peanut butter! I thought I was the only one. LOL

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