I need help to come out of a relationship with a narcissist... please

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I had the same relationship with a narcissist who was also paranoid. It is very hard to deal and for me especially hard when love and caring was involved.

Do you have access to WEBMD? They just did an article on what is a Narcissist. Sypmptoms to see and also what you can do. The article and information is really good and informative abound the mental outlook of somewone that is a narcissist and why they act the way they do. If you cannot access WEBMD try googling and see information on it. Knowing why goes a long way to understanding.

I would suggest if possible to consider seeing a psychologist or psychiatrist to help with this. Us on MCC are not medical or mental health professionals nor have your medication and mental health issues and can only give you our experiences with a discussion.

A little while ago, a young lady received extensive amounts of good advice on this Chat. If you can access that stream, you will find many people who have had this experience with Narcissists and gained wisdom to share. (keyword may be "boyfriend").

Also, May 18. "I married a narcissist ."

web sites

Thank you...will definitely google it

It’s a tough thing to do if you’re not ready. I struggled for years to leave, but always went back. I didn’t fully appreciate the danger I put myself in by staying in tne relationship . Fortunately, I did leave permanently. I stayed until my ex had destroyed the love I had. It dwindled away completely and I eventually had no feelings for the man. At that point, I walked away with no pain, no emotion and no desire to be missed by him. I felt nothing at all about it. I wasn’t even sad. I had cried out all my tears. I was anxious to move on with my life and share it with a kind, emotionally open person who was right there. It was hard to believe I ever loved the ex. I had been under a delusion that he was one thing, but he wasn’t. He was a fake.

I never regretted getting my life back. Beware of people like that. They are good at grooming and love bombing.

Today, I would suggest getting a legal opinion….you may need a restraining order AND a consult with a professional about leaving a toxic relationship. Those with NPD can react violently if disappointed. Have a plan and place to go. Establish a support system. A good therapist is always a plus, imo.

Best wishes with your decision.

I suggest watching Dr. Ramani on YouTube. She is a psychologist that is an expert on Narcissism and Narcissitic Personality Disorder. She has many videos. My father was diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and I have, over the years, been drawn to those types of people due to it being familiar (unconsciously). She helped me understand a lot about myself and narcissism. I truly believe you will find some help watching her videos.

This totally describes my situation....thank you

For me….I had no idea that a wonderful life was right there. My misery was being instigated by a person who delighted in that misery. Being free and happy was my choice. The NPD in my life would never allow that.

Good luck with your brighter days ahead.

It is difficult to dis-engage with a narcissist. Probably because it seems important to have the record straight for a reasonable person. A narcissist is not a reasonable person. When you’ve come to the end of your rope, and it sounds like you may be ready, let go. And try to understand that by continuing to believe you can have a reasonable connection with an unreasonable person, you are not being truthful with that person. Be truthful, let go. It’s better to deal with your sadness because you stand a chance to save your sanity. Recite the Serenity Prayer, in its entirety, several times throughout the day. “Taking this world as it is and not as I would have it.” Find someone that has had to do this and let them help remind you that it is not wise for you to think you can fix a narcissist.
If you are able to successfully stop engagement you might be able to be a person that can help someone else with this difficult task. You don’t have to feel brave… just Be Brave.