Husband calls my daughter looking for me

Do you mean he calls your daughter on the phone saying you are not in the house, only you are in the house?

If so, I’d likely explain to your daughter that he mistakenly believes you aren’t there. Each time she’ll know why he’s doing it. There’s really no way to prevent it as long as he has access to the phone. You could sit next to him during the hours he normally calls her.

People who have dementia can call people and say all kinds of things. We were aware of who my dad called on the phone because he could have provided sensitive info like card numbers, bank accounts, etc. Dad tended to over share and that had to be monitored.

jsaved74,
My husband has Alzheimer's also, and he has done the same thing. My daughter is a schoolteacher, and she is very compassionate and has taken on the role of helping to calm down my husband when he gets upset. I am glad that he has someone to call and so far, she has kindly taken on this job. Sometimes his brain is remembering back 30 or 40 years so he thinks I should be young and pretty and instead I am a white-haired elderly woman. He has pointed to pictures of me when I was young and wondered where I was. Often, he thinks I am a caregiver who is not related to him. Sometimes I try to explain things to my husband and at other times I just let it go because it really won't change anything. I feel so sorry for him, it must be awful to be in his shoes. This is a horrible, horrible disease.

@katrina123

@katrina123 Sometimes my husband looks at photos of me from the past and tells me, "That's Trisha, You're NOT Trisha"!
It hurts.

My husband does this regularly. And if I go to the store, which I can still do because he’s OK alone he will call me five or six times. Sometimes one call right after another. It appears that after about 20 to 30 minutes, he starts doing that and when he calls back, he doesn’t remember that he just called. I leave notes on the table for him, but he tends to not look at them.

my wife does all the same things your husband does. i did digitize our wedding album and put it on her ipad so she can see the pictures and know it’s me in the house with her. However, sometimes she will look at the photos and say it’s not me. i just say i’ve aged over these past 56 years. it gets her laughing ( which is a good thing). hang in there, you are not alone because there are many more people just like you in the caregiving role

I’ll just caution those who have loved ones who call a lot when left alone. Determining if they are ok alone can be tricky. My cousin used to call me a lot and I would chat a little with her and explain I’d be over later to see her. I went everyday to visit, monitor the situation, take her meals, etc. Then, one day when I was on the way over I got a call on my cell from EMS. They were inside her house with her. She had gone on her frint porch and started yelling for help. Neighbors called 911. When they arrived all she could tell them was that I would come and help her. So, they called my cell number. She gave it to them. I was a few minutes away and arrived shortly. They checked her out and left once I arrived. It was a shocking experience that scared us both. Just saying, be prepared for things you wouldn’t normally expect. The repeated calls are often due to fear, anxiety and confusion. It’s difficult for them to keep calm with those things going on.