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How to deal with aging anxiety?

Posted by grahmilou @grahmilou, Dec 30, 2025

The last few years have been hard with multiple surgeries, now recovered, but ongoing pain. The loss of friends recently as they passed and the worrying about how the road feels like it’s getting so much shorter. constantly worrying about the process of dying. trying to stay grateful for today but sometimes the anxiety feels overwhelming especially as I see our country chance for worse and worry about the world for my grandchildren.

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grahmilou | @grahmilou | Jan 19 9:29am

OK today I commit to worrying about several things knowing that my worrying will prevent them all from happening. I love the irony thanks for the smile.

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gussie | @gussie | Jan 19 11:42am
In reply to @edsutton "karenweiss wrote: " As I age, my sense of loss is immense. The state of the..." + (show)
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karenweiss wrote: " As I age, my sense of loss is immense. The state of the world is very confusing, therefore I have withdrawn from news, social media etc. ....
These days, I let myself feel what I feel, I accept my daily bag of feelings and move through them.
Yes, I have withdrawn from society in order to finally be fully present and accepting towards my own experiences. Aging on its own is very intense. I am no longer able to carry everyone's burden. ...."

Yes, we have each been assigned the burden of just one lifetime. It's not our burden to establish the future of all life on earth. Every day I get one vote, just one, and I try to be aware of how I'm voting, and that's all. It's a relief to realize how small and unimportant I am, and that one day I won't be voting anymore.

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@edsutton That was put beautifully. I'm an 84 year old female. My husband,80, still runs a commercial real estate office. I envy him because he still keeps busy and loves what he does. I always thought I would do volunteer work in a school or hospital when I retired. We live in a small county with not a lot of places to volunteer. However, I have a condition called CVID which means I don't make antibodies to viruses or bacteria. (Boy in the bubble disease but not as bad) so I can't be around sick people or in a school with children. I am still healthy and active except for osteoarthritis and don't look or act my age. I agree with you completely and worry on how I will leave this world to my daughters and grandsons. It feels as though I have unfinished business.

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jcarbone | @jcarbone | Jan 20 8:49am
In reply to @edsutton "karenweiss wrote: " As I age, my sense of loss is immense. The state of the..." + (show)
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karenweiss wrote: " As I age, my sense of loss is immense. The state of the world is very confusing, therefore I have withdrawn from news, social media etc. ....
These days, I let myself feel what I feel, I accept my daily bag of feelings and move through them.
Yes, I have withdrawn from society in order to finally be fully present and accepting towards my own experiences. Aging on its own is very intense. I am no longer able to carry everyone's burden. ...."

Yes, we have each been assigned the burden of just one lifetime. It's not our burden to establish the future of all life on earth. Every day I get one vote, just one, and I try to be aware of how I'm voting, and that's all. It's a relief to realize how small and unimportant I am, and that one day I won't be voting anymore.

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@edsutton well said. My struggle is to keep myself in the here and now and not dwelling on the future.

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sillyblone | @sillyblone | Jan 20 11:13am
In reply to @jcarbone "@edsutton well said. My struggle is to keep myself in the here and now and not..." + (show)
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@edsutton well said. My struggle is to keep myself in the here and now and not dwelling on the future.

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@jcarbone
Totally agree!

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