How should I respond to criticism?
There are many ways to do so and they are available online. But what I wish to know is how should a depressed respond to destructive criticism internally? Yes here are three main things: depressed, destructive criticism & internally. I am depressed and facing many destructive criticism daily. If someone criticizes me, I can deal with him easliy. I can say for him that he is right and it is gone. But internally, the effect I carry when after days, how should I deal with it? Should I go thru the criticism to check whether it is true or not? If it is untrue I doubt it is true because the criticism has been made by someone else. If it is true, I become tense, stressed; add to that the cruel manner used to make the criticism, it made me feel worse about myself. Headaches, diziness, weak concentration, weak functioning, becoming drowsy… are all caused by the process of EXAMINING the criticism. So what to do?
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@hopeful33250 Thank you for that link. I found the video very interesting. It is not saying anything I haven't heard before, over years, but it bears repeating, and has been presented in a slightly different format. It seems like the right thing comes along when we need it.
Hello @aliali, I feel that what @gingerw has said about the list is true. Your family has been unduly critical of you and I'm not sure that giving them another opportunity to criticize you would be at all helpful.
Instead, why don't you tell them of one of their positive characteristics and then ask them to tell you one of the positive characteristics that they see in your life? In other words, write affirmations for each other! This may not change their attitude overnight but in time, if you keep telling them something good about themselves and then ask them to tell you something good about yourself, it might eventually turn their critical attitudes toward something more positive.
It might be worth a try to just see how it works.
That sounds interesting.