How has ADT affected your enthusiasm & motivation for life?

Posted by scary1 @scary1, 1 day ago

My 61 year old husband (I'm 55) has been on ADT - Nubeqa and Orgovyx - for over three months and will likely take both for two years for high-risk prostate cancer (Gleason 9, cribriform, visibly contained within the prostate per scans), and I'm trying to better understand what other couples have experienced.
For those of you who have been on ADT, how has it affected your passion, enthusiasm, and motivation for life? My question isn’t about libido, but more about hobbies, excitement about future plans, ambition, or simply enjoying everyday conversations and activities.
Did you feel emotionally flat and less connected with loved ones and life? If so, did those feelings improve over time or after ADT ended?
My husband and I are a team for life; we still play (shorter) tennis sessions (we’ve played together for 30 years). We still laugh, but I sense an indifference and apathy that I’ve never experienced before. He's also less patient. Of course, this is to be expected, but I guess I’m asking: how did you feel differently toward your significant other? Clearly, testosterone is there for a reason, hence all the “low T” ads.
My husband says other than hot flashes and fatigue, he feels almost normal, but I see a difference. I don't want to make this about me, and I know this medical journey won't fracture us, but it’s also hard feeling our relationship off-kilter.
Thank you.

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I'm happy to hear you are doing well. Positivity and gratitude are vital in the journey - and I know this, but sometimes my energy collapses. My husband has to be forced to walk and exercise, but I can tell he feels better when he does move. His eating is not always the best - sausage and hideous processed meats are his dream foods.
It's a learning curve, but I really appreciate this forum. Take care!

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@scary1 have you talked to his oncologist about it? Does he take multivitamins specially D and K2? I this point we need all the help we can get

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