How do you respond to this?
My daughter has stage 4 metastatic breast cancer, and all of our friends have been very supportive and empathetic. BUT...we ran into a friend whom we hadn't seen in quite some time, and the first things she asked were, "Didn't you have a mammogram every year? Why didn't they catch it earlier? Didn't you feel the lump?" etc etc. It felt like she was blaming my daughter instead of offering any sympathy, and quite frankly I wanted to smack her. Way to go, you just made my precious daughter feel bad. How would you respond?
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I’d love to smack ‘em too. So if you did it, please do one for me as well! All kidding aside, I’m sorry that your daughter has stage 4. I pray that her treatments are going well and wish her a full remission. 🤗
It’s hard to be graceful in the face of sheer stupidity… I believe I would’ve been speechless for a moment, then possibly regained composure…. Your daughter no doubt felt belittled on top of everything else. And I would probably throw grace out with the garbage… something like: ‘ya know, you’re not only stupid… you’re mean.”would be appropriate.
Curse words bring you down a notch… your daughter needs your strength and guidance… show her how to be strong, be brave, be beautiful…
She needs to be a warrior…
I'm so sorry that you had to go through this, and hope you are doing well! The 'friend' and we don't run in the same circles, so we will hopefully not see her again. But if we do, I have some good retorts in mind thanks to this group!
I had dense breasts and they would say they are watching different areas. I went every 6 months for a couple of years until I finally had pain. Then it was discovered in four different areas of my breast and had spread to my lymph nodes. I went to all my appointments. For someone to say something like that just amazes me how people just don't get it!
I wish you and your daughter the best
Sorry, white spots.
Did you have white spots.
White spots on the mammogram .