How do you handle time management and calendar?
My husband has progressing MCI and has no time management skills. He is done with the clock on any tests. I keep our calendar and a white board for the day on the frig.
Early on I bought him a large calendar and he still got confused and anxious.
I totally schedule our life and use my phone calendar and a paper calendar.
What do others do for their spouse to keep them organized? And to reduce anxiety?
He also wakes up in the middle of the night to get ready if he has something the next day.,
I try not telling him til the day of, but he does like to be in on plans.
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That sounds a lot like my wife. I have both an electronic and paper calendar for reference but my wife cannot comprehend the concept of time any more. As for future events, I avoid mentioning them more than a day ahead of time. This sounds like a common symptom of the disease.
I use reminders of important medication and special appointments! My spouse love emogis ..so I use them for fun. He has had been in a really good mood today. No ugly comments. Very nice indeed.
My husband cannot follow time or calendar on his own but if I show it to him he remembers and understands. Interestingly he has always LOVED the daily calendar our daughter has given him for years with different beers on it to read and pull off. They discontinued that and she bought him one with dogs. He remembers to check it out each day to read and turn the days which seems to help him in time understanding.
I have also made highly visible notes or words to describe things, like large simple instructions to operate the keuric coffee maker on cabinet above.
I placed craft lettering like Home, Car, Fish above keys on key rack by the front door.
He is in charge of filling and emptying the dishwasher and I got a sliding “dirty/clean” sign on it so we know where his progress is.
Of course I fill his daily am and pm pillbox next to coffeemaker so he knows which to take even if I must remind him to do so and I check to assure he actually does it.
He is in charge of feeding the dogs but gets confused so I measure the feedings into plastic containers for each dog monthly and have them stacked so he can just empty one into each bowl. We hobble along, but I just see gradual changes now instead of major inabilities.
Hello: I keep a large white board calendar with our daily schedule next to my husband's favorite chair, and when he asks me the same temporal or schedule question repeatedly, I direct him to the white board so he can read the answer himself (this was done to preserve my sanity). We have a back up hard copy calendar with our schedule and there are magnets that spell the month/day that I keep on our fridge.
My husband has become VERY temporal focused and feels more settled and less anxious if he knows what is going on daily.
When we have nothing on our schedule, he can seem a little unfocused and unsure what to do with himself (sometimes I suggest a few activities).
This is well thought out. I had a cousin who had MS. Unfortunately she has died. I only met her once because she was older.Her husband made signs of what day it was , time of day and if he was in another room or stepped outside. He was truly a special person. I can't tell you all the little things he did. He was so patient. I think I might try more things as you gave me some idea's. Thank you for sharing. Hugs!
That is so helpful. I keep a whiteboard on the frig but it needs to be bigger as on a busy day it gets messy. He also has anxiety about days and times and schedules. Tell me more about the magnets.
I did the whiteboard calendar thing and gave him index cards every morning to prepare him for upcoming events. Experience has taught me that for him, the big calendar only caused anxiety. I find that on the day of an event (med appt, guests, etc) I just, as casually as possible, say that X is happening todayand here's what we need to do to prepare He has never said 'why didn't you tell me that yesterday' because sadly he has no yesterday. Try the daily index card (day of the week, date, year and the day's 'agenda'.) It helped my sanity and made him feel like he's still "in the loop".
Wow!! I love the index card idea too.:)
Me too!
Hi, the magnets are just a set of letter magnets from a fridge Scrabble game our son bought us. I arrange them daily to spell out our names, our children's names, their partner/spouse names, grandchildren names, and in a nearby area of the fridge, the month and date spelled out with the Scrabble letters.