Helping adult son who has depression
My son is in his forties and has clinical depression. He was in residential (Sierra Tucson) 6 years ago. He is on medication but his therapy has not been as frequent as previously d/t insurance changes. He is basically unemployed but is pursing an MSW. He lives with me, his 6 year old son (my grandson,) and his ex-wife lives in our addition. Bizarre but it works for us. I am concerned about his feelings of worthlessness after multiple rejections when he was applying for various jobs and his despair about the fact he is still living with his mom and is financially dependent upon me. He feels that if his son (whom he adores) ultimately finds out about his condition he will lose his love and respect. Although he stays alive for his son, he wonders if it would be better if he wasn’t here at all, if it’s better for him to be gone now rather than prolong what he feels is a facade. I know these are his demons talking to him and he’s intelligent enough to know that too, but when he gets into a “trough” these feelings overwhelm him. During such episodes he becomes immobilized (e.g., won’t get out of bed) and tells my grandson (who’s old enough to notice) that he has a headache or is sick. I’ve encouraged him to tell his son the truth about his depression because I know young kids can draw incorrect conclusions but he won’t due to his shame and guilt. Does anyone – either someone with depression or someone who loves someone with depression- have any advice?