Help - I am the Wife of a Man that Needs a Hip Replacement and refuses
My husband, 83, has had problems with his hip for years. He knows he needs a replacement but always backs out. He went to a pain manager who gave him shots in his hip and then started trying to sell him medical marijuana stuff for pain relief. This guy also had a "special cream that he used that he said worked better than the drugs on market and was made up for him at a pharmacy. That seemed strange to me and wasn't helping hubby much.
Anyway, Hubby is in pain and can hardly walk. When he does he walks like a cripple and grunts, groans and moans all the time. I love him dearly, but hearing him in pain all the time is getting to me. Especially when he starts talking about just going on waiting to die.
I also have problems with my legs, including a TKR and have problems walking, bending etc.
I am at my wits end because Hubby is starting to insist that I am around constantly. He drops things all over and can't pick them up so it leave it all to me. I have problem vacuuming due to balance and getting down on the floor. I want to hire help but Hubby refuses….claiming we can't afford it (we could a few times a month)
He keeps thinking his daughter is going to help but I can tell you that isnt going to happen. Since May we have seen her 1 time for 10 minutes because she is "so busy" She only lives 5 miles away. I called and asked if she would sit with her Dad one afternoon so I could get a respite and take in a show. She had no problem telling me
"No….to busy and that I should put him in a respite center!!! And bear with me when I say this…the few minutes she was here she was talking to him about his will and when I came in room shut up quickly.
Any support and ideas you can give me I would appreciate.