Fertility & Reproductive Health: Meet others and share your story

Welcome to the Fertility & Reproductive Health group on Mayo Clinic Connect.
This is a welcoming, safe place where you can meet people who know first-hand about dealing with fertility complications and reproduction health. Together we can learn from each other and share stories about challenges and triumphs, setbacks and the things that help.

Pull up a chair and connect. Why not start by introducing yourself? What is your experience? Got a question, tip or story to share?

Hello,

I finally figured out how to log in here and thought I'd introduce myself. My name is Nikki and I love in the Prior Lake, MN. I grew up in NW Wisconsin, but went to school in Duluth as well and love that area! I have been a RN for 7 years now all within the Mayo system. My husband and I have been TTC for 2 years. I have done 4 cycles of Clomid, 5 cycles of letrozole with 2 of them including IUIs, and I just complete my first IVF cycle in October. All my tests and workup never really showed anything wrong. I got a vague diagnosis of PCOS, but that was just because I reported enough symptoms to meet criteria. It has been a long few years, and I never imagined I would know so much about the female body and what it "should " do. We are feeling hopeful after our first IVF cycle. Interested to hear about other people's experiences. I've felt very lonely throughout this process as I didn't know others who had struggled to pregnant.

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@fishing2990

Hello,

I finally figured out how to log in here and thought I'd introduce myself. My name is Nikki and I love in the Prior Lake, MN. I grew up in NW Wisconsin, but went to school in Duluth as well and love that area! I have been a RN for 7 years now all within the Mayo system. My husband and I have been TTC for 2 years. I have done 4 cycles of Clomid, 5 cycles of letrozole with 2 of them including IUIs, and I just complete my first IVF cycle in October. All my tests and workup never really showed anything wrong. I got a vague diagnosis of PCOS, but that was just because I reported enough symptoms to meet criteria. It has been a long few years, and I never imagined I would know so much about the female body and what it "should " do. We are feeling hopeful after our first IVF cycle. Interested to hear about other people's experiences. I've felt very lonely throughout this process as I didn't know others who had struggled to pregnant.

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Welcome Nikki!

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@fishing2990 welcome to the group! I explained a bit about my situation in my introduction but I also went thru the IUI process and I unfortunately did not have success on that route. We started IVF in September and it is definitely not an easy road to travel. I completely relate with you on the feeling lonely part! This has been, by far, the most isolating experience I have ever had. I have always had amazing support in my friends and family and this was something that none of them had gone thru so it was very hard for them to really understand the way I needed them to sometimes. This group is a wonderful resource and even though it is just beginning I hope that it can act as a group to help take away some of that feeling lonely and offer support!

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Hi all, Time for a check-in. As we head into the weekend, followed by the Thanksgiving holiday, I wanted to check in.
@abcdefghi @doglover14 @fishing2990 @loren12 @minnesotamrsa @paddingtonk @phoenixzip How are you doing?

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I am doing well. Lots going on. We leave for Flagstaff, Az on Monday after my blood test(fingers crossed). When we get back I have an appointment for acupuncture at the healthy living center. I’ve heard it can help with infertility so I figure why not try it? I started the Lupron shots and so far I’m feeling pretty good. I got laid off last week so that kind of works out for things. I’m an electrician so getting laid off is a normal part of my job. December 18 is coming quickly. I’m excited and nervous for the transfer. Praying for good results. I hope everyone has a great holidays.

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Hello! I am doing well! Things definitely get a bit busy around the holidays but I love it! @paddingtonk I will definitely keep you in my prayers as you wait for the 18th!!!

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Hi all!
I’m doing just fine; we had an all day Mayo visit recently with about 6 different appointments. most of them were to get ready for our next round in Feb. We are deciding not to do genetic testing this round. In hindsight we wish we wouldn’t have opted for it last round. We thought we would have 8 embryos to test and then our chances were higher of leading to a live birth because we would’ve taken the best looking one. Looking back we wish Mayo would’ve warned us before sending our ONE embryo for testing. We didn’t realize that Mayo’s policy is they refuse to transfer an abnormal embryo even if we want them too. Had they not done testing they would’ve transferred anyway and then our embryo would’ve had a chance to correct itself (again, something I learned through this process). It was hard learning it would’ve been a girl. My friends all say “that makes it feel a bit more real doesn’t it” when they hear it is a girl. And I have to remind them that although it’s not in my stomach, she IS ”real” and is the closest thing to a baby we’ve ever had. we all start as embryos and this is a loss for us. So I’ve been working through that most recently. But I move on best when I actually move on so I’m trying to just focus on the next round.

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Updates!

Several people mentioned that they are currently going through treatments (IVF or IUI or ben and jerry's ice cream *cough-me). Anyone want to share their updates?

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Hello Everyone! I’m finally joining the party! My life has been very hectic and busy this past week all to the good though. My IVF journey is done for now, but I wanted to be part of this group to help support and be a source for whomever needs it. I have had success and failure with IVF. My story is a long one and I won’t bore ya with the novel but in the end we turned to IVF due to endometriosis and me having quite a severe case of it. Something it seems most of you are quite familiar with. I am down to one ovary and the tube to that ovary is blocked which is not helpful at all in trying to have children. When my husband and I started IVF it was about 2 years ago. The fall on 2017. I knew it was gong to be quite an adventure because I have a huge aversion to shots…..ha ha….guess what IVF is. Anyway, after swim we ended up with only 3 embryos which to us was like striking gold! We were told we’d be quite luck if we even got 1 or 2. We actually got pregnant after our fresh transfer…….sadly, it didn’t stick and turned into a miscarriage. The only known miscarriage I’ve ever had. Then we had discovered that through the stimulation process another endometrioma had formed…..doh! And when we got to our second transfer……nothing took. My gut was telling me that my ovary was not going to even try to support a baby if it has to fight an endometrioma too. So I had another surgery to get it removed and sure enough….I was right! Our last transfer…..it was an emotional one, I was in tears after because I wanted it to work soooooo bad (most of you know that feeling a little too well). The next few weeks of testing were stressful because all my results kept coming up in the “gray” area where, I couldn’t quite let myself get excited……then we got to the ultrasound………and we saw it. Flickering pixels! A heartbeat! It is now 2019 and my healthy baby boy is 8 months! I am living proof that IVF can happen. I have learned that persistence in this process is HUGE!!!! And patience is truly learned…..holy cow! About 6 months after having my son, we decided to try again with IVF. Needless to say it didn’t take. We were disappointed because we long for a big family, but we have not given up hope! Currently investigating adoption and who knows what might happen. That’s my story and please feel free to ask me anything. I am an open book!

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@phoenixzip

Hello Everyone! I’m finally joining the party! My life has been very hectic and busy this past week all to the good though. My IVF journey is done for now, but I wanted to be part of this group to help support and be a source for whomever needs it. I have had success and failure with IVF. My story is a long one and I won’t bore ya with the novel but in the end we turned to IVF due to endometriosis and me having quite a severe case of it. Something it seems most of you are quite familiar with. I am down to one ovary and the tube to that ovary is blocked which is not helpful at all in trying to have children. When my husband and I started IVF it was about 2 years ago. The fall on 2017. I knew it was gong to be quite an adventure because I have a huge aversion to shots…..ha ha….guess what IVF is. Anyway, after swim we ended up with only 3 embryos which to us was like striking gold! We were told we’d be quite luck if we even got 1 or 2. We actually got pregnant after our fresh transfer…….sadly, it didn’t stick and turned into a miscarriage. The only known miscarriage I’ve ever had. Then we had discovered that through the stimulation process another endometrioma had formed…..doh! And when we got to our second transfer……nothing took. My gut was telling me that my ovary was not going to even try to support a baby if it has to fight an endometrioma too. So I had another surgery to get it removed and sure enough….I was right! Our last transfer…..it was an emotional one, I was in tears after because I wanted it to work soooooo bad (most of you know that feeling a little too well). The next few weeks of testing were stressful because all my results kept coming up in the “gray” area where, I couldn’t quite let myself get excited……then we got to the ultrasound………and we saw it. Flickering pixels! A heartbeat! It is now 2019 and my healthy baby boy is 8 months! I am living proof that IVF can happen. I have learned that persistence in this process is HUGE!!!! And patience is truly learned…..holy cow! About 6 months after having my son, we decided to try again with IVF. Needless to say it didn’t take. We were disappointed because we long for a big family, but we have not given up hope! Currently investigating adoption and who knows what might happen. That’s my story and please feel free to ask me anything. I am an open book!

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Welcome, @phoenixzip. That's quite a story to pack into one paragraph. You certainly have been through trials and tribulations, and success! I'm sure to every sentence that you wrote there is a wealth of emotion, knowledge and support that you'll unpack and share in the group. I'm really glad you're here. Congrats on the birth of your healthy boy. I look forward to learning more about the things you learn through the adoption process. Where are you now on the adoption journey?

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@colleenyoung

Welcome, @phoenixzip. That's quite a story to pack into one paragraph. You certainly have been through trials and tribulations, and success! I'm sure to every sentence that you wrote there is a wealth of emotion, knowledge and support that you'll unpack and share in the group. I'm really glad you're here. Congrats on the birth of your healthy boy. I look forward to learning more about the things you learn through the adoption process. Where are you now on the adoption journey?

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Currently at the very beginnings of it. Mostly doing our research on which way we want to go with adoption. And making sure we have all our finances in order so there aren’t too many surprises. Very similar to IVF I’m that aspect. Side note: stay on top of your insurance people with your IVF stuff! My husband and I have had a few learn the hard way moments/insurance dropped the ball on communication. So hound them if need be!

Circling back……yes very beginnings of the adoption process. We hope to meet with an adoption lawyer or 2 to just ask a few questions that the agencies we’ve looked at so far aren’t really clear on. Gathering lots of intel. Already have several resources/support from friends and family that have been through this process and they have calmed several of my original fears. Cross your fingers we will be able to make it happen! 😉

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Join me in welcoming our most recent members to the group. @lilpipsqueak and @kellycattell welcome. I look forward to learning more about each of you. I invite you to pull up a chair and introduce yourselves. Where are you on this journey?

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