Fellow caregiver's - I need help, what do I look for in a sitter?
OK, this one is harder than I thought. I'm in over my head. I thought finding a sitter would be a simple matter. Well, it's not. In my efforts to find one I've discovered that this is a very lucrative business…for the supposed sitters. So fellow caregivers, a little advice please. Is there a check list somewhere to go by? What are the obvious red flags? How do you know if someone is telling the truth? How do you match up a potential caregiver with your loved one? What is the going rate to pay per hour? I need to know anything and everything about this process. Here's the background information – Husband is undiagnosed, by his choice, (he does know something is wrong) but more than a couple of people who are qualified to diagnose have indicated their belief that he does indeed have some type of dementia. Our own doctor whom we have been with for multiple decades is one of those. I guess he's qualified although I understand that dementia is becoming a very specialized thing these days. I digress. He does have some form of dementia, I'm certain of that. I can no longer leave him alone to go anywhere and he's reluctant to leave the property. There are times I need to leave home and he's making it impossible. The last several times I left him by himself he made some really bad choices. The worst was him going out onto the roof, three level house, to inspect the roof and clean the gutters with the leaf blower. I consider this as very dangerous for a 78 YO with multiple health issues. So this all boils down to a safety issue. I can't leave him alone and he is no longer willing to leave the property. I'm stuck.
You would think family would be an option when needing help. We have one family member within reasonable driving distance who visits occasionally and thinks that my husband "seems fine." We have several other family member who have picked up on the fact that husband has changed, and they haven't been to visit in a long long time, but now would like to become besties for an hour or so. One son offered to drive 6 hours each way, with a three year old strapped into a car seat, to spend an hour visiting, (he and his wife are raising their grandchild,) another offered to buy my husband a plane ticket and rent him a car to come visit them. You can't make this stuff up, it's real. The one offering the plane ticket and rental car doesn't even know that his dad hasn't been driving for a couple years now. Long story short, they'd like something handed to them.
Back to the problem at hand. I need some in home help and I need to have a clue how to go about this. I'm open for suggestions here, there's got to be an easier way of researching this information than what I've been trying to do. I typed in some information for my area and came up with a list of options, but when I started making calls and checking them out online, I was really disappointed and dismayed.
Please share what you know. I don't know how this works yet, but some of you do and can guide me through the process I hope. I appreciate you all for your wisdom and your willingness to share, thank you. ~ Another Day