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Feeling lonely and want to vent

Posted by ellie80 @ellie80, May 22 3:38pm

I don’t know about a lot of you, but I was raised that when your friends or family are sick or going through issues you’re supposed to be there for them. That hasn’t been the case for me at all. I keep choosing to believe that this is God‘s way of helping me eliminate the people out of my life that don’t truly care about me. I need to cut them off like sucker branches off a tree! What really hurts is some of these people ask me if I need anything and when I say yes, they never respond back. Why ask me if I need anything if you don’t want to help or don’t plan on helping? That has really been messing with my emotions. I’m the type of friend/neighbor that is there for you and your family. I’ll bring you food and home items. I’ll clean for you, take you to your appointments, whatever you need so you don’t have to ask for help. So you don’t feel like a burden and have to ask. But that’s me and I’m learning the majority of people around me are not the same.

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pinkhydrangea | @pinkhydrangea | Jun 8 9:47am
In reply to @willow5 "Gosh, that is really so disappointing and sad. I’m really sorry your daughter is doing that...." + (show)
@willow5

Gosh, that is really so disappointing and sad. I’m really sorry your daughter is doing that. I am not a parent - but the aunt and grandaunt of many. If I didn’t reach out, through texting, my guess is I’d never hear from them. I do try and be the change i want to see - so once in awhile I send out a hello text, or send them a joke or just say “hi I’m thinking of you,” but it doesn’t alleviate the hurt at feeling forgotten about or not counting. I know it’s not personal - it still makes me sad. It’s so wonderful you have very good friends!

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I am sorry your nieces and nephews are not contacting you even though you are trying to keep in touch with them. The younger generation becomes so busy with their lives that they do not keep contact with family who loves them so much.

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willow5 | @willow5 | Jun 8 9:57am

Yes. Must be so hard to be a parent. When I was older (in my mid 50s, I decided to start visiting my parents on Sundays (if not more). And to call weekly. I knew I would NEVER regret visiting, or taking that 20 minute drive to see them. I was not wrong.

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rashida | @rashida | Jun 9 1:23pm
In reply to @willow5 "Gosh, that is really so disappointing and sad. I’m really sorry your daughter is doing that...." + (show)
@willow5

Gosh, that is really so disappointing and sad. I’m really sorry your daughter is doing that. I am not a parent - but the aunt and grandaunt of many. If I didn’t reach out, through texting, my guess is I’d never hear from them. I do try and be the change i want to see - so once in awhile I send out a hello text, or send them a joke or just say “hi I’m thinking of you,” but it doesn’t alleviate the hurt at feeling forgotten about or not counting. I know it’s not personal - it still makes me sad. It’s so wonderful you have very good friends!

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@willow5 “Friends are family you get to choose”.

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retirement75 | @retirement75 | Jun 15 8:19am
In reply to @pml "Ellie: I'm sorry you are finding such disappointment in your "friends." That happens to all of..." + (show)
@pml

Ellie:
I'm sorry you are finding such disappointment in your "friends." That happens to all of us at one point. My husband has lung cancer and we ran into the same thing. What we did was research local taxi's on Yelp for doctor visits, etc. Many of the taxi companies had bad reviews stating drunk or high drivers, dirty cabs etc. So we went one level up to limousines. A little more expensive but very dependable. We found a great company that we use all the time. Clean, beautiful cars and courteous, sober drivers. This is for when you go to the emergency room in the aid car but have to get back home or one is in the hospital and visiting may run into the night time hours etc. Basically we use the limousine service when one of us doesn't feel safe driving. It also works well for getting to the car repair place and not having to wait or the airport.
Best wishes,
PML

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I am s single person and have had my share of E.R. Visits. It’s either ambulance, depending on whether I feel I can drive or take Uber. If you take ambulance there and you’re released, you need Uber to get back home. I don’t like this aspect of being single. I’m at a point of looking at care communities so I wouldn’t have to deal with this by myself.

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